Don't like hubby's CAP/friend - Page 4

jr_lenz · 10-31-2007, 10:24 AM

the thing that bothers me about that guy on tv and the CA that Lance flew with, and anyothers like them, is why do they talk about it, the CA that Lance had was pretty much bragging about his trists. What happened to keeping dirty laundry in the closet! Why would you want people to know this about you. Lance's question to this guy was "why are you married" "why not be single". I guess I am pretty dissopointed with the the value that some people have of marriage/relationships.

I think it was Regina that said that haing kids seem to ground guys, and I think this is true. However, when Lance and I got together he was older and had had partied pretty hard and had 7 years of guy time, so he knew that he wanted something different, and settled right away, (a little to quick for me back then but thats a different story). However I have a good GF that has been dating a guy for 2 yrs and he still is in the "I need to do what I want" stage. I have a hard time understanding why she keeps her self in a relationship that doesn't meet her needs, but again another therd.

SO back to the point...maybe its time to have the "where are we talk" if he is ready to make you number 1, or still needs to sew a few oats, you need to understand that and make some decisons. It not a bad thing if he is still in that mind set, it just his place in time, but you can't force someone to be fully relationship commented if they aren't ready. It will come back to bite you hard. If he is behind you in the commentment area you can wait for him to catch up, but you are going to have to change your expections, or you can move on.

hope that wasn't to confusing.

lucky81698 · 10-31-2007, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by jr_lenz

the thing that bothers me about that guy on tv and the CA that Lance flew with, and anyothers like them, is why do they talk about it, the CA that Lance had was pretty much bragging about his trists. What happened to keeping dirty laundry in the closet! Why would you want people to know this about you. Lance's question to this guy was "why are you married" "why not be single". I guess I am pretty dissopointed with the the value that some people have of marriage/relationships.

I think some people really believe that others will be impressed with stories like this, that is why they tell them.

flyershoe · 10-31-2007, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by lucky81698

I think some people really believe that others will be impressed with stories like this, that is why they tell them.

I wonder about that too! Maybe some guys think those are good stories? BF gets a kick out of them sometimes, and then of course tells me. But it's more of a "Wow, you would get a kick out of this guy - he was nuts!" or "oooh, you would've HATED our FA!" Of course the stories that I REALLY like to hear about are stories about the happily married CA's and how much they love their wife and kids.

Those are 2/3 of the stories, fortunately. All of the CA's I've met have been great, including 2 female CA's.

So... katbuad, who does your DH fly for that he's always with this CA?

jr_lenz · 10-31-2007, 10:39 AM

Regina,
on a personnel note, from your posts I get the fact that you and your family are very driven by your beliefs. I don't think I would call it a holy than thou attitude, but you guys set a very strict standard for you and your family. You do end up taking a lot of heat but you stick to your guns, and you don't stop posting and I think that is pretty brave. I agree with a lot that you have to say, it works for you, i agree, however it doesn't work for us, but who cares right...your house is yours, and mine is mine. I like the differnt views, and I get a little insight out of all them.

once again I don't know the real point of this post, just in a rambling mood today!

flyershoe · 10-31-2007, 10:56 AM

Regina, like Jr and katherine have both said, I don't always agree with your views, but I like to hear what you have to say.

You're always consistent and stick by your beliefs - I can't always say the same thing about that myself, so I really respect you for that.

SeatClutcher · 10-31-2007, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Mistress Trista

For me 'hook up' means just getting together, not that they slept together. I say, I hooked up with so and so all the time, it's just another word for 'got together with' around the area where we live. Maybe it's just a regional thing?

Certain words mean different things in different parts of the country?

No, I think it's a trend thing.

"Hook up" means the same thing to me as it does to you, and frankly, I'm annoyed that the slang-creators of the time have turned it into meaning "have sex."

flyershoe · 10-31-2007, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by SeatClutcher

No, I think it's a trend thing.

