Hi! -waves shyly-

MLily79 · 08-28-2007, 09:06 PM

Hi! I just joined the board yesterday, and this is only my 2nd post. I posted in the "Get to Know Ya" thread, but there's some special excitement to creating a new thread, so I thought I'd be greedy and do it.

I'm Becky. My boyfriend Paul is an ATI for Northwest. He recently applied to be a line pilot, so we are hope-fully anticipating that he'll start his classes in September or October and be flying by the end of the year (just in time to miss many of the noteworthy holidays). My emotions concerning the impending change are mixed. I've found myself torn between being happy for and supportive of Paul but, at the same time, feeling really, really sorry for myself.

Just to put it all out there: for whatever reason (and, hopefully, not because I'm a freak, but I'll let all of you be the judge of that), Paul is my first relationship. Because of that, I tend to view my situation as some sort of big, cruel, cosmic joke on me - like The Powers That Be got together and said, "Hey, I know! Let's finally give her a boyfriend, but we'll make him a pilot so he'll be gone all of the time. That way, she gets what she wants... and yet not really at all. Mwa-ha-ha!"

I tend to be needier than I'd like (a fact I've come to realize more and more recently), and I'm hoping that I'll be able to find the independence I lack, so I can continue to be supportive of Paul and happy with our relationship.

And now that I've spilled my guts... I just want to say thank you for providing a community for a pilot's girl like me, where I can go for reassurance and camaraderie.

roz · 08-28-2007, 09:23 PM

You're all terrific! Welcome to our little board!

SeatClutcher · 08-28-2007, 09:24 PM

Hello!

(Great post.

)

I know what you mean about the cruel joke! I waited over a decade to be with Ian, and when we finally got together, he left for Iraq three weeks later. Agh! (He's back now.)

May your first relationship with a person who's rarely around cure your newfound neediness.

Brenda · 08-29-2007, 07:07 AM

Hi Becky! Welcome to the board!

christykay · 08-29-2007, 07:12 AM

Hello Becky, Welcome!

BAC · 08-29-2007, 08:36 AM

Another Becky, hello!

I know what you mean by trying not to be needy and angry.. it will get better though and you will adjust.

welcome!

Amanda · 08-29-2007, 11:38 AM

Hi and welcome to the board!
Nick wasn't my first relationship but I waited a looooong time to find a guy as special as he is. I was already pretty independent when I met him, which was a good thing.

It seems like you have a great attitude and sense of humor! Use these to your advantage. This WILL be a test of sorts since Paul will not be around 24/7. Try new things- hobbies, activities, whatever - and try to keep your mind from wandering and wondering what he is doing when not with you. Trust and communication is imperative in a relationship like this. Good luck- we're here for you.

jr_lenz · 08-29-2007, 12:47 PM

Welcome aboard

Alli1101 · 08-29-2007, 02:19 PM

Hi, and welcome!

You're absolutely right... seems like a cruel joke, huh.

But in some respects, it's also a blessing (at least I'm really, really trying to look at it that way). Being independent is something that takes guts and a little getting used to (and yes, some tears in the adjustment period), but ultimately it's a great thing for both you and your relationship. We're all here to support you through it all as well!

Kristie · 08-29-2007, 02:50 PM

Hiya Becky!! Welcome aboard!!

gotta love those Powers That BE! they do tend to be cruel in a wisdom type of way (most of the time).

Being that it's your first relationship... don't be too serious or take things too hard...it's a new learning experience for you and it'll be quite a curve as you grow through all the changes!!

We're here for ya...and boy can we relate! just gotta let us know what you need and how we can help and before you know it, you'll be paying it forward to all the other new chickies that come aboard!

