9 weeks left...relief vs panic

jr_lenz · 01-13-2008, 01:03 PM

I only have 9 weeks left before this bundle of joy arrives, and part of me is totally ready, I am getting very uncomfortable. But a bigger part of me is starting to panic.

1. the nursery is anywhere close to being done, we are about 3/4 of the way done in getting the office dismattled and moved to other parts of the house.

2. I am showing more and more signs of having to have this baby early, and I am stressing about Lance not being home. I don't think I can do this without him.

3. The baby is breeched and we have to start planning for a c-section. However we have been giving the option of an elective c-section if the baby turns (because of the complications of Traytons birth) so here are the pro of having a c-section: it is quick & it is schelduled (which my personality loves). so basicly we are looking at friday the 21st we would go in at 8:00 in the morning and be done no later than 10:00 that morning I would have 4 days in the hospital then home. So I should be home on monday night, tues morning. Lance only gets about a week off so I know we would have some good time home together before he leaves. Cons: 4 days in the hospital, longer healing time, and this little fact, I am scared to death of them cuting me open while I am still awake. I know I can't feel it, but the medical part of me knows what is going on and I can't stand the thought of it. I have chosen who will be my c-section team...as far as the doctors, and they told me that they will make it so I can't see the cuts, and that they will give me a "happy drug" before we go in to calm the nerves, and of course they told me that they would general if I wanted...but I don't b/c I want to be awake to hold her. I know this shouldn't freak me out but it really does, I was driving home thinking about it and I had to pull over and throw up b/c I made my self sick thinking about it.

so pros of the v-delevery:
no c-section! 3 days in hospital.

cons: I was induced with Trayton and was in labor for 36 hours! So if we went in on Friday to be induced and it went long we could be looking at Sat or God forbid Sunday, before birth. v-birth has a risk b/c of heart condition. So if the labor goes long or I can't hold up we may be looking at a c-section anyway. I don't want to spend hours in labor just to go to a c-section.

I am so torn with what to do, and I am starting to lose sleep at night thinking about all that I have to get done and what choices to make.

I just looked backed a saw how long this post was...sorry!

Regina · 01-13-2008, 02:07 PM

Oh, Janet, I feel for you. I am sure things will work out...if it were me, I would weigh your medical risks of c-section vs. vaginal birth...either way, you have a beautiful baby girl. If I had any risks of vaginal birth because of a heart condition and the c-section risk was less, I would opt for the c-section.

Is the 3 day in the hospital because of your heart condition? I left after 24 hours, but I know that between 24 and 48 hours is typical for around here (I think all hospital policies might be different).

My sister didn't have any medical issues, but she was in labor about as long as you and then they had to do a c-section. The next, she opted for a planned c-section because she just didn't want to go through the long labor again.

Maybe this is a medical question for your docs, or maybe Dana could give some input to how many intended v-backs actually lead to a c-section....or also, if you were in labor for 36 hours before, what would be the likelihood of having a long labor like that before?

If the v-back risks your health, then I think you have your answer. Good luck.

benandwessmom · 01-13-2008, 05:50 PM

I understand how overwhelming those last few weeks are. Alot of unknowns, I hate that. If you have a c-section at least you would be guaranteed that your DH would be there (mine missed #2) that is important. You can do it by yourself if you have too though. I'm with you, you don't want to be in labor for hours and then have to have a c section anyway.
As far as having the nursery and things ready, your beautiful baby will be just fine without it being just right.

jr_lenz · 01-14-2008, 12:35 AM

Reginia, right now besides the breech issue, my doctors are willing to go either way, if things change, and my health goes down hill really fast then won't be a question they will do a c-section. But right now the choice is up to us. As far as a long labor goes, no telling until the deed is done. This one could be short and sweet, or it could be long and hard.

