How are you Lindsay?

[spotty4]

Originally Posted by bartswife

He said that I will never be able to forgive him so we should not even try.

WOW! What an immature cop out! He knows he's the one at fault yet he still turns the situation on you making it your issue that you'll never forgive him. That's a guilt trip, kiddo ... don't fall into it. Make the decision about the future of your relationship w/ him your OWN! Like the others have indicated, he's not ready for a mature relationship. And he's not ready for someone really wonderful. He's doing what most 20-something men do. Keep your chin up, stay healthy, and definitely keep your dignity.

[FilleBelle]

If he isn't willing to try, then not only is there not much you can do, but he doesn't deserve you anyway.

My sincere condolences. I can only imagine how disappointed you feel in him and in yourself. I hope things start looking up very, very soon.

[CLErocks]

Maybe you just worded it wrong,but why would she be dissappointed in herself? She didn't so anything wrong.
Maybe just dissappointed with the situation.

[Regina]

Originally Posted by Bigsweetie

Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear all of this.

Please listen to your H though, he's not ready for marriage. He's way too immature. If he wanted to be a pilot only to "score chicks" then that is a HUGE red flag. He's basically telling you he'll never be monogamous... at least not now.

Just keep reminding yourself that you are better off w/o him (because you SO ARE!!)! I know how hard it is to realize that the person you thought you married isn't who they were at all. The wolf has taken off the sheeps clothing and now you see who/what he really is.

I definetly agree with this... take care.

[kimlantse]

I'm so sorry that you're having such a horrid time just now. Sending you *big squeezy hugs*

Originally Posted by Bigsweetie

Be glad that you found out about it now, and not many, many years from now after you've put so much of your heart and life into him and possibly had children.

I absolutely agree with Bigsweetie above. And it doesn't seem fair at all that he's putting you through this roller coaster ride of emotions, but Katherine is right too, try to keep your dignity and hold your head up high, whatever decision you choose. You will get through this.

[devin]

I am so sorry that you have to go through this, please keep your head high and know that you did NOTHING wrong at all. No matter what he says to make you feel bad, don't let yourself fall for it. He is the one that messed up, he is the one that is immature, and he is the one that isn't worthy of you! The things you wrote about are huge red flags that he doesn't feel like trying, and/or that he is trying to turn the tables/shift the blame and make you feel bad instead. Don't let him bring you down!

As for divorced at 23, try your best to not let it affect you. I was married at 23 to a guy I had been dating since 18, and it was over by the time I was 25. I felt horrible for a long time, secretly feeling that I was a failure or a bad person because my marriage failed. While he didn't cheat on me, he was emotionally abusive and fairly controlling. I'm so much happier now, and looking back it's hard to figure out why I tried so long when he made me so unhappy.

It's a hard road, but always treat yourself with respect and dignity. I know you'll end up with someone much better.

[patty@myflightsurgeon.com]

Originally Posted by bartswife

that So now I am getting ready to go through a divorce at the age of 23 after a 1 year marriage.

I was married at 15 yeah 15 and had my first child soon after, I was separated at the age of 16 and divorced at the age 17. But luckily I found the man of my dreams at 18 and have been married for 23 years.

So it might take you a while but keep your head up and like everyone else has said. This is a blessing in disguise.

Hugs to you just remember it needs to be YOU right now, not him.

[ccbegay]

Lindsey...

I just wanted to say, that I am really thinking about you...we've never met, but just know that myself, and all these other great ladies are here for you!