Hubby thinks home is another hotel

katbuad · 03-14-2008, 01:16 PM

Grrr! I am going to gripe.

For six months, I didn't work. I had the time and didn't mind doing the extra steps to keep a really clean house. I liked that the house was spic and span when hubby came home that way we didn't waste our "together time" doing chores.

Now I am back to work. I don't have as much time to clean. Right now hubby is off for eight days. He has done basically nothing!! And he doesn't even notice that things need to be done. For example, Wed is our trash pick up day. Tues I asked him to take out the trash. Well he emptied all the inside trash cans and took them outside, but he didn't take the can to the end of the driveway. The nightlight in our overhead bathroom light blew the other day. He even commented on it. But has the light been changed? NO! Dog fur is about to overtake our living room rug. Am I the only one that knows where the vacumn is and how to operate it?

He has been spoiled. At least he knows it. He made the comment the other day that he missed when I was at home all the time. I know it is going to take a million years to break him of this laziness that he learned in 6 months!!

Mrs.Alchemist · 03-15-2008, 03:14 AM

Yeah... Major bummer! I think that guys tend to tune out nagging, so if you can find some other way...??? I read that you should treat them like dogs and reward positive behavior and ignore the negative... Problem is that if he's really not pitching in AT ALL.... I don't see how that would work... I guess you just have to try to talk to him, to see if you can make him understand. GOOD LUCK!!!

SeatClutcher · 03-15-2008, 05:50 AM

You could also say, "Hey. You're not holding your own. I'm working, you're home. Do something."

About treating men like dogs...

...I dunno. I think it could be said that ALL people react better to positive feedback than to negative. It's kind of weird when men are compared to dogs or children. I like to think the sex I'm attracted to is more intelligent and complex than a baby or an animal.

jr_lenz · 03-15-2008, 10:09 PM

Lance told me once that he cleaned the bathroom for me...WTH *for me*???? We had a little talk about that if I stayed home, then I would consider the house my job, but since we both worked full time then the house was both our part time job, and no part of cleaning was "for me" it was for the family/house

I really can't complain thought he is really good about cleaning. doing the other little things like light bulbs, or the gutters I do need to ask for or leave a list. I have been wanting to start the spring yard cleanup and he hasn't been that motiavated. so I headed out with my big 9 month pg belly and started raking. It didn't take him to long to get on board. I think he was scared that the neighbors might see!

Mrs.Alchemist · 03-16-2008, 11:52 PM

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Originally Posted by SeatClutcher

I like to think the sex I'm attracted to is more intelligent and complex than a baby or an animal.

I agree 100% ...I read it in a magazine, and I thought it was kind of offensive...

ccbegay · 03-22-2008, 08:57 AM

Oooh, that is tough...I just flat out ask him well I let him know, "I need help!" Sometimes, in our case, I think he gets the notion that because I don't have a money makin job that that the house is my responsibility, which, I do pull a lot around, because I'm usually the only one home, but in those cases, I just let him know and set him straight...good luck!

03-14-2008, 01:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
katbuad Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Nashville, TN USA Posts: 698 Recipes: Thanks: 9 Thanked 13 Times in 13 Posts	Hubby thinks home is another hotel Grrr! I am going to gripe. For six months, I didn't work. I had the time and didn't mind doing the extra steps to keep a really clean house. I liked that the house was spic and span when hubby came home that way we didn't waste our "together time" doing chores. Now I am back to work. I don't have as much time to clean. Right now hubby is off for eight days. He has done basically nothing!! And he doesn't even notice that things need to be done. For example, Wed is our trash pick up day. Tues I asked him to take out the trash. Well he emptied all the inside trash cans and took them outside, but he didn't take the can to the end of the driveway. The nightlight in our overhead bathroom light blew the other day. He even commented on it. But has the light been changed? NO! Dog fur is about to overtake our living room rug. Am I the only one that knows where the vacumn is and how to operate it? He has been spoiled. At least he knows it. He made the comment the other day that he missed when I was at home all the time. I know it is going to take a million years to break him of this laziness that he learned in 6 months!!

03-15-2008, 03:14 AM	#2 (permalink)
Mrs.Alchemist Jetgirls Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Anaheim Posts: 453 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 4 Posts	Re: Hubby thinks home is another hotel Yeah... Major bummer! I think that guys tend to tune out nagging, so if you can find some other way...??? I read that you should treat them like dogs and reward positive behavior and ignore the negative... Problem is that if he's really not pitching in AT ALL.... I don't see how that would work... I guess you just have to try to talk to him, to see if you can make him understand. GOOD LUCK!!! __________________ Mrs. Alchemist AKA Sarah http://www.myspace.com/sarah_and_lola

03-15-2008, 05:50 AM	#3 (permalink)
SeatClutcher Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Manchester, CT Posts: 918 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: Hubby thinks home is another hotel You could also say, "Hey. You're not holding your own. I'm working, you're home. Do something." About treating men like dogs......I dunno. I think it could be said that ALL people react better to positive feedback than to negative. It's kind of weird when men are compared to dogs or children. I like to think the sex I'm attracted to is more intelligent and complex than a baby or an animal. __________________ Blog: Words about stuff "Freedom of choice isn't the same thing as being pro-choice." - said by a voter at the RNC

03-15-2008, 10:09 PM	#4 (permalink)
jr_lenz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Idaho Posts: 869 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: Hubby thinks home is another hotel Lance told me once that he cleaned the bathroom for me...WTH for me???? We had a little talk about that if I stayed home, then I would consider the house my job, but since we both worked full time then the house was both our part time job, and no part of cleaning was "for me" it was for the family/house I really can't complain thought he is really good about cleaning. doing the other little things like light bulbs, or the gutters I do need to ask for or leave a list. I have been wanting to start the spring yard cleanup and he hasn't been that motiavated. so I headed out with my big 9 month pg belly and started raking. It didn't take him to long to get on board. I think he was scared that the neighbors might see! __________________ He wasn't sure he wanted a baby sister, but he loved her the moment he saw her.

03-22-2008, 08:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
ccbegay Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Concord, NC Posts: 1,661 Recipes: Thanks: 5 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	Re: Hubby thinks home is another hotel Oooh, that is tough...I just flat out ask him well I let him know, "I need help!" Sometimes, in our case, I think he gets the notion that because I don't have a money makin job that that the house is my responsibility, which, I do pull a lot around, because I'm usually the only one home, but in those cases, I just let him know and set him straight...good luck! __________________ <-------Halloween fun for LadyBug Kenzie... ~Great Love and Great Achievements involves Great Risks~ CASSIE

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