And its not even so much that we don't have a nursey done, we don't have anything. We gave away the baby stuff years ago! we don't even have a car seat yet! We have one outfit that my mom bought at Christmas. I am having a baby shower in the first part of feb. and I am sure that we will get alot of what we need, but the planner in me is starting to panic. I guess that we were so unsure of things for so long that we waited for the last minute to get things ready!

Regina · 01-14-2008, 06:52 AM

Janet,

They had their baby things...even car seats on sale a week or so ago at Target. If you have one near you, it might be worth checking out...unless it is on your registry for your shower. Just so that you may feel somewhat prepared, maybe you could get just a few of the essentials (your little one's take home outfit, a blanket, small pack of newbie diapers, wipes, etc.). Even if the crib or basinet isn't set up yet, those are things that you can make do with for a little while.

I can understand panicking or having some anxiety with a normal pregnancy, let alone anything else. I think I would still opt for the c-section so he could be home and not have a chance of missing it, especially with your health issues, but that's just me.

I start to panic the last couple of weeks thinking that hubby isn't going to be there. Then, since I normally dilate to at least 6 before labor even starts, I start imagining myself in labor half the time he is home and waking him up to time the braxton hick contractions. I guess my mind starts to play tricks on me.

patty@myflightsurgeon.com · 01-17-2008, 12:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jr_lenz

And its not even so much that we don't have a nursey done, we don't have anything. We gave away the baby stuff years ago!

.

We were in the same boat, 6 years in between kids.
My friend literally gave me a crib the day I went into labor.
We had to stop at the store to buy diapers on the way home from the hospital

.

And guess what? The baby didn't even notice.

You need to think about your health and baby's health right now. All the rest will come soon enough.

My thought and prayers are with you.

scissorhands · 01-17-2008, 07:57 PM

Ok, this is easy for me to say but STOP worrying so much. Don't fret the c-sect. I know the thought is terrifing.....I had one totaly awake and no they won't give you anything for your "head". It is quick and you can do it, you will feel no pain until a few hours after then it gets better day by day. Pro's no cutting down stairs, no hemmroids, no risk of badder issues later and your baby will look so so perfect minus the trama of birth. And just say too posh to push.
Also after you have mentaly and physicaly conquered a c-sect you can do anything and I mean anything. We women are really tough. Good luck and relax. Joy

Imachickadee75 · 01-20-2008, 09:27 AM

Hey there Janet! I'm so excited for you that you're getting so close to holding that baby! I have to agree with Patty, the baby won't notice what you have and don't have so long as you've got Diapers, a few outfits, a blanket or two and most importantly YOU. Baby could be nakie, wrapped up in your robe and be absolutely blissful.

However, with that said, I can also relate to wanting to feel as prepared as possible so that after delivery you and DH don't have to worry about all that. Keep taking deep breaths, and remind yourself its going to be ooooookkkkkkkaaaaayyyyy. LOL

As for the C-sec vs vaginal, for me it would all boil down to your health and safety. As scarey as a C-sec is with the cutting and recovery, refer to my comment above. All baby really needs is YOU. If that is what will keep you safe and able to love that baby that's what I'd do. Obviously from my past posts, I'm very naturally oriented but I feel interventions are there for a reason and you might be that case. If the docs are okay either way, remember you can start out vaginally and opt for the C if it gets too long and drawn out. You can still get some of the hormonal benefits of the vaginal process that way. I can totally relate to the fear of DH missing it and boy was I getting close to caving to induction but I firmly believe that babies will come when your body and the baby are ready and we shouldn't mess with that unless we have to. I feel like rushing things sets both of you up for more interventions then otherwise necessary and other health problems.

I think of you and your family often -I'm so happy for you all that baby has done so well.

