Too much to do...

[ccbegay]

Sooo...I'm nearing stress overload here...I have 3 class days left, 12/10 start finals for which I have 3 of them...I am the group leader for an hour presentation of all males (nothing wrong with than, I'm just the only girl!)...2 finals are cumulative for the whole semester...I have my biological mother, sister and brother coming from Utan and New Mexico for graduation on the 13th...graduate the 15...bf's family will be here also...and most like the BF will not be here...I'm under a lot right now, and just typing it out makes me panicy...how do you handle stress when the BF/DH is not at home?? and you have no 'real' friends or family near by??? I'm reaching my limit here, and don't know where to turn too or what to do...

[BAC]

What are all the things you have to do?

I would write a list of all the different things you have to do for school and for getting whatever you need to get ready for the visiting family and then do each according to priority. As for doing things without any family or friends around... I'll let you know on that..

Remember to breathe!

[christykay]

BREATHE!

Is there anything that I can do to help? I may not be a "real" friend, but I have lived away from family for 6 years and I know all too well how difficult it can be sometimes, especially when your to-do list is overwhelming and the DH/SO is not around.

Make a list like BAC said and find the highest priorities. Do what you can do before the family arrives and then let them help you when they arrive. Your family is there to see you at your graduation, meaning you need to graduate. School #1 priority. Cleaning, folding laundry, whatever is on that list is secondary to school.

Good luck, and again, if you need help please feel free to pm me!

[ASLhands]

Cassie-
I wrote a post very similar a few months ago. You responded and said something like: Focus on yourself. Take a moment for yourself and take a breath. This is an exciting time for you! You are graduating- Yay! Enjoy it. Know that your bf is proud of you and celebrates with you even though he may not physically be with you. Take a breath and a step back and just take one thing at a time.

P.S. Congratulations on graduating!

[Bigsweetie]

Oh sweetie! I know how you feel!!! I'm most likely going to have this baby early, meaning this month (even my doc said so) and DH most likely won't be here for it. I have NOTHING ready for the baby yet (washing clothes, bringing up baby gear from the basement and cleaning it, installing the carseat, etc.) and then there's Christmas! I have most of my shopping done, but nothing wrapped, still have some odds and ends to tie up, parties galore, need a Xmas outfit for Emily and take her to the mall for her pic with Santa, putting up the tree and decorations, etc. I need a haircut desperately. Yadda, yadda, yadda. Not to mention I am sooooo huge that I get winded at the drop of a hat! DH is only home sporadically this month due to all of the scheduled UPS flying so when he's home i'm putting him to work, BIG TIME!! I'm not usually one to do a "honey-do" list for him, but this month... he's gettin' one! LOL!

Just know that you're not alone. Heed what everyone else has told you. School is #1 priority, and then.... just relax.

When i'm overloaded like this I just make a list, prioritize it, then and just say "I can only do one thing at a time." and just go down the list. If i'm panicky or nervous not much gets done.

(((((HUGS)))))

[flyershoe]

I can't really add anything better than what anyone else has said... but HANG IN THERE!! I know how crazy the end of the semester is... I'm at the same point myself and decided to go to Paris this weekend in the middle of all of it, plus a few crazy work things... (not to mention Christmas).

Just think... you will be DONE in less than 2 weeks!!! Just remember that you'll be done soon, focus on one thing at a time and know that the craziness is only temporary... next year, you'll have a whole host of new things to worry about!

CONGRATS - you're almost there!!!!

[Kristie]

write a list!! one thing at a time and you'll be just fine! try to multi-task too much and you'll drive yourself nuts!

remember to prioritize and take anything that's NOT absolutely on the need to get done list off of the list or at least put it at the bottom...

Good luck!! you'll do fine and it'll be over in a flash!

[DaytonaBeachGal]

Prioritize and keep knocking things off the list. And don't forget to do something nice for yourself in all this stress..work out, get a massage, inhale ice cream while watching cheesy late night movies from the 80s..oops that's ME! sorry. Anyway, even if you have no friends or family you can physically reach out to don't underestimate the power of venting to a friend over the phone. I don't have alot of close connections here locally yet, and when my husband leaves I can get overwelmed quick with the house/school/life;s dramas etc. I call a friend or my Mom and just vent. That's why pets are great too take care!

[ccbegay]

Thank You ladies, so very much...

I tend to see the big picture, and get overwhelmed and panicky really quick...but I have done just so...writing everything down...and really trying to do one day at a time...I have 3 finals left, and then yes, next Saturday is the BIG day...BF leaves today and will be back Wednesday, and out again on Friday, so unfortunatley he won't be at the ceremony...but, *breathe* one day at a time, and I figure, we are fixin up our house and isn't perfect, just adds character...hahaha...so, as long as I can make it to my graduation in one piece, I did something right!

Thanks again!

Cassie

[Kristie]

I used to do the exact same thing...got into the habit or writting and prioritizing and i don't have those panic attacks anymore when i have "too" many things to do... once you get used to it, you'll feel so much more calmer about everything and you might find that you can complete a task much easier/faster using that direction.