Last night was...BAD - Page 3

SeatClutcher · 08-27-2007, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Amanda

I finally moved to be with him in PA earlier this year but it was after we had been together for a long time and knew we wanted to start our life together (and as you may know, we got engaged last month). If I had moved to be with him 4 years ago I can't imagine where our relationship would be. In our relationship Nick likes the fact that I am strong willed and independent. If our relationship couldn't cut it b/c we were apart then we were both not invested in the realtionship.
Good luck!

I think that's really the key - moving when you're pretty sure you know you want to be together. It's important to clarify, too, that moving to be with someone doesn't necessarily mean you're not strong-willed and/or independent.

(It can, of course, though...if you move because you're afraid NOT moving will be the end of the relationship. Like getting married, the move should not be made to KEEP someone, but because you have a desire to be with them. This isn't meant to be an argument against what you've said, Amanda...I just think there's an important distinction to be made between the two. Especially when one person - usually a woman - might wrongly assume, "Well - crap. If I move to be with him, that means I'm not being independent!" Which isn't really true.)

Amanda · 08-27-2007, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by SeatClutcher

I think that's really the key - moving when you're pretty sure you know you want to be together. It's important to clarify, too, that moving to be with someone doesn't necessarily mean you're not strong-willed and/or independent.

(It can, of course, though...if you move because you're afraid NOT moving will be the end of the relationship. Like getting married, the move should not be made to KEEP someone, but because you have a desire to be with them. This isn't meant to be an argument against what you've said, Amanda...I just think there's an important distinction to be made between the two. Especially when one person - usually a woman - might wrongly assume, "Well - crap. If I move to be with him, that means I'm not being independent!" Which isn't really true.)

I'm down wit dat!
(I agree)

UPSwife · 08-28-2007, 08:54 PM

I think you have nothing to lose from checking out a new place with an open mind. You might not want to move for him, but it doesn't have to be for him. It could happen that you love Ky and want to live there. I know I haven't been around for the whole conversation, but I live in KY and if you'd like to get together while you are here, I think it would be fun. How long will you be in town? And where--I am thinking near Cincinnati?

SeatClutcher · 08-28-2007, 09:27 PM

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Originally Posted by UPSwife

I think you have nothing to lose from checking out a new place with an open mind. You might not want to move for him, but it doesn't have to be for him. It could happen that you love Ky and want to live there. I know I haven't been around for the whole conversation, but I live in KY and if you'd like to get together while you are here, I think it would be fun. How long will you be in town? And where--I am thinking near Cincinnati?

You mean people love Kentucky?

(j/k)

UKcats06 · 08-28-2007, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by SeatClutcher

You mean people love Kentucky?

(j/k)

Hey now I can't wait to get back there....and I hate living in FL! Thats mostly the people that are there, and really they are in Ohio, but still! I wish more people lived KY so they would buy my house! Haha

the_woman_99 · 08-29-2007, 09:37 AM

I am going for a visit the 19-23 of September. I will be close to Cincinnati. He lives in Florence, KY right now. It would be great to try and get together.

UKcats06 · 08-29-2007, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by the_woman_99

I am going for a visit the 19-23 of September. I will be close to Cincinnati. He lives in Florence, KY right now. It would be great to try and get together.

We aren't moving back until October or November, but after that definitely! Our house is in Elsmere (part of Erlanger) which is like right next to Florence. We can get together at some point! Who does he work for?

the_woman_99 · 08-29-2007, 12:45 PM

He works for Ameriflight. He calls himself a freightdog

08-28-2007, 08:54 PM	#23 (permalink)
UPSwife Jetgirls Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Louisville, KY Posts: 314 Recipes: Thanks: 1 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Re: Last night was...BAD I think you have nothing to lose from checking out a new place with an open mind. You might not want to move for him, but it doesn't have to be for him. It could happen that you love Ky and want to live there. I know I haven't been around for the whole conversation, but I live in KY and if you'd like to get together while you are here, I think it would be fun. How long will you be in town? And where--I am thinking near Cincinnati? __________________

08-29-2007, 09:37 AM	#26 (permalink)
the_woman_99 Jetgirls Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: PA Posts: 399 Recipes: Thanks: 2 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Re: Last night was...BAD I am going for a visit the 19-23 of September. I will be close to Cincinnati. He lives in Florence, KY right now. It would be great to try and get together.

08-29-2007, 12:45 PM	#28 (permalink)
the_woman_99 Jetgirls Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: PA Posts: 399 Recipes: Thanks: 2 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	Re: Last night was...BAD He works for Ameriflight. He calls himself a freightdog

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