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[LBunny]

Whops did not mean to hit post...as I was saying..

Amanda-why is Reading horrible? Because it's small? Now I'm scared to move there! haha

I guess my BF is interested in Continental based on the research he's been doing and pilot forums...that's all I really know.

I'm glad to know there are so many other independent women out there like myself. A couple of my friends are so attached to their boyfriends at the hip, it's ridiculous...so at first I thought I was 'different' for wanting my space.

I had no problems moving to be with my BF after graduation..until I found out that my sister (my only sibling) is pregnant and I would really like to be there for her...but I guess I can always fly home.. Then my sister's whole situation got me thinking about marriage and children of my own...but I know that won't happen for a looong time!!

I hope I'm still posting in the correct thread. It's taken me a little while to get used to this site. I still can't figure out how to enter multiple quotes in my replies??

Laura

[Amanda]

Hi again...
I grew up in King of Prussia, PA and then moved to Devon for 5 years before heading to sunny AZ. I used to go to Reading all the time to visit the outlets. At the time the area was very depressed and run-down. The towns nearby might be nice but not my cup of tea. I like to be close to a large city or be in a place where is lots to do. Nick used to commute an hour from his parents house (in West Chester) when he flew out of Reading. Thanks goodness he wasn't there long (they closed the base). Of course after that he went to a crappy little rundown town in New Mexico where he shared a tiny crashpad with 4 other guys and had to sleep on the floor (another story...).

Moving would be no big deal if I recently graduated and my carrer isn't set, but I'm in my 30's and I won't follow Nick to every base; that wouldn't make sense for me. if we were married maybe, but we're not. I do like to try new things and seek adventure, so this is not the last place I'll live. I lived in PA too long and want to see the rest of the country (and the world too!).

Even though I'm gettin' old(er), I decided that I need to wait to make sure kids were right for me (us). Nick definitely wants kids and so do I, but I may need to adopt if I can't have them, which is OK by me. Once you have kids your life changes in so many ways. I can't just hop on a plane or go out with my friends without a lot of planning ahead of time. Plus the money of course. I like my lifestyle right now. I'm guessing that you're in your early 20's... you have a ton of time to live a little before the big responsibilities. Nick and I had some issues last year because I started pressuring him for the ring and kids. I guess I thought it was "supposed to happen that way" since we've been dating since 2002. I learned a lot about myself at that time and realized I don't have to be married or have kids right now. I love Nick with all my heart and we are great together... things will happen when they happen. He is committed 100% to our relationship and so am I.

Sorry, I'm babbling b/c I'm tired! Hope you don't take any offense to anything I said- these are my own opinions. And again, I'm tired. Rough day at work! Amanda

[Kristie]

Originally Posted by LBunny

One positive aspect about myself relating to BF's career is that I'm a very independent person. If I don't get some alone time I seriously go crazy!

That's a good thing! it'll definately help you in the long run!!

Originally Posted by LBunny

One negative aspect about myself is that I'm a planner; everything needs to be planned, scheduled, and organized. So I get a feeling of nervousness when BF says things like, "I don't know where I'll be 5 years from now, 1 year from now, or even at the end of the month." That is one thing I need to work on accepting.

you'll get used to not planning things out! it takes a bit of time, but before you know it.. your more spontaneous and it becomes more "fun"...one thing i've learned, the more you try to plan things out, the more often they always get screwed up and your never happy. esp in our type of lifestyle, it just becomes too hard to plan...when you plan your wedding, you'll want to try and plan it around vacation so you don't have to play "what's my schedule" when bids come out! haha

Originally Posted by LBunny

My one main concern that I've been having for the past few months has to do with MY career. I am afraid that if I quit and relocate too many times no one will want to hire me-someone who moves every few years-nor will I be able to move up the ladder. How many times have you all moved to be with your SO's? I don't know maybe I'm just freaking out due to the fact that I'm graduating and moving into the 'real world' in 4 months, which is a big change in and of itself.

My dh and I have only moved once. We chose to live where my job works the best... because he has the "availability" and "opportunity" to commute, he chooses to do that so we can live via our QOL and via my job because my job is important to me. it's true that if you move too often, your resume won't be viewed as highly as others so it is something you'll have to seriously talk about when it comes time for bf to move into the airline world.

If there's anything I've learned over the years it's that bases change all the time and airlines are not forgiving nor do they care how often YOU have to move for THEM.

when dh was in the regionals, he was based at 5 different bases while he was at skyway (rockford, mke, flint, muskegon & marquette). at the time, I was living in florida working on getting my career on track... so i continued to stay in florida - he continued to live in mke and commute down once/twice a month to visit...but that's how it worked for a while. Now, we're in scottsdale Az, he's been based in ATL, MCO, ATL and now SLC. there's no way i'd leave my good paying, flexible job just to move from base to base...I know some families do it for the kids, so they can see daddy for longer periods of time... if we had kids.. who knows.. but we don't, so we go fully with QOL.

but again, you'll be needing to discuss that at length in order to come to a compromise and agreement to how it's going to work for you two.

[LBunny]

Thanks Amanda & Kristie for your thoughts!

Yeah I really don't want to move from base to base. The pilots have to move to keep their job/career up and running and we as their SO have to stay in one place to keep our job/career. But who knows if I'll even like PA. I guess I don't mind moving until I find an area I really like.

Amanda-I'm not offended by any means from the things you said, your opinion was what I was asking for!

Krisitie-It's ironic how at one point your husband was in Marquette and you were in FL...and at one point my BF was in FL and I was (am) in Marquette. It gives me comfort knowing that you two made it through to where you guys are today. Kind of like another sign that Brian is the one for me!

[roz]

We live closer to Philly than Reading. But Reading is a dungy little town, imho!

We've never moved to chase metal. We settled in the Philly area and stayed. DH commutes. Period!

[LBunny]

Yeah I've been thinking about it and talking to my BF about it, and I think I will most likely look for a job in Philly, or outside of Philly, and just commute for now. I wouldn't mind commuting for a year or 2 because after a couple of years he will probably be the one always commuting!

[Amanda]

Philly will be about an hour (or over and hour) away from you if you commute to a job. Be careful! I commute 15 minutes each way and love it. Even if he is flying out of Reading maybe you can live away from there (far away)!