The Wife of a Pilot

[Cristine]

LOL!! thanks for explaining it!!! yes, when one pilot would slam-click, that would leave just one pilot and one flight attendant. and to a lot of wives/girlfriend, that was too much like a date so it wasn't allowed. which I understand a little more now than I did then.

but at the time, it was like, "what the heck?"

[Joanna]

that I know what 'slam-click' is...I have been around DH too long

I saw this thread in the 'new posts' and wanted to chime in by saying that the only flight attendant that hit on DH was gay, and I think that made DH more uncomfortable than me thinking of the idea of a FA hitting on DH

[Joanna]

I also wanted to add that if DH were alone with a FA for dinner, it wouldn't bother me. It sucks enough for DH to be gone, that I figure if he can enjoy someone else's company, that is great.

I remember when DH and I first started dating I told a co-worker that he was a pilot and she said "oh, you better watch out" She had no clue.

[Comairwife]

I am new to this pilot's wife buisness.. so please bear with me.. I am soo nervous about all this... Husband always says that he would never do something like that.. but who knows... It's especially hard for me because my health has been failing me lately, so it makes me worry all the more...

Blah!
Helen

[Amanda]

My man calls himself a slam-clicker, however I know he sometimes goes to dinner with the Cpt and/or FAs before he slam-clicks. No biggie. I don't feel threatened by anyone at this point! We went through my insecurity phase 5 years ago and now we are way past that. I don't want Nick to be eating alone and he doesn't really drink. He's seen some hooking up and pilots that party a bit and he is not one of those types. If you have trust, respect, and 2-way communication in your relationship, you should be just fine!

[skibum515]

I think it comes down to trusting your guy. So, here's a funny story for you guys (ok well, maybe not funny for some?)
So my guy and his crew are in Omaha, NE, and there's another xjet crew (branded side) there too. They end up going out together my df, his capt (male), the other capt (male), other FO (female) and other FA (female). He's hanging out with everyone at the bar talking to the other FO, and I guess she was being pretty obvious about being interested in him, so he of course drops the "I have a really awesome fiance, you want to see a picture?" line. At this point, the other FA comes over and wants a picture with them, so as the other CA goes to snap the picture the FA lifts up her shirt and shows her ta's to the camera! ... I guess she was ready to go home with anyone who was there (ended up with one of the CA's I think)

Anyway, DF comes home and he's like - you won't believe the night I had...this is what divorces are made of and why FA's get such a reputation (and pilots too).

I dunno, like I said, I think it really comes down to just trusting your husb/bf and know that they want to be with you, and not anyone else

[Roxswood]

Originally Posted by skibum515

I dunno, like I said, I think it really comes down to just trusting your husb/bf and know that they want to be with you, and not anyone else

Its also the having children thing for us too. DH and I have been out for a meal together without kids twice in the last 4 years. We don't have anyone who can babysit especially not now we've moved to France, and now we have another tiny baby it will be months at least before I could leave her long enough to have any quality time out alone (we make up for this by having lots of quality time in the bedroom while they sleep) but if I can't go out to dinner with my husband then I sure as heck don't want him going out to dinner with some other girl. Alone or not, its not about trust its about not wanting him sharing something with someone else that I am desperate to have with him and can't. He'd be a slamclicker I know anyway, he isn't away often much anymore (just for training) but whenever he is we both spend our time rushing to our laptops and webcams and spending hours chatting and having fun.

[SeatClutcher]

Originally Posted by skibum515

At this point, the other FA comes over and wants a picture with them, so as the other CA goes to snap the picture the FA lifts up her shirt and shows her ta's to the camera! ...

Classy woman!

[Cristine]

Originally Posted by Roxswood

Its also the having children thing for us too. DH and I have been out for a meal together without kids twice in the last 4 years. We don't have anyone who can babysit especially not now we've moved to France, and now we have another tiny baby it will be months at least before I could leave her long enough to have any quality time out alone (we make up for this by having lots of quality time in the bedroom while they sleep) but if I can't go out to dinner with my husband then I sure as heck don't want him going out to dinner with some other girl. Alone or not, its not about trust its about not wanting him sharing something with someone else that I am desperate to have with him and can't. He'd be a slamclicker I know anyway, he isn't away often much anymore (just for training) but whenever he is we both spend our time rushing to our laptops and webcams and spending hours chatting and having fun.

I can really really really (do you need anymore reallys) relate to this. my DH and I do not get time alone so it is hard for me not to get envious when he is having dinner w/other females. when he was at Mesaba, it was f/a's or pilots and at the company he is at now, he had female pilot for a long time. i wasn't jealous is the sense that i was suspicious of something happened but I was envious that someone else got such great quality time w/my husband. that said, he does go out to eat with his crews and I wouldnt tell him not to

[Roxswood]

Originally Posted by Cristine

I can really really really (do you need anymore reallys) relate to this. my DH and I do not get time alone so it is hard for me not to get envious when he is having dinner w/other females. when he was at Mesaba, it was f/a's or pilots and at the company he is at now, he had female pilot for a long time. i wasn't jealous is the sense that i was suspicious of something happened but I was envious that someone else got such great quality time w/my husband. that said, he does go out to eat with his crews and I wouldnt tell him not to

LOL, you're just nicer than me then. When I'm stuck home alone with two children and missing him I expect him to come talk to me on the laptop and keep me company. He doesn't seem to mind though and we've actually found the time on laptops and webcams a great way to connect in a different way. Its been really great for our marriage but I'm still glad he doesn't have to do it very often. I'm so lucky compared to most people on here, he does 5days on 4days off but he's home every night and usually has one or two standby days in his 5days on so we get SO much time together now. Just not alone time and we're far too broke to eat out so thats another reason I guess I would have a problem with it. If I'm not eating out anywhere because we can't afford it then he shouldn't be either. He buys a sandwich and eats it in his room. He'll be away for a few nights sometime in august for recurring training I think and we now only have one laptop I'm going to really struggle with missing him I think without being able to connect directly with him.