Am I just unreasonable?

[FilleBelle]

For those of you who may have missed my story, my pilot and I have been dating for about six years. A year ago he made some very bad decisions that had a terrible impact on our relationship. He didn't cheat, he didn't lie, he just stopped devoting time or energy to us. I broke up with him, saying that if he decided to shape up, I would be willing to work things out. It took him eight months to decide he wanted to try again, so here we are.

While we were not seeing each other, he went on a few casual dates with other people. This is one of the things that made him remember what he loves about me, he says. At any rate, he made the mistake of mentioning that one of the "friends" he went out with a couple of times is still very much interested in him. I told him it makes me feel uncomfortable that they still hang out and he assured me she is clearly NOT a threat. Not so clear to me, who is over a thousand miles away from him.

Tonight I asked to see him on a particular weekend which he has off and he declined because it is this girl's birthday. I was extraordinarily infuriated. I feel like an attached person probably shouldn't be buddies with someone who is harboring hopes of a romantic relationship in the first place. More importantly, I feel that my boyfriend shouldn't blow me off to hang out with this person.

I don't actually believe in the slightest that he would cheat on me. I guess what really bugs me is that I would never hang out with someone I knew had a big crush on me, just for safety's sake. It seems cruel to the person with the crush as well as to the significant other. Is it totally unreasonable to feel upset by this? Should I just shut up and let him be friends with whoever he's going to be friends with?

I dunno...maybe I'm just venting