it's over - Page 4

Kimberly · 11-14-2005, 01:43 PM

Before my husband, I dated a guy for 5 years, and ultimately we became engaged. After that our relationship fell apart. Once we broke it off, I realized that I could not allow him to be part of my life due to all the pain and heartache associated. I tried, but similar to you, would find myself falling apart at random times. Once I realized that that part of my life was over, and that I was creating a new life, I was able to explore new aspects of me. Allowing my contact with him to completely come to a halt allowed me to truly heal. And I found out how to be happy with just me again.. a long process.

I know we all have our own ways of dealing. But my advice would be to be kind to yourself, and do what lets you heal and become whole again.

HUGS TO YOU TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!

Kristie · 11-14-2005, 03:39 PM

Keep looking forward Em!! don't look back... the more you look back, the more it hurts - give it some time before you decide to look back (like a good 6 mo's).

All I know is that it's his loss....

*hugs*

MQAAord · 11-17-2005, 08:59 PM

Ever heard Garth Brooks' song 'Unanswered Prayers'?

Life changes are scary. But they don't always turn out to be bad.

skibum515 · 11-17-2005, 09:35 PM

I haven't heard it - I'll go find it

and now a brief update (for a full one you can read the blog, i'm actually doing well at keeping it going)

John and I talked on monday night and I feel better after talking to him. I know that he's upset and miserable too and so that fear is eased (I thought he was out living it up on the town, just forgot about me sorta thing) and overall I'm doing better now. I had my mom go through my box of pictures and pull out all the ones of JOhn so i could go through the rest and see which ones I wanted to take to Utah. I'm pretty much packed, I'm going to be spending tomorrow night wih some friends in ann arbor and then leaving on Saturday. *yikes*
John and I left it that we will talk again in april after we've both had time to heal our wounded hearts. (that's when I'm done instructing)

11-14-2005, 01:43 PM	#31 (permalink)
Kimberly Jetgirls Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Garland (Dallas Area) TX Posts: 282 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: it's over Before my husband, I dated a guy for 5 years, and ultimately we became engaged. After that our relationship fell apart. Once we broke it off, I realized that I could not allow him to be part of my life due to all the pain and heartache associated. I tried, but similar to you, would find myself falling apart at random times. Once I realized that that part of my life was over, and that I was creating a new life, I was able to explore new aspects of me. Allowing my contact with him to completely come to a halt allowed me to truly heal. And I found out how to be happy with just me again.. a long process. I know we all have our own ways of dealing. But my advice would be to be kind to yourself, and do what lets you heal and become whole again. HUGS TO YOU TODAY!!!!!!!!!!! __________________

11-14-2005, 03:39 PM	#32 (permalink)
Kristie Admin/Owner Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 6,653 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 17 Times in 17 Posts	Re: it's over Keep looking forward Em!! don't look back... the more you look back, the more it hurts - give it some time before you decide to look back (like a good 6 mo's). All I know is that it's his loss.... hugs __________________ www.jetcareers.com

11-17-2005, 08:59 PM	#33 (permalink)
MQAAord Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: A Happy Place Posts: 668 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: it's over Ever heard Garth Brooks' song 'Unanswered Prayers'? Life changes are scary. But they don't always turn out to be bad.

11-17-2005, 09:35 PM	#34 (permalink)
skibum515 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Park City Posts: 1,262 Recipes: Thanks: 2 Thanked 10 Times in 10 Posts	Re: it's over I haven't heard it - I'll go find it and now a brief update (for a full one you can read the blog, i'm actually doing well at keeping it going) John and I talked on monday night and I feel better after talking to him. I know that he's upset and miserable too and so that fear is eased (I thought he was out living it up on the town, just forgot about me sorta thing) and overall I'm doing better now. I had my mom go through my box of pictures and pull out all the ones of JOhn so i could go through the rest and see which ones I wanted to take to Utah. I'm pretty much packed, I'm going to be spending tomorrow night wih some friends in ann arbor and then leaving on Saturday. yikes John and I left it that we will talk again in april after we've both had time to heal our wounded hearts. (that's when I'm done instructing) __________________

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