Any advice from you long-distance relationship gurus?

[GreenMtnGirl]

Originally Posted by ace12

I want to start a blog, journal, or just writing more about what's going on in my head and heart these days. I think that will help with more of these crazy stretches- even just to be able to look back at my feelings with new perspectives as often as possible.

ace,you should totally start a journal--I 've been trying to write in mine every day and it really helps. If I write in it before I talk to DB, I've already "vented" my emotions/thoughts on paper... and we can just visit on the phone and have meaningful conversation instead of me getting all emotional with him.

[Kelly]

Originally Posted by GreenMtnGirl

ace,you should totally start a journal--I 've been trying to write in mine every day and it really helps. If I write in it before I talk to DB, I've already "vented" my emotions/thoughts on paper... and we can just visit on the phone and have meaningful conversation instead of me getting all emotional with him.

I keep a journal too and highly recommend it. It helps on the "bad days", and I love to look back at the good stuff I've written, it makes me smile and remember that this is all worth it.

[ccbegay]

Originally Posted by Kelly

I keep a journal too and highly recommend it. It helps on the "bad days", and I love to look back at the good stuff I've written, it makes me smile and remember that this is all worth it.

after MANY tries with counseling, I did take away one good thing...journal writing...I have SO many volumes of journals, notes, drawing, I do it all...it does allow me to vent on paper before venting on someone...and yes, I do put the good days in there also, it's a nice documentary of your life...

[the_woman_99]

I know what you are going through. I have been with my pilot for almost a year. We lived together for 5 months before he moved to Kentucky the beginning of August.
It was really hard when he first left. We both had a hard time. He does really good with calling a couple of times a day. Usually I let him do all of the calling because his schedule is not 'normal'.
He has a schedule where he works 3 weeks and then has a week off. I sometimes feel like he doesn't want to spend that week with me and that has been an adjustment for me. He lives closer to home and still has really close friends there. I just have to be patient and see what happens.
Right now I am saving up all the money that I can so that I can re-locate to there and we can be together again.
It has been a big challenge with him gone. But seriously I have just taken it one day at a time. Some days are obviously better then others and I still shed a tear or two when I am feeling down.
The key for me is to just stay busy. The weekends are harder because I am not working as much but I am picking up another job to keep me busy and save more money.
My SO suggested this site to try and help me through these hard times. I always gave him a hard time when we were living together because he was ALWAYS on these things. It is kind of funny now that I have joined one. I really hope that I can make some great friends here that I can relate to.
Best of luck with the whole long distance thing. I am right there along with you

[emi_girl23]

My fiancee went to school in a different town while i had one year left in high school, and he has also been gone for the past three summers,except for weekends, going to california and back cuz he drives truck for his to make enough money to pay for flight school. I find it helpful to get into a routine, before you know it, it will get easier and easier because you think of all the things you have to do while he's gone, cleaning, working, and set aside specific times that you can expect a call, so hes incorporated as something to look forward to in the day. Trust is also a huge factor, you need to give the trust and space he deserves, until he proves to you he doesn't deserve it(hopefully he wont!!). We're a young couple just like you guys and have been dealing with a long distance relationship from a fairly early stage...it takes a lot of work but you can do it if hes the right one!