Taking a break

[Dana]

I totally agree with Kristie on this... something doesn't jive! Kristie, if they are off on * medical leave* can they fly for someone else?? (Delta specifically)

This relationship sounds new. Be careful. Take a step back and look inward at this.

[BAC]

Originally Posted by guessharmony

] I know how easy it is to say that I shouldn't be with him, but if it wasn't for all this pilot stuff, we would be great together.

If it weren't for that, it would be something else. Going through "the pilot stuff" only reveals his true intentions and I think someday you will be glad you got to find out this early on.

[flyershoe]

Originally Posted by guessharmony

What happened was that he is on medical leave from Delta until January, I think he has been since June (?). But in January he can go back to the airline. Since then he has been doing a few corporate jobs, and has an offer for a new one that will begin next week. IDK, maybe I am just confusing things.

Like what Kristie said... if he's on medical leave, meaning that he lost his FAA medical to fly, he CAN'T fly for anyone.

Something about his whole story sounds fishy. I definitely think you should PM Kristie his name so they can see if he even works for DAL. Please be careful... it's better to find this out now and get over him rather than have this on again off again crap drag out over a year or even several years.

[the_woman_99]

I agree with what everyone else has said. I know it doesn't make things easier but you will be happier to find out now rather then later down the road. You don't want to be with someone who 'might' be having problems being honest with you.
I am going through the whole SO in training right now and he hasn't said any of those things to me. If he did I seriously think that I would kick his ass It is a good thing he knows better! HA HA HA

Again I would take Kristie's suggestion and give her the name so that she can check things out for you. Hopefully you figure things out. I am here if you need to talk. I am sorry that you are going through this.

[jr_lenz]

Sorry babe, there are red flags everywhere. I don't buy the "take a break stuff either" sorry, I know you are very invested in this relationship, but I think he is trying to "hint" at what he doesn't have the balls to say. Stand up take a deep breath and tell him that you deserve better, none of this mind game shi*

[jr_lenz]

Second thought just occured to me...maybe he got mad at for visiting this web site, b/c if you shared his story with people who knew what was going on then you would figure out that he is lying. sorry just a thought.

[Regina]

I'm sorry you are going through this, but he just sounds like he isn't being totally honest. He also seems like he is trying to break up without hurting your feelings by using the airline excuses. I don't know, obviously, I could be wrong, but the advice about medical leave and not working for another airline seems on target. My hubby was on medical leave for breaking his collar bone about a year and a half ago ( for about 6 weeks or so) if he would have gotten a job during this leave, they would have fired him. If they are unable to fly for one company because of medical reasons, they are unable to fly for another company for the same medical reasons.

Have you ever seen his delta uniform? Have you ever seen a uniform for any of these other companies he is flying for (some corporate do not have specific uniform other than khaki's and a polo or something like that)?

Not that it is any of my business, but I have a suggestion for you: If you are sleeping with him, stop. See if he still comes back to visit you. If you are not sleeping with him, make sure you don't until some honesty/trust is established.

Something else that just doesn't seem right is that he is on leave until January. You met him 2 months ago, and he has already had several corporate jobs? My husband flew corporate for awhile, and they put money into training you on their airplane. They wouldn't be hiring someone temporary like this, with some exceptions I guess. BUT several corporate jobs in a couple of months...I don't know. Then, you mentioned he might go to training in Paris or something or be moving to Florida, but he is going back to Delta in January? So, he is going to pick up his life, move, for a temporary job....you live in Atlanta, but Florida is too far for a relationship...? If someone wants a relationship, Alaska wouldn't be too far. It just depends on if you want it. I think some people on the list did the whole long distance relationship thing because both wanted it. So, it is possible.

This entire situation just seems too odd to me. Just from what you have written, it doesn't sound like the pilot thing is what is causing the trouble in the relationship. It sounds like his uncertainty and possible dishonesty is causing it. I know you like him, but if you find out from Kristie that he is being dishonest, cut your losses now. You wouldn't want to put anymore time into a relationship that begins like this. Just my opinion though.

[guessharmony]

You ladies are all right. This does sound a little suspicious. But, I have seen his uniform, I know that he was based out of Cincinatti. As for the medical leave, I am still trying to figure that out. He was going to do a temporary job, which was the reason for the Dallas/Paris training, but since that fell through, there was another offer that he had from a while back, and that's the one in Florida. If he takes it, he won't go back to Delta. Again, I am not sure where the medical leave fits into all of this, but he and I are going to talk tonight and I am going to find out, because now that you all bring it up, it bothers me too. But thank you all sooooooooo much for your help and concerns. I'll let you know what I figure out!

[Kristie]

Originally Posted by Dana

Kristie, if they are off on * medical leave* can they fly for someone else?? (Delta specifically)

This relationship sounds new. Be careful. Take a step back and look inward at this.

see, that's the thing.. from what i understand and i may be wrong...but i think once you're on medical leave, you essentially lose your medical meaning you're unable to pilot a plane, any plane.

Doug says it means your "unfit" to fly.. but isn't that the same as "we're taking you off of your flying duties" and if so, doesn't that also mean that you can't be flying a plane at all, anywhere, anytime?? doesn't it have to do with FAA regs as well?

someone correct me if i'm wrong.

[felly]

okay, so, my boy and i were dating for 4 months when he left the state for flight instruction and then when he stayed out of state for training. maybe it's the fact that it's a new relationship that makes him think a break is appropriate, but i don't. i think it's great that you're okay with it, and it makes me worry that he was so upset that you were. that *is* the point, to be okay with the situation and yourself. i applaud you for being able to take a step back and evaluate what he meant to you, which is obviously a lot if you're able to put your feelings aside for his career needs.

when my boy and i first started dating we took a "break." we tried to be "friends." it lasted...oh, about a day. if it's meant to be then it will come back into swing quickly and fiercely. i would definitely talk about where your relationship stands since this hurdle has been in place, but as i read on it sounds like he isn't going now? either way, i think now is an appropriate time to evaluate everything, and i wish you the best of luck!