Staying Connected

[Mrs.Alchemist]

Originally Posted by stellaandcorasmommy

we just have to be willing to compromise a bit and not get offended!

Fo' sho'

[pilotwife3]

Originally Posted by AnnaRose

I sometimes look forward to having some kids and being too busy to even think about such small things I bet i'll be shaking my head one day thinking about that statement! LOL

Oh yes you will!

[ccbegay]

I have a tendancy to 'read' into things way too much...

The first round of training I saw BF every weekend so it was like he really wasn't gone...

This second round I have not seen him since march 3! and so really everything counts...at first I would call him, text, email, and never hear a responce for hours, even though I knew what he was doing and couldn't really respond...so I have just told him, call me when you have the chance to sit...which, for me has a made a huge difference because I don't feel like we are being rushed to fit an entire day in a 1 minute phone call...we share a phone plane and luckily, with the iPhone everything is really at your fingertips...I like to flood his email with odd and end pictures of my day, and mostly of the house, Kenzie, and cats, and for him that really works...

For us, anything works, because it lets you know that the other person is thinking about the other!

[staplegun]

Ladies, Ladies, you are way overthinking this!

Men are very simple creatures, especially pilots!


Checklist:

Step 1: Block in, secure aircraft.

Step 2: Check in at home - "Hi, i'm on my way to _______ (fill in the blank), how's everything at home???

Love ya, Bye!"



It really is that simple...


If you have something you have to talk about, say so; otherwise the fact that we're "checking-the-block" also means "We-Love-You!!!"




Kevin

[skyblupink]

Originally Posted by pilotwife3

So here's a question...

My DH has been on the road for 6 days now. Nothing out of the ordinary except that after his 4 day trip to China he had an ART meeting in Toronto (ie he's not coming home) then 1/2 day off then off to Paris tonight. Okay, so we moved away from base to have a better life and all of that good stuff. Only been a couple of times where he's had to lay over in TO instead of coming directly home...

So here's the question..why is it that when he has these extra layovers my only contact with him is on the drive from the rental car to the friends he's staying with. Normally when he's on layover we text message (cheaper for us) I have no problem with this normally, I mean as soon as he got the rental car he was on the phone with me. But the next day after ART he called me again from the car. Not when he got to where he was staying but during the rush hour traffic in Toronto.

I told him I was going to get a complex from this. Call the wife and get it over with and move on to better things. I know that's not what he means but crap the last couple of times this has happened it's started to give me a complex.....We're both busy and it's hard to stay connected when he's away...........but sheesh.............I just want to talk about non important things ( ie read I want to hear your voice you idiot!!!)

Does anyone else feel this way sometimes? I have to admit that I'm tempted on occasion to NOT pick up the phone when I KNOW he's on his way to where he's staying or back to the airport. I've mentioned it to him before but I think I'm hitting a brick wall. The away life is different from the home life. I don't want to seem like a nagging Nellie but where the hell has all the romance gone??????

Oh, and by the way, we just got another 6 inches of snow this morning.....I am not a happy camper. And I think I'm pms..ing. Just great! (How come there's no chocolate gorging Smile?)

Thank you ladies .. you've made me feel pretty darned blessed to have the husband I have. Not only does he text me when he lands n the base from his commute, he then calls once he's off the plane and we often talk (despite terminal noise) for upwards of 30 minutes. Because he's usually commuting in for a late night departure, he goes to the pilot lounge to catch some zzz's and there's no cell reception down there. But once he's rested, and before he's due in the weather room, he's back on the phone with me. Our cell service gives us ulimited minutes between the 2 of us, and he again calls before push.

Once he lands at his destination (Asia, Europe, the Middle East, India) he'll text me his hotel room number and it's MY turn to call using SKYPE. We've been Skype users nearly 5 yrs now; it's free to download and the calls to landlines are outrageously low. Even better, if hubby has internet service at the crew hotel, we can Skype from my computer to his for FREE.

When he's in-country we generally talk on Skype twice a day and shoot a few "Love U" texts back and forth. After reading what some pilots' wives go through, I feel doubly blessed to be married to such a sensitive and caring man.

Check out Skype.com if you're interested in cheap and free calls!

Skyblupink
wife of CO 777 FO

[SeatClutcher]

Originally Posted by skyblupink

After reading what some pilots' wives go through, I feel doubly blessed to be married to such a sensitive and caring man.

Check out Skype.com if you're interested in cheap and free calls!

Skyblupink
wife of CO 777 FO

The more I hear about Skype the better it sounds. Might have to look into it someday.

The contact you and your husband keep sounds great! What I hope is that others don't misread your post (as if it's suggesting that less contact from someone who's gone means there's less caring or sensitivity). True, there probably ARE spouses (men and women both) who aren't generally caring or sensitive people, but there's probably only a minor correlation between someone's sensitivity level and the number of phone calls they make.

(could be they have nothing to say, or they hate talking on the phone, or they're enjoying missing and thinking about someone and looking forward to seeing them when they get home, for example)

Just a thought. Again, I don't think that's what you're saying, but someone whose husband is gone might easily misread it.

K

[pilotwife3]

Originally Posted by skyblupink

Thank you ladies .. you've made me feel pretty darned blessed to have the husband I have. Not only does he text me when he lands n the base from his commute, he then calls once he's off the plane and we often talk (despite terminal noise) for upwards of 30 minutes. Because he's usually commuting in for a late night departure, he goes to the pilot lounge to catch some zzz's and there's no cell reception down there. But once he's rested, and before he's due in the weather room, he's back on the phone with me. Our cell service gives us ulimited minutes between the 2 of us, and he again calls before push.

Once he lands at his destination (Asia, Europe, the Middle East, India) he'll text me his hotel room number and it's MY turn to call using SKYPE. We've been Skype users nearly 5 yrs now; it's free to download and the calls to landlines are outrageously low. Even better, if hubby has internet service at the crew hotel, we can Skype from my computer to his for FREE.

When he's in-country we generally talk on Skype twice a day and shoot a few "Love U" texts back and forth. After reading what some pilots' wives go through, I feel doubly blessed to be married to such a sensitive and caring man.

Check out Skype.com if you're interested in cheap and free calls!

Skyblupink
wife of CO 777 FO

Ouch!!

Well he's arriving in TO from HKG tonite and staying over again because he has SIM Sunday through Tuesday....will keep you posted on whether I receive another travelling phone call

[pilotwife3]

Whoo-hoo! I think I may be getting somewhere! I actually got a real live phone call from a land line....we spoke for over 30 minutes. Not bad, since he'd been up for over 24 hours.

[AnnaRose]

Awesome!

[Amanda]

I think some guys are "phone guys" and some aren't! If you're with a man who doesn't like to be on the phone then you have to accept that he may not change. Or maybe he will someday!

We have unlimited text and picture messages so sometimes we don't talk every day (when he's out of the country) but we always stay in touch somehow.