Ever feel like you never see DH?

[Kristie]

So, I'm feeling like I never see my husband anymore...granted, we might be in the same room together like this weekend but for all intensive purposes, it was like we didn't get to spend any time together because my dad decided to come visit at the last minute.

so we're talking on the phone today (he started his trip yesterday) and we're both feeling as though we never see each other, never take time out for each other and that type of thing...we can be sitting on the couch next to eachother working on website stuff and yet still feel like we're not "seeing" each other.

just strange how that comes about! [img]images/graemlins/speechless-smiley-017.gif[/img] [img]images/graemlins/sad2.gif[/img]

[Brenda]

Oh Kristie! I am so sorry to hear that. Eric and I feel that way to sometimes especially since the boys take up all our time. Suggestion. No matter how much you have to do...One of the days Doug is home, plan at least 1 day together, or plan to go to bed a bit early so that you can spend some quality time. We rub feet in bed or you know.. [img]images/graemlins/grinning-smiley-044.gif[/img]

[Kristie]

Eh, don't feel sorry... it's not really a vent or "woa is me" type of post.. actually, you did what i was looking for and that's giving me suggestions on better ways of "keeping in touch" and taking quality time while at home!

every now and then, you feel like you get into this nitch of "getting everything else done & then spend time together" and we do take quality time, it just doesn't seem to be enough with all that's going on around us.

[JetCaptainsWife]

Kristie, we know exactly just how you feel. Just because DH & I are in the same room together doesn't mean we are spending "quality time" with each other. Recently, it seems like when he is home we are so busy running errands, working on the house, etc. that it was really getting stressful. We have agreed that no matter what else is going on or needs our attention, we would commit some time for each other. No computers, no TV, no phone, etc. Even if it just means we sit on the back deck for 30 minutes, share a glass of wine, and finally "talk", or get up 15 minutes earlier in the morning to "share" our coffee together instead of running right out the door with a to-go mug. We have gotten so used to text messaging if we are both at work and leaving notes for one another as we pass through the house, that even a few minutes of quality time really helps refresh things and lets us stay a lot more connected. Those brief moments make all the rest of the chaos a little more bearable. It doesn't take a lot of time or money, just the effort to be focused on each other for a short time. THEN he can commence PFSing.... [img]images/graemlins/grinning-smiley-044.gif[/img]

[skibum515]

Because John and I have barely gotten to see eachother the past 4 months, we really try to make the time together quality. Usually that involves us ignoring pretty much everything else and spending the day cuddling and talking in bed. Sometimes it's nice to just "be" with him you know? not necissarily saying anything.

[Kristie]

awwwww... that's so CUTE! young wuv! [img]images/graemlins/grinning-smiley-044.gif[/img] [img]images/graemlins/kissy_kissy.gif[/img]

your right...sometimes just "being there not talking" is so much better than this...[img]images/graemlins/neckin.gif[/img] or this... [img]images/graemlins/sport30.gif[/img]

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[tonia]

I am so worried about the future when dh gets a real job with the airlines and is gone all the time. It is going to be a huge adjustment for me. It is nice to be able to read all of your suggestions and prepare for a few years down the road.

[jakenash]

I know Tonia, I feel the same way!!!! It's good to find out now what is in store for the future...I am glad I have found this site