Anyone else feel this way?

biochemtine · 01-31-2006, 04:33 PM

I don't mean to be "woe is me" kinda person, but I just gotta vent here.

I'm a member of another message board and the women on there all day long say, "I wish DH would come home. I'm so lonely without him. I miss him so much. I don't know what to do without him home with me....."

These women are almost all stay at home moms or housewives who's husbands have normal 8-5 jobs. They see their spouses every single night.

Don't you ever want to say, "SHUT UP!!!! I see my husband 2-3 days/week tops and have no clue what his schedule will be like next month or if we'll even be together on Christmas!!!!!"

Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that they love their spouses so much and miss them and love being with them, but good grief. Stop the pity party and live your life already.

OK. That's out of my system now. I feel better. On that note, DH and I had 4 days together and I wanted to kill him by the end of the day yesterday. I loved being home with him, but I was getting used to my alone time during the week and it was a little too much DH. 3 days seems to be perfect for us in this stage of our marriage.

Bigsweetie · 01-31-2006, 08:05 PM

Whenever I feel myself wanting to say that to some woman I remind myself of all the military wives who would probably look at us and say "SHUT UP!! You get to see your DH 2-3 days/week. I don't get to see mine til next year!!!" And they're getting shot at.

We don't have it any worse than people who have DH's that are traveling salesman, truck drivers, corporate exec's who travel frequently for work, etc. There are many women in this country who "live their own lives", it's not just us.

But I know what you mean. It always seems that people are never happy no matter what they're situation. There are times when I feel sorry for myself too. Then I snap out of it and thank God that DH has a job at all. And especially one that allows me to be home with Em.

MQAAord · 01-31-2006, 09:17 PM

Bill was off for 3 months with a medical issue about a year and a half ago.

OMG I thought I was going to strangle him. I wanted him out of the house so bad! Love the guy, but GO TO WORK dammit!

As for the ladies who pine away for their dh's all day when he comes home everynight, how pathetic. I have pity for them that they have nothing better to do all day than sit around and wish for their man to be home.

Blah. Clean something! Cook something! Take the kids and go somewhere! Write a letter! Make a phone call!

LBunny · 01-31-2006, 09:35 PM

Not to stereotype, but those are the women who are clingy and can only describe themselves in terms of their husbands.

Kristie · 02-01-2006, 12:45 AM

quite true and I totally agree Christine!! whenever I hear that, i just wanna smack her and say "good gawd woman, get a life already! we have the right to vote, the right to work, the right to make a decision..now go out there and grab it by the balls and do something for yourself" hahaha

I also have to agree with Tanya in that the military wives have it SO much harder than us that when i get all weepy with thinking about dh going back to training for 6 weeks - I shrug out of it and repeat to myself that it could be worse - he could be air force!!

biochemtine · 02-01-2006, 11:11 AM

Oh totally. My good friend's husband was a marine the first 4 years of their marriage, so she feels for me, but at the same time she had it worse.

I just wanted to make sure it wasn't just me.

01-31-2006, 04:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
biochemtine Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: San Francisco Bay Area Posts: 630 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Anyone else feel this way? I don't mean to be "woe is me" kinda person, but I just gotta vent here. I'm a member of another message board and the women on there all day long say, "I wish DH would come home. I'm so lonely without him. I miss him so much. I don't know what to do without him home with me....." These women are almost all stay at home moms or housewives who's husbands have normal 8-5 jobs. They see their spouses every single night. Don't you ever want to say, "SHUT UP!!!! I see my husband 2-3 days/week tops and have no clue what his schedule will be like next month or if we'll even be together on Christmas!!!!!" Don't get me wrong, I think it's great that they love their spouses so much and miss them and love being with them, but good grief. Stop the pity party and live your life already. OK. That's out of my system now. I feel better. On that note, DH and I had 4 days together and I wanted to kill him by the end of the day yesterday. I loved being home with him, but I was getting used to my alone time during the week and it was a little too much DH. 3 days seems to be perfect for us in this stage of our marriage.

01-31-2006, 08:05 PM	#2 (permalink)
Bigsweetie Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Clinton Township, Michigan Posts: 1,567 Recipes: Thanks: 8 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: Anyone else feel this way? Whenever I feel myself wanting to say that to some woman I remind myself of all the military wives who would probably look at us and say "SHUT UP!! You get to see your DH 2-3 days/week. I don't get to see mine til next year!!!" And they're getting shot at. We don't have it any worse than people who have DH's that are traveling salesman, truck drivers, corporate exec's who travel frequently for work, etc. There are many women in this country who "live their own lives", it's not just us. But I know what you mean. It always seems that people are never happy no matter what they're situation. There are times when I feel sorry for myself too. Then I snap out of it and thank God that DH has a job at all. And especially one that allows me to be home with Em.

01-31-2006, 09:17 PM	#3 (permalink)
MQAAord Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: A Happy Place Posts: 668 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: Anyone else feel this way? Bill was off for 3 months with a medical issue about a year and a half ago. OMG I thought I was going to strangle him. I wanted him out of the house so bad! Love the guy, but GO TO WORK dammit! As for the ladies who pine away for their dh's all day when he comes home everynight, how pathetic. I have pity for them that they have nothing better to do all day than sit around and wish for their man to be home. Blah. Clean something! Cook something! Take the kids and go somewhere! Write a letter! Make a phone call!

01-31-2006, 09:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
LBunny Jetgirls Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 26 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: Anyone else feel this way? Not to stereotype, but those are the women who are clingy and can only describe themselves in terms of their husbands.

02-01-2006, 12:45 AM	#5 (permalink)
Kristie Admin/Owner Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 6,660 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 17 Times in 17 Posts	Re: Anyone else feel this way? quite true and I totally agree Christine!! whenever I hear that, i just wanna smack her and say "good gawd woman, get a life already! we have the right to vote, the right to work, the right to make a decision..now go out there and grab it by the balls and do something for yourself" hahaha I also have to agree with Tanya in that the military wives have it SO much harder than us that when i get all weepy with thinking about dh going back to training for 6 weeks - I shrug out of it and repeat to myself that it could be worse - he could be air force!! __________________ www.jetcareers.com

02-01-2006, 11:11 AM	#6 (permalink)
biochemtine Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: San Francisco Bay Area Posts: 630 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: Anyone else feel this way? Oh totally. My good friend's husband was a marine the first 4 years of their marriage, so she feels for me, but at the same time she had it worse. I just wanted to make sure it wasn't just me.

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