Jackie

01-13-2008, 01:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
jr_lenz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Idaho Posts: 862 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	9 weeks left...relief vs panic I only have 9 weeks left before this bundle of joy arrives, and part of me is totally ready, I am getting very uncomfortable. But a bigger part of me is starting to panic. 1. the nursery is anywhere close to being done, we are about 3/4 of the way done in getting the office dismattled and moved to other parts of the house. 2. I am showing more and more signs of having to have this baby early, and I am stressing about Lance not being home. I don't think I can do this without him. 3. The baby is breeched and we have to start planning for a c-section. However we have been giving the option of an elective c-section if the baby turns (because of the complications of Traytons birth) so here are the pro of having a c-section: it is quick & it is schelduled (which my personality loves). so basicly we are looking at friday the 21st we would go in at 8:00 in the morning and be done no later than 10:00 that morning I would have 4 days in the hospital then home. So I should be home on monday night, tues morning. Lance only gets about a week off so I know we would have some good time home together before he leaves. Cons: 4 days in the hospital, longer healing time, and this little fact, I am scared to death of them cuting me open while I am still awake. I know I can't feel it, but the medical part of me knows what is going on and I can't stand the thought of it. I have chosen who will be my c-section team...as far as the doctors, and they told me that they will make it so I can't see the cuts, and that they will give me a "happy drug" before we go in to calm the nerves, and of course they told me that they would general if I wanted...but I don't b/c I want to be awake to hold her. I know this shouldn't freak me out but it really does, I was driving home thinking about it and I had to pull over and throw up b/c I made my self sick thinking about it. so pros of the v-delevery: no c-section! 3 days in hospital. cons: I was induced with Trayton and was in labor for 36 hours! So if we went in on Friday to be induced and it went long we could be looking at Sat or God forbid Sunday, before birth. v-birth has a risk b/c of heart condition. So if the labor goes long or I can't hold up we may be looking at a c-section anyway. I don't want to spend hours in labor just to go to a c-section. I am so torn with what to do, and I am starting to lose sleep at night thinking about all that I have to get done and what choices to make. I just looked backed a saw how long this post was...sorry! __________________ He wasn't sure he wanted a baby sister, but he loved her the moment he saw her.

01-13-2008, 02:07 PM	#2 (permalink)
Regina Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Southern state Posts: 999 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 12 Times in 12 Posts	Re: 9 weeks left...relief vs panic Oh, Janet, I feel for you. I am sure things will work out...if it were me, I would weigh your medical risks of c-section vs. vaginal birth...either way, you have a beautiful baby girl. If I had any risks of vaginal birth because of a heart condition and the c-section risk was less, I would opt for the c-section. Is the 3 day in the hospital because of your heart condition? I left after 24 hours, but I know that between 24 and 48 hours is typical for around here (I think all hospital policies might be different). My sister didn't have any medical issues, but she was in labor about as long as you and then they had to do a c-section. The next, she opted for a planned c-section because she just didn't want to go through the long labor again. Maybe this is a medical question for your docs, or maybe Dana could give some input to how many intended v-backs actually lead to a c-section....or also, if you were in labor for 36 hours before, what would be the likelihood of having a long labor like that before? If the v-back risks your health, then I think you have your answer. Good luck.

01-13-2008, 05:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
benandwessmom Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: lowgap, nc Posts: 24 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: 9 weeks left...relief vs panic I understand how overwhelming those last few weeks are. Alot of unknowns, I hate that. If you have a c-section at least you would be guaranteed that your DH would be there (mine missed #2) that is important. You can do it by yourself if you have too though. I'm with you, you don't want to be in labor for hours and then have to have a c section anyway. As far as having the nursery and things ready, your beautiful baby will be just fine without it being just right.

