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Pilotguy · 08-11-2006, 01:56 AM

Hi, my name is Adam and I am currently a student pilot working on my Commerical license. I will be a sophomore in college this year. I became interested in this site after reading through a Jetcareers post. Just recently, I made the decision to transfer from the University of Dubuque to the University of Iowa (no aviation program) to earn a degree in something other than aviation. My hope is to use this other degree for a backup should family issues become a concern.
I've been reading some of the posts on this forumn and I am glad to hear that the ones I've read are happy in their relationship, yet I worry about those women who aren't joining this forumn.
I've wanted to be a pilot for a long time now and it really is a dream of mine but for just as long as I've wanted to be a pilot, I've saw myself one day having a family or at least a wife. I know, wierd for a guy but I've taken enough psychology and listened to enough Dr. Phil to know that happiness doesn't come through your job but through the experiences you share with others.
And so I worry about this dream of mine. I've debated between family or no family and family always comes up on top and yet I hate the idea of giving up my second love of flying. While I understand I can have both, it seems as though it's a 1 in a 1000 chance that I'll find that woman who can handle it. As someone said in one of the posts, a pilots wife is of a strong breed. Maybe I will be so lucky, but if not, I worry that I will one day realize how alone I am in that cockpit at 31,000 ft.
One heck of a way to introduce myself I know, but I do look forward to reading your posts. I look forward to getting to know you all. I hope to become more sure of my decision to give up a great flight school for a school with better academics (where I will train privately now) to gain a backup degree should I need to be home more. Hopefully in the process, I'll become more sure of my choosen career/dream.
Sorry this is so long. Look forward to hearing from you all and feel free to drop a line any time.
Coming from the other side,
Adam

flygirl813126 · 08-11-2006, 08:17 AM

Wlecome to the board. I would suggest also looking at jc, but it seems you have been there. Feel free to chat us up anytime. It should be fun to have someone on the other side here.

Kristie · 08-11-2006, 08:49 AM

Welcome Adam,

There's no reason you can't have everything you want in the world...the hard part is finding it and making the right decisions to keep you going down the right path. But your already on a good roll seeing how your a college student trying to find your way... you have plenty of time to meet Mrs. Right the best thing for you to do right now is not so much search for someone who can deal with the life style but date as much as you can to figure out what needs you require in your future relationship beyond that of a pilot wife.

feel free to post at will and we'll do our best to point you in the right direction.

as far as the degree is concerned, personally, i think it is best to get something outside of aviation..something that you'll also enjoy doing a lot should aviation not work out at some point in your career - but of course, i say that all the time in JC...having a secure background is going to help make any future family member feel more secure if the bottom every drops out like it has in the past.

Again, welcome...I'm glad you've taken the initative to come on board as I can see just how motivated you are in making all the puzzle pieces fit together!

Jan · 08-12-2006, 01:06 AM

Welcome Adam,

My husband is a new pilot, and he is as happy as a bug in a rug ;-). He had an entirely different career for many years before that, and was dissatisfied in that career. We've been married almost 11 years, and since he started flying a couple years back our relationship seems to have improved. We still have our concerns, but it's to be expected - marraige is a lot of give and take in any situation, and different kinds of careers present different challenges to deal with.

I think it is wise to have a backup career, life has a way of throwing curveballs. Everyone has their own path - you have plenty of time to find that someone who is compatible in your interests and dreams in life. Enjoy life as much as possible, it's just too short for anything else :-).

hth,
Janice

Bigsweetie · 08-12-2006, 10:21 AM

I think a back up degree is a great idea.

As far as the whole relationship thing, I think it's cute that you're thinking that far ahead, but my advice.... don't. It'll all fall into place. It is possible to be a pilot and be in a happy marriage. Worry about school, the relationship stuff will work out itself out.

Nice to meet you, and welcome to the board.

ETA: pilots aren't the only people who are underpaid and away from their families alot. Doctors do it, military families do it, truck drivers do it. If you have your priorities in order, you'll have nothing to worry about.

UPSwife · 08-13-2006, 11:27 PM

Wlecome to the forum!

If flying is your dream, pursue it. For my husband it was a dream since he was a child; my dream was always to teach. My husband pursued his dream through college and immediately afterward. I, on the other hand, put my dream on hold. I went back to get my teaching certification after years of debating and am so much happeir that I did it! By the time my husband and I met, he had been flying for at least 15 years--he was 35 & I was 32. We got a late start, but are very happy & plan to have a family as well. It always works out when you have a dream and pursue it.

