Thoughts of infidelity creeping in - help

Lurker · 08-01-2005, 08:24 AM

OK Ladies I need your help here in how you deal/have dealt with this one.

As you know I'm in a very long distance relationship and as if that's not hard enough when it comes to having enough trust not to get eaten up by thoughts that your partner could be with something else, then of course I have the whole pilot thing on top of it.

Upto now, I have done really well with not even going there on either count..but a couple of days ago my Mum mailed me a story she cut out of the newspaper about a new book that I'm sure you've heard of - Air Babylon...the usual expose of a flight attendant. I was gobsmacked..I might expect something like that from an enemy but not my own Mum!!!

Deep down I know my man isn't that kind of guy. He spends most of his time when he's on layover (like now) emailing me and chatting in our private online room..he texts me like the minute he gets on the bus off a flight and is in constant communication (and I mean constant) until he gets back on the bus to go to the airport. ...They say a womans instinct tells her when a guy is unfaithful - so why don't we believe it when our gut is telling us he is not.

Its been 7 weeks since I last saw him and we don't know when we will get together again right now...sorry if its too much information but I am positively climbing the walls if you KWIM - and I don't think that's helping because we are lead to believe that men have stronger 'urges' than women so god only knows where his head is at (no pun intended).

I know I need to get this in check because if I don't, not only will it eat me up now..it is omnipresent.

So tell me - is it normal to now and again listen to any of those nagging, you know they are not true really, issues that come up re pilots and possible infidelity...have you all just developed really good blanking skills? Does the 'outside world' think you are living in denial? Do you take time to weigh what you know about your pilot? Or does it just not enter your head anymore???

Sorry - needed to get this off my chest to people who understand.
Thanks

08-01-2005, 08:24 AM	#1 (permalink)
Lurker Jetgirls Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Hong Kong Posts: 187 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Thoughts of infidelity creeping in - help OK Ladies I need your help here in how you deal/have dealt with this one. As you know I'm in a very long distance relationship and as if that's not hard enough when it comes to having enough trust not to get eaten up by thoughts that your partner could be with something else, then of course I have the whole pilot thing on top of it. Upto now, I have done really well with not even going there on either count..but a couple of days ago my Mum mailed me a story she cut out of the newspaper about a new book that I'm sure you've heard of - Air Babylon...the usual expose of a flight attendant. I was gobsmacked..I might expect something like that from an enemy but not my own Mum!!! Deep down I know my man isn't that kind of guy. He spends most of his time when he's on layover (like now) emailing me and chatting in our private online room..he texts me like the minute he gets on the bus off a flight and is in constant communication (and I mean constant) until he gets back on the bus to go to the airport. ...They say a womans instinct tells her when a guy is unfaithful - so why don't we believe it when our gut is telling us he is not. Its been 7 weeks since I last saw him and we don't know when we will get together again right now...sorry if its too much information but I am positively climbing the walls if you KWIM - and I don't think that's helping because we are lead to believe that men have stronger 'urges' than women so god only knows where his head is at (no pun intended). I know I need to get this in check because if I don't, not only will it eat me up now..it is omnipresent. So tell me - is it normal to now and again listen to any of those nagging, you know they are not true really, issues that come up re pilots and possible infidelity...have you all just developed really good blanking skills? Does the 'outside world' think you are living in denial? Do you take time to weigh what you know about your pilot? Or does it just not enter your head anymore??? Sorry - needed to get this off my chest to people who understand. Thanks

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