Im new :) from Canada

[Amanda]

Hello ans welcome to the site! Good luck to you. Jealousy and dating a pilot don't go together too well but we can help you with your concerns or questions!

[ccbegay]

WELCOME!!!

[sarah_b02]

Hi!!
I'm new on this forum also, but i've just been through the situation you're going through. I'm also from Toronto, and my husband is just finishing his multi ifr licence (finished school in april, just got a little behind on his flying)!!
I can also be the jealous type, but you just have to trust them and enjoy every minute you have with them. I definately didn't get to see my husband when he was in school too often (we just got married in may, after he graduated). I am basically supporting us both. It sucks, but it's worth it and I know he would do the same. Right now i get to see him lots, but i know this won't last too long, once he gets a job! I honestly don't even worry about the future. Our lives are so up in the air, we've moved 3 times since we've been married, and we've just been taking everything one day at a time, and sometimes that's all you really can do!

[Claudiainlove]

hey sarah

good to hear from you!!! Yeah its true what you say...I try to enjoy every minute I can with my b/f too...I just cant get enough lol!We've talked about my jealousy issues and I've been doing much better...i try not be get all worked up about things too much!! Right now he's very stressed with school...his first year is wayy too hard and he cant afford to fail or else his career will go down the drain! So what school did your hubby graduate from???
I am also in the same situation as you...about money supporting issues...now that he's in school he does not work and all the money goes to his tuitions ..so even though we are not married I still pay for most of the stuff we do..
anyways thanks for your reply once again
talk to you soon

[jr_lenz]

the green eyed monster is a hard one to deal with. The more than he is is gone and comes home to you, I think the more you will feel the trust. I was worried about my DH when he started flying commercial, b/c he was such a party guy. But now he is a total shut-click guy. But we are older than you guys ( think he just loves to sit there in the hotel with no nosie, no cartoon's, no one doing spelling words, or throwing a fit. Why would he got out to a noisey bar, when he can have hours of quit time...something we don't get at home!). When it comes time you will have to sit down and work out what is going to work for both of you. But until then enjoy the time you have, and don't add more stress to the sistuation by "guessing" about the future.

[sarah_b02]

I like that... "don't add more stress to the sistuation by "guessing" about the future." so true!!

my husband actually graduated from conestoga!! I wish your bf the best of luck!!

[Claudiainlove]

Originally Posted by sarah_b02

I like that... "don't add more stress to the sistuation by "guessing" about the future." so true!!

my husband actually graduated from conestoga!! I wish your bf the best of luck!!

I've never heard of that college before but I asked my bf and he said he does know! Its up in kitchener Ontario right???
I also wish your husband luck in his career as a pilot and
all the best to you two!

[Elizabeth]

Hi Claudia! I was just reading your thread and thought I'd check in to see how you are doing? How is the relationship going? It sounds like you have your eyes wide open to what the future may or may not be, which is crucial! My husband and I have been married for 9 years, but we began dating in our early 20s when he was still finishing up college and working on building hours. It was trying and although I am typically not the jealous type I even has some insecurities early on. However, many responses here have great advice and points. My greatest advice would be to do some serious soul searching... can you committ to a lifetime of a part time physical marriage. By that I mean can you accept that you may be with your partner only 50% of the time until retirement and the rest connected by phone. I will say that as my husband and I have grown and matured this actually becomes a good thing as you begin to appreciate the time together more and stop taking things for granted. After being married for almost a decade we also have grown to like our space and then the constant excitement of the day he comes home again! Many older couples comment that we have the perfect marriage because of this. He never really drives me crazy as many of my friends complain of their husbands after many years together!! Also, as for the cheating... as many pilots will say themselves, there are two breeds of pilots. One is the husband and family man, one is the other that gives the rest a bad name. Only you can determine which kind you are in love with! I wish you all the luck in the world with your future with your pilot and remember, although this can be trying choosing to be married to a pilot, it is also exciting, fun, and provides you with a different quality of life that many 9 to 5ers can't even begin to imagine!! Best of Luck with a Happy New Year Claudia!!

[Claudiainlove]

Hello and Happy new years to all , hope you guys had a great holiday with your family! I've had an amazing one myself and everything with my bf is going smoothly and Im building my trust, so Im quite happy about that! ANyways thanks once again for your feed backs and hope to talk to you guys soon!

cheers

[Claudiainlove]

hello there Elizabeth

Hope you had a great holiday yourself
I wanted to thank you for replying to my post and wanting to know how my relationship was going..I really appreciate it.
Well the holidays were great for me....I can honestly say that right now everything is getting much better than before, with my bf..I know Im still young and I have yet to learn more things about life but I've come to realize that by being insecure and jealous Im getting no where and it's something that Im working on day by day.. so now Im trying to be more open minded and accept things the way they are....for the love I have for my future pilot and to tell you the truth, Im kinda liking it!

Right now Im not thinking about what the future might bring...if everything goes well..then, that's when I will start planning, but for now Im living the moment! I guess by doing so I can transmitt happiness to those who love me.

Also...I would lie to you if I tell you that Ill be willing to committ to a part-time physical relationship because I havent had the experience yet, HOWEVER, when the time comes I will have to train myself in accepting things the best way possible and to never forget that flying is what he loves doing.

Best luck to you too for this 2008!
Claudia