08-11-2006, 01:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
Pilotguy New Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Cedar Rapids Posts: 1 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	First Post Hi, my name is Adam and I am currently a student pilot working on my Commerical license. I will be a sophomore in college this year. I became interested in this site after reading through a Jetcareers post. Just recently, I made the decision to transfer from the University of Dubuque to the University of Iowa (no aviation program) to earn a degree in something other than aviation. My hope is to use this other degree for a backup should family issues become a concern. I've been reading some of the posts on this forumn and I am glad to hear that the ones I've read are happy in their relationship, yet I worry about those women who aren't joining this forumn. I've wanted to be a pilot for a long time now and it really is a dream of mine but for just as long as I've wanted to be a pilot, I've saw myself one day having a family or at least a wife. I know, wierd for a guy but I've taken enough psychology and listened to enough Dr. Phil to know that happiness doesn't come through your job but through the experiences you share with others. And so I worry about this dream of mine. I've debated between family or no family and family always comes up on top and yet I hate the idea of giving up my second love of flying. While I understand I can have both, it seems as though it's a 1 in a 1000 chance that I'll find that woman who can handle it. As someone said in one of the posts, a pilots wife is of a strong breed. Maybe I will be so lucky, but if not, I worry that I will one day realize how alone I am in that cockpit at 31,000 ft. One heck of a way to introduce myself I know, but I do look forward to reading your posts. I look forward to getting to know you all. I hope to become more sure of my decision to give up a great flight school for a school with better academics (where I will train privately now) to gain a backup degree should I need to be home more. Hopefully in the process, I'll become more sure of my choosen career/dream. Sorry this is so long. Look forward to hearing from you all and feel free to drop a line any time. Coming from the other side, Adam Last edited by Pilotguy; 08-11-2006 at 02:09 AM.

08-11-2006, 08:17 AM	#2 (permalink)
flygirl813126 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Northwest Suburbs, IL Posts: 780 Recipes: Thanks: 1 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: First Post Wlecome to the board. I would suggest also looking at jc, but it seems you have been there. Feel free to chat us up anytime. It should be fun to have someone on the other side here.

08-11-2006, 08:49 AM	#3 (permalink)
Kristie Admin/Owner Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 6,649 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 17 Times in 17 Posts	Re: First Post Welcome Adam, There's no reason you can't have everything you want in the world...the hard part is finding it and making the right decisions to keep you going down the right path. But your already on a good roll seeing how your a college student trying to find your way... you have plenty of time to meet Mrs. Right the best thing for you to do right now is not so much search for someone who can deal with the life style but date as much as you can to figure out what needs you require in your future relationship beyond that of a pilot wife. feel free to post at will and we'll do our best to point you in the right direction. as far as the degree is concerned, personally, i think it is best to get something outside of aviation..something that you'll also enjoy doing a lot should aviation not work out at some point in your career - but of course, i say that all the time in JC...having a secure background is going to help make any future family member feel more secure if the bottom every drops out like it has in the past. Again, welcome...I'm glad you've taken the initative to come on board as I can see just how motivated you are in making all the puzzle pieces fit together! __________________ www.jetcareers.com

08-12-2006, 01:06 AM	#4 (permalink)
Jan Jetgirls Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Atlanta, GA Posts: 26 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: First Post Welcome Adam, My husband is a new pilot, and he is as happy as a bug in a rug ;-). He had an entirely different career for many years before that, and was dissatisfied in that career. We've been married almost 11 years, and since he started flying a couple years back our relationship seems to have improved. We still have our concerns, but it's to be expected - marraige is a lot of give and take in any situation, and different kinds of careers present different challenges to deal with. I think it is wise to have a backup career, life has a way of throwing curveballs. Everyone has their own path - you have plenty of time to find that someone who is compatible in your interests and dreams in life. Enjoy life as much as possible, it's just too short for anything else :-). hth, Janice

08-12-2006, 10:21 AM	#5 (permalink)
Bigsweetie Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Clinton Township, Michigan Posts: 1,566 Recipes: Thanks: 8 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: First Post I think a back up degree is a great idea. As far as the whole relationship thing, I think it's cute that you're thinking that far ahead, but my advice.... don't. It'll all fall into place. It is possible to be a pilot and be in a happy marriage. Worry about school, the relationship stuff will work out itself out. Nice to meet you, and welcome to the board. ETA: pilots aren't the only people who are underpaid and away from their families alot. Doctors do it, military families do it, truck drivers do it. If you have your priorities in order, you'll have nothing to worry about. Last edited by Bigsweetie; 08-12-2006 at 10:24 AM.

08-13-2006, 11:27 PM	#6 (permalink)
UPSwife Jetgirls Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Louisville, KY Posts: 315 Recipes: Thanks: 1 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Re: First Post Wlecome to the forum! If flying is your dream, pursue it. For my husband it was a dream since he was a child; my dream was always to teach. My husband pursued his dream through college and immediately afterward. I, on the other hand, put my dream on hold. I went back to get my teaching certification after years of debating and am so much happeir that I did it! By the time my husband and I met, he had been flying for at least 15 years--he was 35 & I was 32. We got a late start, but are very happy & plan to have a family as well. It always works out when you have a dream and pursue it.

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