THE Talk - Page 2

ccbegay · 04-15-2007, 08:41 PM

You know what, it can be hard, and there have been so many times that I will think that I am not strong enough to be doing this...even though the BF now has a job here at "home", I still worry that I am just not emotionally strong enough...but then I have to remind myself of why I chose him, and chosen to live his lifestyle, and bottomline, it's because of the love...it's corny, but just another step to get to the point of a reward...you will find much support and "listening ears" on this site...

Jetboyblue · 04-15-2007, 09:14 PM

Thank you for your kind words. I know that flying will be his life. I can see it in his eyes...whenever he talks about it. How passionate he is about it. He is so excited about his future and life...I can't help but to be excited for him, like I should be.

I understand what you were saying, it wasn't garbled at all.

I try to not get emotional when I'm around him or talking to him. I usually wait until I leave his apartment or get off the phone with him before I crawl into my bed and cry. I just don't want...I don't want him to see how upset I am. Obviously communication is very important. We talk about him leaving all the time.

I know it'll get easier. Just takes practice. Gotta keep my mind occupied with other things.

laralen02 · 04-15-2007, 09:22 PM

Yeah, I know just what you mean...it's good to communicate with him about how you feel, but you don't want to EVERY time you feel that way or else he'll be overwhelmed with it! Luckily you can always vent to all of us about how you feel. And be proud that he's that dedicated to something. Not everyone has a passion like our guys do.

Jetboyblue · 04-15-2007, 09:56 PM

I spent the last 40 minutes crying. It comes and goes. More so lately.

Leaving him isn't an option, like you said. I just have to sweat through this and hope for the best and for some sort of emotional strength that I seem to be lacking.

BAC · 04-16-2007, 07:28 AM

Jetboyblue,

I can very much relate to what you are going through. My boyfriend is in training for his new job (though he's not new to the industry) and has been gone for a month now! He has gotten back twice though for a day.

I also suffer from various spouts of depression and anxiety.. Boy do I know anxiety! I try to keep my crying from him too. You have to remember how hard it is for him too.

You'd be surprised what you are capable of. If you can get through training... you'll be able to get through anything!

Jetboyblue · 04-16-2007, 02:41 PM

Today is definitely a good day. I'm going to get the hang of this. I'm slowly learning to accept that soon I'll be second to a hunk of flying metal and machinery. I love him too much to not be okay with that.

Kristie · 04-16-2007, 03:47 PM

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Jetboyblue, you've come to the right place! I'm sure we all feel that way sometimes, the "do I have the strength to do this" thing. I keep asking myself that same question, but then I think "you know, you don't really have a choice". I mean, this is HIM (flying), it's who he is...the only way to NOT go through this is to not have him. And that's not an option! (hope that makes sense, seems somewhat garbled).

NICELY SAID!!! that is exactly what i would have said as well

and the exact same thing i asked myself years ago. It's been hard but it's been a wonderfully WORTHY hard.

laralen02 · 04-16-2007, 07:00 PM

GOOD! 'Cause sometimes I think I'm insane for doing this, then I remember how much I love him, and that makes it all okay (mostly!).

flygirl813126 · 04-16-2007, 09:26 PM

You are soon to be into Chicago? That makes you in a prime position to attend network jc to meet us and hang out. Also, I am in the suburbs ot if you ever need someplace to veg out, let me know.

Flybird · 04-16-2007, 10:36 PM

I feel like I constantly have "the talk". Brian's not very good at it though! His answer for everything is basically, "well we cant change it right now so no bother crying about it". Thanks. Its very hard. I met him while he was flying to Ottawa where I lived surrounded by my friends and family totally oblivious to the fact that, yes, someday we will have to move. I love to travel and was always on the go but didnt realize how hard it would actually be. Now, Im on the other side of the country, in a different one, with no family and very few friends, pregnant, with a 2 year old wondering how the hell I coped the last 5 weeks with him being gone. Yeah, it can suck big time! But aside from flying they are out doing their best at earning a living and working towards what may (someday) be a great schedule and equally great pay. All that I can say is keep the lines of communication open and find plenty of activities to keep yourself from going insane!

