Don't like hubby's CAP/friend

[pilotwife3]

Originally Posted by Kristie

a lot of times, its all about "the big man on campus"....

And, it really is all 'bout trust. If you don't have that in your relationship it's time for some deep soul searching. These guys experience and see so much more than the average bear. If they're gonna do something when they're away, there isn't a whole lot you can do about it. Hopefully they all come 'clean' and tell you what's going on in their worlds. Our job is to let them have a safety zone to express all the garbage they come across. No judgement - no foul...Just my opinion

[SeatClutcher]

Originally Posted by pilotwife3

And, it really is all 'bout trust. If you don't have that in your relationship it's time for some deep soul searching. These guys experience and see so much more than the average bear. If they're gonna do something when they're away, there isn't a whole lot you can do about it. Hopefully they all come 'clean' and tell you what's going on in their worlds. Our job is to let them have a safety zone to express all the garbage they come across. No judgement - no foul...Just my opinion

True about the trust.

Also, as to what they experience and see...they're just guys who fly planes. I mean, they're really not THAT special/different. They might see more airports and spend two minutes in more states than most, but aside from seeing more people while walking through terminals, do they really experience more than the average bear?

(Which is not to say I don't think it's cool - I find it super hot that Ian's a pilot, but I'm not sure if it's because he flies planes, or if it's just because I think he's sexy, determined, wicked smart, and calm/collected in emergency situations....hey, whatever! )

[pilotwife3]

Originally Posted by SeatClutcher

True about the trust.

Also, as to what they experience and see...they're just guys who fly planes. I mean, they're really not THAT special/different. They might see more airports and spend two minutes in more states than most, but aside from seeing more people while walking through terminals, do they really experience more than the average bear?

(Which is not to say I don't think it's cool - I find it super hot that Ian's a pilot, but I'm not sure if it's because he flies planes, or if it's just because I think he's sexy, determined, wicked smart, and calm/collected in emergency situations....hey, whatever! )

Absolutely! I agree, if you're flying regional only and layovers are infrequent.

My DH flies overseas and his layovers average 24 hrs to 2 days. As he is regularly in Frankfurt, Paris, London or Beijing he is able to explore not only the 'touristy' locations but likes to find out where the locals go. Being that pilots are notoriously 'cheap' - my DH especially when he's away - by staying away from the big money restaurants he's come across some amazing place to eat, for example. They're always giving heads up as to what to do/see/eat, etc. from other pilots.

I don't think that pilots are special/different per say, but I'm betting that the average traveller won't stray from the big tourist areas. When they fly frequently to particular places they become very familiar with them - a second home, if you will - and when you do that it's inevitable that you're going to see some interesting stuff.

Different cultures bring different values - it's all out there.

[katbuad]

Sorry guys, have been out hiking and camping in the back country the last couple of days. Needless to say, no internet out there.

Hooking up? My defintion implies sex, but I really don't know for sure. The CAP and FA disappear at the same time, in about the same state of intoxication after much PDA. I am assuming sex but I have no postive way to know for sure. CAP may not be the most upstanding kinda of guy, but wasn't telling detail stories at the breakfast table. (Thank goodness.)

How do hubby and CAP end up with similar schedules? They bid the same way, award 4 day trips with daily credit equal or greater than X, award 3 day trips with daily credit equal or greater than X, ect. Hubby is newish to the process and after one not so great month has been asking others on how they arrange their bid. This CAP suggested this method and hubby tried it. (It actually returned good trips with lots of flying time, which was what hubby was hoping for.)

Hubby and I have discussed my thoughts/concerns with this CAP. I am pretty sure he heard me. He is a big boy. I am going to give him a chance to make his own way. I mentioned earlier, I think my over anlyazing has to do with me and not so much any bad behavior from hubby.

Hubby and I have been married 6 years but during this transition to a new lifestyle we are having to learn some new lessons and relearn some old lessons. Personally, I think that is apart of growing and changing as individuals and making sure our marriage grows and changes with us.

[Mrs.Alchemist]

Originally Posted by katbuad

I have been thinking about this since I posted it earlier. I really think that this is about me and not about him. Recently my world has gotten a lot smaller and everyday his world just seems to get bigger and bigger. I love hubby and I trust him. I can count on him to make the right decisions, no matter who he is around. I need to expand my focus/life and stop microscoping every part of his.

Yeah.... Easier said than done!!!

[Kristie]

you get used to it after a while.. but it does take time to adjust that mentality!!