DH gone for New Year's Eve?

[msa060504]

Hi There,

I hope you all have had a wonderful holiday season. My DH and I were fortunate enough to be able to spend Christmas together. It was our first married Christmas (got married in June) so we were excited. Also, it was the first Christmas his schedule EVER worked out for us to spend it together. Unfortunately, he will be gone for New Year's. He left today and doesn't get back until Sunday. Just wondering who else was out there wouldn't be with their loved one for the celebration and wondered if you had any creative ideas for how to celebrate [img]images/graemlins/23.gif[/img] when he arrived home! Thanks for the tips. This just isn't an easy time of year to have him out of town and focusing on how to celebrate upon his arrival home keeps me distracted from crying! [img]images/graemlins/17.gif[/img]

[MQAAord]

New Year's?

DH will be ringing in the New Year in PHL. I'm not planning on staying up. My little guy doesn't care if it's a new year, he still wants his breakfast at 7am!

[Amanda]

Yup- Nick will be in New Mexico on 12/31 (in bed sleeping at midnight!) and then flying in to see me on 1/1. I was lucky since he was here on Christmas through today. The last 2 Christmases he was in Philly with his family. He wasn't with me last New year's eve, but the year before.
I'm still debating if I want to go out on new year's eve. Who will I kiss at midnight? (just kidding!)

I don't know if I'm used to his crazy schedule or what, but I don't get upset when he misses holidays or birthdays... that's the way it is. We spend a lot of "quality time" together when he's home, so I don't think we'll do anything "special" to celebrate 2005 when he flies in. I think we're going out to dinner that weekend... have a few drinks...& enjoy each other's company.

Sorry I'm not much help! I say go out and have fun when he gets back! [img]images/graemlins/0712.gif[/img]

[Kristie]

DH is actually home for new years this year! we've spent at least the last 10 years celebrating new years either before or after the new year... but we'd at least call eachother at midnight (depending if he had an early pickup or not).

Usually what we'll do is do something extra special dinner wise because we all know that when you actually go out to eat on new years eve - it costs 3 times as much! so we'll hit the melting pot or something slightly fancy to celebrate after the fact cuz the prices will be just right and some of the restaurants will typically have some sort of deal going on.

but other than that.. we've never really made any of the holidays any "big" deal just because it gets so sticky when DH has to miss one of them. the only one that i probably go all out for is a birthday celebration cuz it doesn't matter what day it's celebrated on, it's still reverred as a "special" day and not "a special day, the day after"....

I dunno if this helps at all, but just enjoy the time when he gets home and make sure you go out yourself and have some fun!
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[roz]

Amber, he can join us in PHL!

[msa060504]

Thanks for the suggestions. Like Amanda said, I don't know if I'm used to this schedule either! It definately has its benefits, but it is hard to be away from one another for such long periods of time. Like you said, as long as you have some "quality time" when he is in town it definately makes up for it. Sometimes it is hard though, because we spend so much time together when he's in town, so when he leaves it's sometimes extra disappointing. Does anyone else experience this form of "separation anxiety? [img]images/graemlins/24.gif[/img] " Despite these feelings, I don't get too disappointed about not spending the "actual" date of holidays together, you're right, it's just the way it is. We always say it is more romantic to be celebrating the holiday (Christmas, Valentine's etc.) when no one else is! I hope you all have a great New Year's! [img]images/graemlins/2248.gif[/img] Have fun Kristie with your DH home!

[Chi829]

Hi Meredith! I can SOOOO reltate. I apologize for not introducing myself to all of you first. I am BRAND new to all of this.... I will introduce my self the right way as soon as possible. I saw Meredith's post and wanted to let you knwo that I soooo feel your pain right now. This site has been so great in letting me know that I am not alone. My DH is a new hire with Delta Connection based in ATL and although he is home right now, next month he starts his first official month of reserve. I'm a bit anxious and too have shed many a tear recently..... It's so nice to know that this support group is here and you all seem like a GREAT group of women.... If any one you have any advice for someone brand new at this lifestyle, please share. I will try to get on tonight and officially introduce myslef in the right place.... looking forward to the next time.... Jo

[Amanda]

I guess I adjusted fairly quickly. I met Nick when he had a fairly normal sched and was flight instructing. After he was hired to a regional I saw him maybe 3 days a month [img]images/graemlins/frown.gif[/img]

After 6 months or so he moved to a closer base and now I see him 2-3 days a week. Once I "got over the hump" (got used to the crazy/crappy schedule)I've been fine. Sure I get disappointed when he has to miss a special occasion, holiday, etc, but there are worse things. Nick always brings up military wives and how they sometimes don't see their men for over a year. [img]images/graemlins/24.gif[/img]

As I mentioned in a previous post, make sure you spend a lot of quality time when you're together- go on "dates"! We also communicate a lot throughout the day when he's not here- phone calls, text messages, email, etc. Kristie has a camera phone which is awesome (but I haven't invested in one yet). I'll tell you one thing, this life isn't easy! What makes this easier is knowing how passionate Nick is about flying (most pilots are nuts about it). This is his dream to fly and I'll stick by him. Hopefully at some point he'll be with a great company and will have a good sched!

One other thing- one of my Christmas gifts from him was a small (2x2)picture frame with a voice recorder in it (from Radio Shack). Nick recorded some sweet things for me and I play it when he isn't here. I love it! [img]images/graemlins/5.gif[/img]

[Chi829]

Amanda, is Nick on reserve? Does he commute? How long have you two been doing this?

[Amanda]

Hi Jo-
I'm going to answer this on your "new to board" post so this thread can stick w/ New year's [img]images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]