Taking a break

[spotty4]

I agree w/ what most everyone has indicated in this thread. Red flags. If he was *really* into the relationship, none of this would have ever surfaced.

You're young. The relationship is very new. IMO, do yourself a favor and give him the ultimate break. Don't invest yourself into a person that seems fishy, non-committal, and, to use seatclutcher's words, a dink! You deserve better. Don't make excuses.

Oh, and while you're young and still figuring things out in the dating world (and this applies to ALL OF US women, married or not), read this book!
Amazon.com: He's Just Not That Into You (The Newly Expanded Edition): The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys: Books: Greg Behrendt,Liz Tuccillo,Lauren Monchik
This book high lights the red flags and tells us women to be better to ourselves and to quit making excuses for our guy.

Good luck! We're all curious to know how its going.

[spotty4]

Oh, and on another note, my fiance' is very supportive of me finding this forum. He thinks its great to have an outlet and to meet and discuss topics w/ other folks in the exact same shoes. That is, we all understand each other's positions much better than most other wives and girlfriends. If your bf is not supportive of this network, then there is yet another red flag.

[Regina]

I wish I knew about that book when I was in the dating scene...sounds like a good one!

[flyershoe]

Originally Posted by spotty4

Oh, and while you're young and still figuring things out in the dating world (and this applies to ALL OF US women, married or not), read this book!
Amazon.com: He's Just Not That Into You (The Newly Expanded Edition): The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys: Books: Greg Behrendt,Liz Tuccillo,Lauren Monchik
This book high lights the red flags and tells us women to be better to ourselves and to quit making excuses for our guy.

Good luck! We're all curious to know how its going.

That's a great book! I've heard a lot of critics, but I think it's fantastic. I think I saw that they're coming out with a movie version, too.

[czechmate]

What's the latest?
I really hope you've gotten things worked out for you.

I agree with pretty much everyone -- he sounds like a lying, immature "dink".

Is he REALLY a pilot????? I would have Doug verify his employment (just to verify), dump him and move on.
You deserve much, much better.

Good luck.

Jen

[SeatClutcher]

Originally Posted by czechmate

Is he REALLY a pilot????? I would have Doug verify his employment (just to verify), dump him and move on.

Why? (just curious - I don't get it. You mean he could be pretending to be one to get da chicks? A guy actually did that in Rochester, NY in a bar. Ian had gone outside to smoke, and this guy came up and started talking to me, said he was a pilot, and then Ian came back in and joined the conversation. You know - talked about pilot stuff.

Suddenly, the guy wasn't a pilot anymore. Nope - he'd just worked for an airline, or something. Or not. It was HILARIOUS.)

[guessharmony]

Sorry I haven't replied in a while. It's been really busy.
So, I finally talked to him about it. He explained it all to me, but I was so tired/confused, I don't really remember. Something about the class change on his license. He cannot fly the airline for 6 months after being put on leave, but because corporate/private are on different regulations, he can fly for them. He showed me his license, paperwork, etc., so it really is legit. I even flew with him the other day and talked to his usual co-pilot. (PS I got to meet Alton Brown! - he's the guy on Food Network -"Good Eats" - if anyone watches)
But as far as the relationship goes, he has taken a job in Florida for a few months, but isn't moving (thank GOD!), so everything has worked out pretty much ok.
Thanks so everyone for all the advice etc. It is much appreciated! I'm so glad everything got cleared up

[BAC]

Originally Posted by guessharmony

But as far as the relationship goes, he has taken a job in Florida for a few months, but isn't moving (thank GOD!), so everything has worked out pretty much ok.

Ok.... so now that he isn't going to training or moving he doesn't want to "take a break"? Now that everything is all conveinent for him? Am I understanding this correctly or do I have something wrong?

Well.. if you're ok with that, that's fine. I would just be extremely confused and/or pissed off if it were me in that situation.

[guessharmony]

Well, we are still discussing our relationship. I think technically we still are, but not really. We are still dating, nothing has changed, but we are seeing where his job takes him. At this point, he doesn't want me to deal with him being gone for a long period of time, since he doesn't think it is fair to me. But again, we are still discussing this and it's a work in progress

[SeatClutcher]

Originally Posted by guessharmony

Well, we are still discussing our relationship. I think technically we still are, but not really. We are still dating, nothing has changed, but we are seeing where his job takes him. At this point, he doesn't want me to deal with him being gone for a long period of time, since he doesn't think it is fair to me. But again, we are still discussing this and it's a work in progress

Don't people see even less of each other when they break up?


(I've never understood the logic behind breaking up because you don't get to see each other often enough.)

Wait! It's so you can have sex with other people.

I forgot.