The Wife of a Pilot

[Kathleen]

Hmmm. . . didn't mean to inspire thoughts of boiled bunnies or anything with my comment about "tagging along." I guess I could have said "accompany." Anyway, definitely didn't mean "spying."

And, not only are most pilots passionate about their jobs, but at the end of their shift they just may end up someplace fun. So, whereas my DH generally doesn't want to spend the day at my workplace (he thinks my job is boring --yawn!) I'd love to be where he's at. I don't think that's psycho; I like spending time with him. And, fortunately, he likes spending time with me, too! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/laugh.gif[/img]

Kathleen

[Virusss]

Ok I get you now
I wouldnt mind anyone coming along with me. It's just they way you phrased it that made me scared.

[Kathleen]

Ha, ha, Virusss -- I have to tell you when I first read your post from this morning I thought you wrote "I wouldn't mind anyone coming on to me." Guess this thread just has my mind in the gutter about pilots and FAs. LOL

Glad you understand what I meant. And glad I read your post again!

Have a great day! [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

Kathleen

[MQAAord]

As the wife of a pilot, and former flight attendant of seven years, I can say first hand that the sterotype of married pilots running around with hussy flight attendants is so NOT the way it really is! I married the pilot I dated while I was a F/A, and so did a few other of my F/A friends. When we were young a single, we dated SINGLE pilots (yes there are actually some nice eligable bachelor pilots out there) and we were friends (and only friends) with the married ones. We even met some of their wives when they would come on overnights. Basically, take it from someone who lived the life for seven long years, if your husband is trustworthy, and if you married him he probably is, you have absolutly nothing to worry about!

by the way, I wrote the flight attendant article on the jetcareers.com website, if you want to read a little of my bio (the article was written about two years ago, I've been displaced once and furloughed twice since it was written) and more about being a flight attendant, check it out! It's under the 'airline flying' section on the main jetcareers.com page.

[TheWife]

Thanks for that perspective! I think I am pretty much over it. Just have to deal with friends and such who still raise an eyebrow. [img]/forums/images/graemlins/smile.gif[/img]

[Kathleen]

Hey, Amber, that's a great article you wrote! I have to admit I've always had a secret desire to be a F/A. I do hope you get called back from furlough soon (is that the correct terminology?)

I have to share with you my American Airlines experience, especially since it involved two Chicago-based F/As. A very dear friend of mine was on the plane that hit the Pentagon. I was astonished by the generosity of AA in the days following. They flew me and a few of our other close friends to Chicago for her memorial service (first class, for free), and I was met at the airport by two of the loveliest F/As who did everything they could to take care of us at this terrible time. And this on top of it being a terrible time for them, too! I've never forgotten these ladies and AA for this. One of them I believe was named Marty -- thought you might know her, since it's an unusual name for a woman. Quality people you work with.

Kathleen

[Kristie]

Hey Michelle,

friends... friends... aaargh.. sometimes friends just don't get it...

keep in mind that "friends" don't understand what your lifestyle is like... they probably think you make to much money (#1 talk among my friends), hubby gets too much time off and never works (#2 talk), think all pilots & F/A's are flirts and that's why divorce is so high amongst (#3 talk)... blah blah blah...

most of my friends have no idea what we (doug and I) deal with on a daily basis and yet still have the balls to complain about the opportunities we're afforded... I even had one friends husband tell doug that if the pilots ever went on strike because of money - he'd be all for the scabs... how cruel is that eh?

but anyways - friends just don't understand and unless their in the industry or understand the industry... i just don't think they ever will understand because they don't want to listen and take your word for anything... as you start climbing the scale, they start getting more and more jealous about the "things" you have/can get/can do which just does nothing for me - it's sad and sometimes depressing to have them think that your so far "above" them when really, we're not....

but anyways - i could go on for hours... maybe i should vent eh?! haha :?

[Fluffiest1]

Tagging along is great in the fact that you do see what kind of life the men and women go through. It can be exteremly lonely sometimes if you are a single person.

I completely trust my other half and know he flirts with FAs/gate agents/ticket agents, even though he denies it. I have no problem with it as long as that is it...flirting. We all do it, and if we don't, we really should be dead:-)

Most of my friends are in the airline industry and yes, there are some out there that would cheat, but in general, there are great guys/gals as pilots and FAs.

Kristie-my other half is a Delta Capt. on the 767/757 and pretty senior....we are laid back people and honestly, your friends will love and support you for you-NOT how much you or your spouse earns. Don't get sad or depressed. There is a large age gap between him and I and most of my friends don't earn as much. They don't really care as long as we are content and faithful to each other. Keep your chin up!

[Kristie]

well, it sure will be nice when that happens... it seems that everytime we're able to accel at - they get irritated with because they can't do the same thing... like - they were ticked when we bought a nice "medium" scale home - so they had to go out and find one with 100 sq ft more but less expensive....

and he (the other husband) had to compete with our engagement ring sizes.. first words out of his mouth "it looks just as big as yours"...

and now, we had to buy a new car, so being the researchers/frugal buyers we are - we bought a BMW and they got irritated at that too cuz they can't buy one (his excuse - his ex-wife takes all the money for the 2 twins they have)... i figure, not my fault since we were single when we got married and have no children...heck knows we did nothing wrong but be frugal buyers and go for a car that would be of higher resale and dependable... i think he (the husband) just needs to get past the whole competitive issue cuz it's really becomes a drag everytime we're able to go on a vacation, buy something that we want/need or what not when they can't do the same thing!!

right now, it's disappearing but that's only because we, in a sense, had it out with them - they wanted to talk about it and get it all out in the open...

oh well.. but anyhoo...

i have to agree that tagging along is a good thing cuz it's not that we're "spying" but enjoying the company of our family AND watching them do their magic!!! as well as enjoying the travel benefits!!!!

kristie

[TheWife]

[quote:c697357f03]flirting. We all do it, and if we don't, we really should be dead[/quote:c697357f03] I have to disagree with you on that, but I guess it depends on your definition. Flirting is dangerous and I don't think it's ever appropriate for a married person to lead on to someone else that he/she is available for that type of conversation. JMO though. What's right for me isn't right for everyone else.