Who do you count on most???

[Mistress Trista]

I'm pretty much on my own out here in the boonies when hubby isn't home, so I relly mostly on myself.

[FilleBelle]

As embarrassing as this sometimes is, I still live with my parents, so they are my go to people nearly 100% of the time. I still live in the town in which I was born, though, so I have some "forever friends" I can call up any hour of any day and they will be with me in a flash.

And, of course, AAA

[amelia]

DH's parents live about 20min away and they have always been here for us at a moments notice. They are wonderful people who are always willing to help us out in a time of need.

Twice I've had some sort of medical problem. Once after having DD and once while I was pregnant with DS. My MIL dropped everything to take me to the dr's or to the ER. Once, she was at work, the other time it was the middle of the night. Both times, DH was gone.

[katbuad]

Oh hands down my best friend and her husband. She has earned her title of Best Friend Forever a million times over. She is my mental crisis companion. She is the second driver on car repairs and other drop off situtions. She is the best puppy dog sitter, always advailable and can count on her when non-revn' doesn't work out as planned. She brought me dinner on my birthday (alone, otherwise). We had Thanksgiving together (alone, otherwise).

I am very blessed with her willingness to help and always good attitude. (I never feel like a burden when I call her.)

[Mrs.Alchemist]

That just reminded me... Know what else is depressing??? Not being able to get a ride from the airport! (not even from an airport that's only 15-20 minutes away) Having to spend $37 to get home on the ride share van really just rubs salt in my wounds... It's so much easier going home to Wisconsin than coming home to California...

Originally Posted by katbuad

...She is the best puppy dog sitter, always advailable and can count on her when non-revn' doesn't work out as planned...

I always just take puppy dog with... Which is a real concern for my future international travel plans...

[spotty4]

Its very interesting that this thread resurfaced. I'm glad it did. I've been feeling pretty low and lonely lately. A few recent incidents have been extreme eye openers.

I moved here by myself just about 4 years ago. Fiance followed 2 years later. No family brought us here. No friends brought us here. We have each other and friends we've made since living here. Until recently I never noticed a problem. When something happened or I needed a little extra support, Fiance was always there for me. He's always been my rock. Since he's been flying (since November), I have suddenly felt very naked and vulnerable a few times. It became painfully obvious that, even though we've made friendships here, I feel best turning to him over anyone else in a difficult situation. I have always gone to him in time of need. Now that he's not always available, I find myself lost and confused on who to call on when I need help. My family is all far away and the friends we have made here are great people ... but I haven't connected w/ them so much that I can dump my load on them.

So, what I'm learning through the past few months is that good friends are important and very hard to come by. When you find one, they are worth the investment to keep the friendship healthy. We live in a very transient town, and we ourselves will not be permanent. Knowing that the new people you meet may not live nearby for long really makes it hard to invest a lot of time into a blossoming friendship. But if I'm going to establish a good support system outside of Fiance, I better start putting in some time!

[ccbegay]

for as long as this thread has been up, I never responded! well, considering my ENTIRE family is in New Mexico, I really have no one here...so that really pushed me to be more self relient and get things done...when BF is here, he has more guts than I do, and will do/say anything to get his way...NOT ME AT ALL...I moved out here knowing less than 5 people...BF, his parents, and 2 of his friends...when BF is gone on trips I know I can count on any of them to help me out...we do live out of the city, and no real close neighbors, so every little noise will scare the bejeebers out of me, but I'm getting tougher...

[SeatClutcher]

Originally Posted by Adreamer's_wfe

I refuse to move away from my family, and my DH does not even try anymore... I can count on my family for absolutely ANYTHING, and I would not feel uncomfortable asking for it either.

My Mom is my best friend and my rock, I would be lost without her. My father is the sweetest and most loving man God ever created. Example: When I was hugely PG with the triplets we were going out to dinner to celebrate a birthday. I waddled, literally, to the car and got in. My Dad looked right at me and told me how beautiful I was. He was totally sincere. Last year when I was PG with Sophia he paid for me to get a message once a week.

Huh?

(Can't read - black ink, please! )

[jr_lenz]

my family is great. they drive me crazy, but they are always here. esp. my dad, being the only girl out of his 5 boys, I have always been his princess. Things weren't good in our house when I was in high school, and I left as soon as I could, and didn't have much contact with my family for a long time. My dad was thrilled when I moved back. My dad is a jack of all trades, so he fixes the car, the house, and all the stuff in between. They love their grandkids, and are great about taking them when ever we need a break.

Even though it has been several years since my stroke, and heart attack, my parents are VERY protective, my dad stops by and mows the yard whenever Lance is gone. In fact their is a little resenment between my dad and Lance. I don't think my dad really understands him being gone, and Lance resents that my dad is always there doing stuff, that he can do, when he gets home.

but my friends and this web site are the go to places for emotional stuff. I just have never been sharing with my family.

[Joanna]

For urgent situations (house issues, car issues) I rely on neighbors...thankfully we have awesome neighbors.

For issues I can plan for (babysitting, ect) I rely on family. Our families live 2 hours away, so we need to plan for their visits.