04-15-2007, 08:41 PM	#11 (permalink)
ccbegay Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Concord, NC Posts: 1,659 Recipes: Thanks: 5 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	Re: THE Talk You know what, it can be hard, and there have been so many times that I will think that I am not strong enough to be doing this...even though the BF now has a job here at "home", I still worry that I am just not emotionally strong enough...but then I have to remind myself of why I chose him, and chosen to live his lifestyle, and bottomline, it's because of the love...it's corny, but just another step to get to the point of a reward...you will find much support and "listening ears" on this site... __________________ <-------Halloween fun for LadyBug Kenzie... ~Great Love and Great Achievements involves Great Risks~ CASSIE

04-15-2007, 09:14 PM	#12 (permalink)
Jetboyblue Jetgirls Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Lafayette, IN Posts: 30 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: THE Talk Thank you for your kind words. I know that flying will be his life. I can see it in his eyes...whenever he talks about it. How passionate he is about it. He is so excited about his future and life...I can't help but to be excited for him, like I should be. I understand what you were saying, it wasn't garbled at all. I try to not get emotional when I'm around him or talking to him. I usually wait until I leave his apartment or get off the phone with him before I crawl into my bed and cry. I just don't want...I don't want him to see how upset I am. Obviously communication is very important. We talk about him leaving all the time. I know it'll get easier. Just takes practice. Gotta keep my mind occupied with other things.

04-15-2007, 09:22 PM	#13 (permalink)
laralen02 Jetgirls Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 489 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: THE Talk Yeah, I know just what you mean...it's good to communicate with him about how you feel, but you don't want to EVERY time you feel that way or else he'll be overwhelmed with it! Luckily you can always vent to all of us about how you feel. And be proud that he's that dedicated to something. Not everyone has a passion like our guys do.

04-15-2007, 09:56 PM	#14 (permalink)
Jetboyblue Jetgirls Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Lafayette, IN Posts: 30 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: THE Talk I spent the last 40 minutes crying. It comes and goes. More so lately. Leaving him isn't an option, like you said. I just have to sweat through this and hope for the best and for some sort of emotional strength that I seem to be lacking.

04-16-2007, 07:28 AM	#15 (permalink)
BAC Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Indianapolis, IN Posts: 915 Recipes: Thanks: 12 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Re: THE Talk Jetboyblue, I can very much relate to what you are going through. My boyfriend is in training for his new job (though he's not new to the industry) and has been gone for a month now! He has gotten back twice though for a day. I also suffer from various spouts of depression and anxiety.. Boy do I know anxiety! I try to keep my crying from him too. You have to remember how hard it is for him too. You'd be surprised what you are capable of. If you can get through training... you'll be able to get through anything! __________________ Becky Check out my current and past books @

04-16-2007, 02:41 PM	#16 (permalink)
Jetboyblue Jetgirls Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Lafayette, IN Posts: 30 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: THE Talk Today is definitely a good day. I'm going to get the hang of this. I'm slowly learning to accept that soon I'll be second to a hunk of flying metal and machinery. I love him too much to not be okay with that.

04-16-2007, 07:00 PM	#18 (permalink)
laralen02 Jetgirls Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 489 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: THE Talk GOOD! 'Cause sometimes I think I'm insane for doing this, then I remember how much I love him, and that makes it all okay (mostly!).

04-16-2007, 09:26 PM	#19 (permalink)
flygirl813126 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Northwest Suburbs, IL Posts: 778 Recipes: Thanks: 1 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: THE Talk You are soon to be into Chicago? That makes you in a prime position to attend network jc to meet us and hang out. Also, I am in the suburbs ot if you ever need someplace to veg out, let me know.

04-16-2007, 10:36 PM	#20 (permalink)
Flybird Jetgirls Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Portland, Oregon Posts: 67 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: THE Talk I feel like I constantly have "the talk". Brian's not very good at it though! His answer for everything is basically, "well we cant change it right now so no bother crying about it". Thanks. Its very hard. I met him while he was flying to Ottawa where I lived surrounded by my friends and family totally oblivious to the fact that, yes, someday we will have to move. I love to travel and was always on the go but didnt realize how hard it would actually be. Now, Im on the other side of the country, in a different one, with no family and very few friends, pregnant, with a 2 year old wondering how the hell I coped the last 5 weeks with him being gone. Yeah, it can suck big time! But aside from flying they are out doing their best at earning a living and working towards what may (someday) be a great schedule and equally great pay. All that I can say is keep the lines of communication open and find plenty of activities to keep yourself from going insane!

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