01-14-2008, 12:35 AM	#4 (permalink)
jr_lenz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Idaho Posts: 862 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: 9 weeks left...relief vs panic Reginia, right now besides the breech issue, my doctors are willing to go either way, if things change, and my health goes down hill really fast then won't be a question they will do a c-section. But right now the choice is up to us. As far as a long labor goes, no telling until the deed is done. This one could be short and sweet, or it could be long and hard. And its not even so much that we don't have a nursey done, we don't have anything. We gave away the baby stuff years ago! we don't even have a car seat yet! We have one outfit that my mom bought at Christmas. I am having a baby shower in the first part of feb. and I am sure that we will get alot of what we need, but the planner in me is starting to panic. I guess that we were so unsure of things for so long that we waited for the last minute to get things ready! __________________ He wasn't sure he wanted a baby sister, but he loved her the moment he saw her.

01-14-2008, 06:52 AM	#5 (permalink)
Regina Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Southern state Posts: 999 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 12 Times in 12 Posts	Re: 9 weeks left...relief vs panic Janet, They had their baby things...even car seats on sale a week or so ago at Target. If you have one near you, it might be worth checking out...unless it is on your registry for your shower. Just so that you may feel somewhat prepared, maybe you could get just a few of the essentials (your little one's take home outfit, a blanket, small pack of newbie diapers, wipes, etc.). Even if the crib or basinet isn't set up yet, those are things that you can make do with for a little while. I can understand panicking or having some anxiety with a normal pregnancy, let alone anything else. I think I would still opt for the c-section so he could be home and not have a chance of missing it, especially with your health issues, but that's just me. I start to panic the last couple of weeks thinking that hubby isn't going to be there. Then, since I normally dilate to at least 6 before labor even starts, I start imagining myself in labor half the time he is home and waking him up to time the braxton hick contractions. I guess my mind starts to play tricks on me.

01-17-2008, 07:57 PM	#7 (permalink)
scissorhands Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: pa Posts: 207 Recipes: Thanks: 1 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Re: 9 weeks left...relief vs panic Ok, this is easy for me to say but STOP worrying so much. Don't fret the c-sect. I know the thought is terrifing.....I had one totaly awake and no they won't give you anything for your "head". It is quick and you can do it, you will feel no pain until a few hours after then it gets better day by day. Pro's no cutting down stairs, no hemmroids, no risk of badder issues later and your baby will look so so perfect minus the trama of birth. And just say too posh to push. Also after you have mentaly and physicaly conquered a c-sect you can do anything and I mean anything. We women are really tough. Good luck and relax. Joy

01-20-2008, 09:27 AM	#8 (permalink)
Imachickadee75 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: oklahoma Posts: 645 Recipes: Thanks: 1 Thanked 14 Times in 6 Posts	Re: 9 weeks left...relief vs panic Hey there Janet! I'm so excited for you that you're getting so close to holding that baby! I have to agree with Patty, the baby won't notice what you have and don't have so long as you've got Diapers, a few outfits, a blanket or two and most importantly YOU. Baby could be nakie, wrapped up in your robe and be absolutely blissful. However, with that said, I can also relate to wanting to feel as prepared as possible so that after delivery you and DH don't have to worry about all that. Keep taking deep breaths, and remind yourself its going to be ooooookkkkkkkaaaaayyyyy. LOL As for the C-sec vs vaginal, for me it would all boil down to your health and safety. As scarey as a C-sec is with the cutting and recovery, refer to my comment above. All baby really needs is YOU. If that is what will keep you safe and able to love that baby that's what I'd do. Obviously from my past posts, I'm very naturally oriented but I feel interventions are there for a reason and you might be that case. If the docs are okay either way, remember you can start out vaginally and opt for the C if it gets too long and drawn out. You can still get some of the hormonal benefits of the vaginal process that way. I can totally relate to the fear of DH missing it and boy was I getting close to caving to induction but I firmly believe that babies will come when your body and the baby are ready and we shouldn't mess with that unless we have to. I feel like rushing things sets both of you up for more interventions then otherwise necessary and other health problems. I think of you and your family often -I'm so happy for you all that baby has done so well. Jackie __________________ Welcoming baby #3 this spring! Last edited by Imachickadee75; 01-20-2008 at 09:38 AM.

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