"Hook up" means the same thing to me as it does to you, and frankly, I'm annoyed that the slang-creators of the time have turned it into meaning "have sex."

LOL!

I've heard it used both ways, and my friends also use it both ways.

But sometimes "hooking up" can mean sex, sometimes it means making out (or kissing, wow I feel like I'm in HS!), then of course there is 'hey, hope we can hook up this weekend and do some shopping!'

SeatClutcher · 10-31-2007, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by flyershoe

LOL!

I've heard it used both ways, and my friends also use it both ways.

But sometimes "hooking up" can mean sex, sometimes it means making out (or kissing, wow I feel like I'm in HS!), then of course there is 'hey, hope we can hook up this weekend and do some shopping!'

As long as I can still say "hooked up with someone this weekend" and have it mean nothing more than "hung out," it's all good.

flyershoe · 10-31-2007, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by SeatClutcher

As long as I can still say "hooked up with someone this weekend" and have it mean nothing more than "hung out," it's all good.

As long as I can hook up with my girlfriends and go get some shoes!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SMF2Eb0Wa_I

Kristie · 10-31-2007, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by lucky81698

I think some people really believe that others will be impressed with stories like this, that is why they tell them.

a lot of times, its all about "the big man on campus"....

10-31-2007, 10:24 AM	#31 (permalink)
jr_lenz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Idaho Posts: 868 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: Don't like hubby's CAP/friend the thing that bothers me about that guy on tv and the CA that Lance flew with, and anyothers like them, is why do they talk about it, the CA that Lance had was pretty much bragging about his trists. What happened to keeping dirty laundry in the closet! Why would you want people to know this about you. Lance's question to this guy was "why are you married" "why not be single". I guess I am pretty dissopointed with the the value that some people have of marriage/relationships. I think it was Regina that said that haing kids seem to ground guys, and I think this is true. However, when Lance and I got together he was older and had had partied pretty hard and had 7 years of guy time, so he knew that he wanted something different, and settled right away, (a little to quick for me back then but thats a different story). However I have a good GF that has been dating a guy for 2 yrs and he still is in the "I need to do what I want" stage. I have a hard time understanding why she keeps her self in a relationship that doesn't meet her needs, but again another therd. SO back to the point...maybe its time to have the "where are we talk" if he is ready to make you number 1, or still needs to sew a few oats, you need to understand that and make some decisons. It not a bad thing if he is still in that mind set, it just his place in time, but you can't force someone to be fully relationship commented if they aren't ready. It will come back to bite you hard. If he is behind you in the commentment area you can wait for him to catch up, but you are going to have to change your expections, or you can move on. hope that wasn't to confusing. __________________ He wasn't sure he wanted a baby sister, but he loved her the moment he saw her.

10-31-2007, 10:39 AM	#34 (permalink)
jr_lenz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Idaho Posts: 868 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: Don't like hubby's CAP/friend Regina, on a personnel note, from your posts I get the fact that you and your family are very driven by your beliefs. I don't think I would call it a holy than thou attitude, but you guys set a very strict standard for you and your family. You do end up taking a lot of heat but you stick to your guns, and you don't stop posting and I think that is pretty brave. I agree with a lot that you have to say, it works for you, i agree, however it doesn't work for us, but who cares right...your house is yours, and mine is mine. I like the differnt views, and I get a little insight out of all them. once again I don't know the real point of this post, just in a rambling mood today! __________________ He wasn't sure he wanted a baby sister, but he loved her the moment he saw her.

10-31-2007, 10:56 AM	#35 (permalink)
flyershoe Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Odenton, MD Posts: 822 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: Don't like hubby's CAP/friend Regina, like Jr and katherine have both said, I don't always agree with your views, but I like to hear what you have to say. You're always consistent and stick by your beliefs - I can't always say the same thing about that myself, so I really respect you for that. __________________ Lauren's 101 in 1001 Lauren's Myspace Page

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