08-28-2007, 09:06 PM	#1 (permalink)
MLily79 Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: MN, USA Posts: 12 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Hi! -waves shyly- Hi! I just joined the board yesterday, and this is only my 2nd post. I posted in the "Get to Know Ya" thread, but there's some special excitement to creating a new thread, so I thought I'd be greedy and do it. I'm Becky. My boyfriend Paul is an ATI for Northwest. He recently applied to be a line pilot, so we are hope-fully anticipating that he'll start his classes in September or October and be flying by the end of the year (just in time to miss many of the noteworthy holidays). My emotions concerning the impending change are mixed. I've found myself torn between being happy for and supportive of Paul but, at the same time, feeling really, really sorry for myself. Just to put it all out there: for whatever reason (and, hopefully, not because I'm a freak, but I'll let all of you be the judge of that), Paul is my first relationship. Because of that, I tend to view my situation as some sort of big, cruel, cosmic joke on me - like The Powers That Be got together and said, "Hey, I know! Let's finally give her a boyfriend, but we'll make him a pilot so he'll be gone all of the time. That way, she gets what she wants... and yet not really at all. Mwa-ha-ha!" I tend to be needier than I'd like (a fact I've come to realize more and more recently), and I'm hoping that I'll be able to find the independence I lack, so I can continue to be supportive of Paul and happy with our relationship. And now that I've spilled my guts... I just want to say thank you for providing a community for a pilot's girl like me, where I can go for reassurance and camaraderie. Last edited by MLily79; 08-28-2007 at 09:18 PM.

08-28-2007, 09:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
roz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Philly Posts: 2,188 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	Re: Get to know ya! (2006 - 2008 entries) You're all terrific! Welcome to our little board!

08-28-2007, 09:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
SeatClutcher Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Manchester, CT Posts: 882 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 8 Times in 8 Posts	Re: Hi! -waves shyly- Hello! (Great post. ) I know what you mean about the cruel joke! I waited over a decade to be with Ian, and when we finally got together, he left for Iraq three weeks later. Agh! (He's back now.) May your first relationship with a person who's rarely around cure your newfound neediness. __________________ Blog: Reasons to miss New England "Freedom of choice isn't the same thing as being pro-choice." - said by a voter at the RNC

08-29-2007, 07:07 AM	#4 (permalink)
Brenda Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: EVV Posts: 1,184 Recipes: Thanks: 11 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	Re: Hi! -waves shyly- Hi Becky! Welcome to the board! __________________ - Brenda, wife to Eric, Capt for Shuttle America.

08-29-2007, 07:12 AM	#5 (permalink)
christykay Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: S. Carolina y'all Posts: 805 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: Hi! -waves shyly- Hello Becky, Welcome!

08-29-2007, 08:36 AM	#6 (permalink)
BAC Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Indianapolis, IN Posts: 886 Recipes: Thanks: 11 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	Re: Hi! -waves shyly- Another Becky, hello! I know what you mean by trying not to be needy and angry.. it will get better though and you will adjust. welcome! __________________ Becky Check out my current and past books @

08-29-2007, 11:38 AM	#7 (permalink)
Amanda Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PHL suburbs Posts: 2,085 Recipes: Thanks: 12 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: Hi! -waves shyly- Hi and welcome to the board! Nick wasn't my first relationship but I waited a looooong time to find a guy as special as he is. I was already pretty independent when I met him, which was a good thing. It seems like you have a great attitude and sense of humor! Use these to your advantage. This WILL be a test of sorts since Paul will not be around 24/7. Try new things- hobbies, activities, whatever - and try to keep your mind from wandering and wondering what he is doing when not with you. Trust and communication is imperative in a relationship like this. Good luck- we're here for you. __________________ Amanda Loving wife of Nick, an Int'l FO for Continental flying the 757/767 based in EWR!

08-29-2007, 12:47 PM	#8 (permalink)
jr_lenz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Idaho Posts: 823 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Re: Hi! -waves shyly- Welcome aboard __________________ He wasn't sure he wanted a baby sister, but he loved her the moment he saw her.

08-29-2007, 02:19 PM	#9 (permalink)
Alli1101 Jetgirls Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Southington, CT Posts: 104 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: Hi! -waves shyly- Hi, and welcome! You're absolutely right... seems like a cruel joke, huh. But in some respects, it's also a blessing (at least I'm really, really trying to look at it that way). Being independent is something that takes guts and a little getting used to (and yes, some tears in the adjustment period), but ultimately it's a great thing for both you and your relationship. We're all here to support you through it all as well! __________________ Alli

08-29-2007, 02:50 PM	#10 (permalink)
Kristie Admin/Owner Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 6,576 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 15 Times in 15 Posts	Re: Hi! -waves shyly- Hiya Becky!! Welcome aboard!! gotta love those Powers That BE! they do tend to be cruel in a wisdom type of way (most of the time). Being that it's your first relationship... don't be too serious or take things too hard...it's a new learning experience for you and it'll be quite a curve as you grow through all the changes!! We're here for ya...and boy can we relate! just gotta let us know what you need and how we can help and before you know it, you'll be paying it forward to all the other new chickies that come aboard! __________________ www.jetcareers.com

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