Next week begins alone time...

[ccbegay]

So...after five months of flying here in the Carolinas that BF has decided that in order for him to get the hours of PIC and turbine, we need to do some regional flying...SO that in the future he can have a better chance with getting a "real" corporate job...

SO...that leaves me here...for 6.5 weeks while he is doing Eagle training...I read all the posts on here about staying busy, communication, trusting, strong network of friends, etc...but I'll be honest...I am SO not ready...for some strange reason, I'm so emotional right now, and the thought of him being gone makes me just want to cry...I'm stressed right now, as it is my last semester and it is only the second week of school...this whole summer we've been working on the house and there are unfinished projects throughout the house so that adds to the frustration...we've had plans to do so much (with the assumption that he was going to be here) but it just seems everything has been turned upsidedown, and I am not ready...I knew that is was coming, but not so soon...really, all I want to do is just cry...

[roz]

Cassie--deep breaths!

You need to focus on school and he needs to focus on training. Forget the house now--focus on what you need to do because it's the focus on the future that will enable you to get to the house in due course.

Focus--you both need to support each other now in becoming the best you can be. Timing is never what we expect. So we deal with it.

Hugs.

[Alli1101]

I absolutely agree with what Roz said- focus on school and yourself, not the house and all sorts of other things that need to be done.

I understand very well how emotional and scared and bad you're feeling right now.... None of this is easy. But I do have to say, after a little bit of time, it does get easier. I didn't see my BF for over a month due to various issues, and it was horrible at first (my family and friends must have gotten so sick of my tears and moodiness). But, I have to say, as the weeks went on, I did get more used to the situation.

If I had to make any suggestion as to how to make this easier, I'd definitely say be around other people more. Being around my family definitely helped, as did making extra plans with friends. Also, given that you're still in school, I'd suggest studying in the library if you don't already do so. I know it was always just better for me to be around other people in a similar mindset, particularly when I had a lot of other things on my mind.

[Bigsweetie]

Oh sweetie! We're here if you need us!

Oh! And keep reading that quote above your name in your signature!

[christykay]

Hey girl-
So...when are we getting together? I may live in SC but I'm not too far from CLT. Seriously if you need a little break I am home with the 3 year old during the day (the other 3 are in school).

It looks like DH will be leaving his management position (by choice) and going back to the line within the next couple of months so I completely understand the thought of stress that goes with having the SO away from home. I will be right there with you and I too am not sure if I am completely ready. YIKES!!!

[UKcats06]

You can do it! Dh is going to start with CHQ in October or November, and I am terrified, too! You can do it and then you can help me! Its only a few months out of life, not all that much. Focus on school and you won't even notice he is gone.

[ace12]

This is definitely a downside to dating a pilot. At least there are so many gals around her who can relate.

I guess another strategy is to break it down into thirds- mentally. Before you know it, you'll be on the last part- voila. The first third- totally about YOU, your stuff, school, etc. The second part- do a weekend away- another focal point, before you know it- during the third part- you're just getting ready to have him home (hopefully) for a little while.

Believe me, I struggle too- even a week at a time. Right now, for me, knowledge is power- knowing how long vs. any kind of question marks about trips that arise.

You sound strong- feel free to vent, say you miss him, etc. Hang in there!

Annie

[ccbegay]

UPDATE...

BF leaves today, and unfortunatly I have to work, so I can't take him to the airport...I went to sleep last night, so worried, and woke up so sad...this REALLY sucks...

[BAC]

Aww.. Cassie!! First off, I know how you feel.. do I ever..

Also, go ahead and cry if you need to... just not too long! When you get some of that aggrivation and saddness out, you will feel tons better and be ready to look on the bright side.

It is only temporary and it sounds like you have tons to do with your final semester of school (congrats on that by the way!). It sounds like the timing of him going to training and you able to focus on your school is good. The house projects can wait.

This is time for you and you'll find yourself developing your own routine while he is gone. Make a routine if you don't already have one... like for instance, right from work/school go directly to the gym.. then by the time you get home it will be later in the day and one more day that he is gone is done! Make plans with friends, they will be happy to spend time with you.

You should be so proud of yourself for taking the risk and your accomplishments. I know its hard, but you will get through it. Keep your chin up and keep posting here! If you need anything, please don't hesitate to contact me.

[GreenMtnGirl]

Hey--working on week 5 here. I was miserable at first, even though I've known for a long time that my DB would be doing the airline thing someday. Lots and lots of tears, etc. But you know what? Now that I don't cry (much!) anymore, I kind of miss it. I feel like the tears signify really missing him and I now I kind of miss that physical representation because now I think, "Gee, do I really miss him?" Which scares me a little! It's hard to believe how quickly him being gone has become so routine. You will still feel sad, but everything gets much easier.

I definately agree with the posts about focusing on the really important things. However, during the past week, moving and school have been a such a big distraction, that I feel bad about feeling so far away from DB on my part. I'm learning that it's all about balance!

I know you will feel better! Hope you are having a great holiday...