Location Question:

laralen02 · 03-25-2007, 07:53 PM

I've been debating on whether it's best for me to live in Dave's domicile, or live wherever I want and have him commute to me.

Currently he's domiciled in DC, and I'm in San Antonio. It's quite a distance.

Today I mentioned to him that when my 2 year contract with this hospital is done, I might move to whatever city he flies out of. He said that this might not be a good idea, because his domicile might change pretty often, then I'd be stuck in a city I might not like.

As a nurse I have alot of freedom though, and I can move almost as easilly as him. Since both of us are new in our careers, I don't think we quite understand things sometimes. Can some experienced someone give me some advice on where is best to live to see him most often?

Thanks, Lara

Bigsweetie · 03-25-2007, 08:13 PM

Hi there!

How often is he in his base? If he's on reserve and you have the means to move (it costs quite a bit of money to move and get settled), it might be worth it. But remember that most apt. complexes have 1yr. leases min. so even though you may have the means to move, it may cost you quite a bit to get out of your lease early. Also, would it be detrimental to your career overall to go from job to job with no longevity? I'm not real familiar with the ins and outs of the medical field so I'm just giving you something to think about.

I'm not trying to deter you from moving, not at all! If you have lots of money to pay moving costs every few months (potentially) and don't mind looking for new jobs frequently it might not be a bad idea.

If he's only home a couple of days/week i'd say hold out on moving.

When DH and I were dating we were long distance for almost two years (now by long distance I mean across the same state- so not real far, but too far to see each other everyday). When I got layed off from my job I moved to the other side of the state to be near him, thinking we'd get to see each other a ton. Well, as it happened I didn't get to see him nearly as much as I thought I would and it was a really tough time in our relationship. I really questioned whether or not I should've moved at all. Of course, it all worked out in the end and now we're married with a daughter! LOL!

Clear as mud? Sorry I wasn't much help.

laralen02 · 03-25-2007, 09:24 PM

Well, the cool thing about being a nurse is that there is NO LIMIT to the options I have.

For instance: I can be a travel nurse. I sign on with an agency, pick a city I want to work in, and then I browse the listings of that city for something that appeals to me. I then let the agency know which jobs I like, and they arrange interviews. After the interviews, I decide how long I want to work at the hospital. The usual contract is 8-13 weeks, but I could stay a year even sometimes. The agency then pays for ALL my moving expenses and ALL my living expenses. The apts they put you in are VERY nice too! I've seen some of my travel nurse friend's places here in San Antonio, and they're fully furnished and way nicer than mine. And the pay as a travel nurse is more than the permanent nurses in that hospital make! You also get the full benefits of the hospital, as well as a bonus sometimes. In some cases, if you really like the place you traveled to, you can even apply for a more permanent job at that hospital.

Nursing isn't like being a pilot at all...no real senority issues most times. Quite often the more you switch jobs, the more money you make through sign-on bonuses, etc. Right now I'm in my first nursing job ever, and due to the bonus I got, I'm still stuck here for a little more than a year. So this post was a bit premature, I'll admit.

I have no idea how often he's in his base, though. He's still in IOE until the end of this week, then he goes to his domicile at Dulles. I'm just thinking ahead as to how I can spend as much time as possible with him.

Chi829 · 03-25-2007, 09:28 PM

You will find that a lot of us gals share the same opinion on this. I personally would NEVER move to DH's base. Its too risky. The good thing about their job is,, as long as there is an airport near, they can get to work! Why not live where 'you' want to live? He can always come to you.

We had the option to move to ATL where DH is based and I just didnt want to do that. I would much rather just stay here in Florida where all my family and friends are. This ofcourse is just how I see things. And you will find that whats good for the goose isn't always good for the gander.

Bigsweetie · 03-25-2007, 10:27 PM

WOW!! That's quite a gig! Sounds like nursing is a good profession to get into!

I'm sure you'll make the best decision for you in the end.

Amanda · 03-26-2007, 08:03 AM

I've been w/ my boyfriend since Oct 2002 and just recently moved closer to his base. The only reason is b/c he will most likely be in EWR for a while and both of our families are in area. My job also transferred me to the HQ which is in the area. Before this it didn't make sense for me to follow him. We did the long distance thing for a long time (most recently it was IAD to PHX).

Your job will make it easier for you to follow him to his base but if it was like Nick's previous airline, bases changed (and closed) constantly.
Amanda
Amanda

Kimberly · 03-26-2007, 11:57 AM

I am a physical therapist, and my job situation is the same. You can be a traveling therapist (as described above) and it is very easy for me to get a job anywhere. But DH and I also chose to live where we want to live which allows me to work where I want to work (as bases and airline situations are so fluid and constantly changing). I also would let him come to you. Does he get flight bennies that you could use?

Kristie · 03-26-2007, 12:30 PM

I've always heard the phrase "never chase metal" meaning don't chase the company, aircraft type or base because anything aircraft or base related can change in a split second.

At one time, I thought i'd move closer to dh (at the time, bf), leave my stable job and all but decided not too simply because i had a stable job that paid the bills.

Now, we truly believe in "live where you want to live" because as long as he's close to an major airport, he can get to his job...commuting isn't all that much fun but living in an area you really don't want to be in and/or having the possibility of not being able to find a decent job outweigh everything.

I've met other traveling nurses before and they do make a ton of scratch...it's also a good stable way of working (nursing is a HOT job right now) and seeing the nation so if you can do that, hell, go for it...but put your roots down in a location you'd rather be than flipflopping around following "his" dream. follow "your" dream and you'll be a happy camper.

laralen02 · 03-26-2007, 08:20 PM

Good! I'm glad there seems to be a common consensus on this. The only reason I brought it up was because I'm already not really wanting to live here. I mean, it's close to my family and all, but NOT my favorite city! I'm also young and new in my career and the options or endless, so I thought I'd try something drastically new anyways. If I can't really see him more often living in his domicile, then why bother? I'll just pick someplace neat. I'd like to live in more of a major hub than San Antonio though. From what I understand, most flights to here have layovers in Dallas, etc. I'd like for him to have a direct flight. But I'm not really sure of what the major places are yet!

amelia · 03-26-2007, 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by laralen02

Good! I'm glad there seems to be a common consensus on this. The only reason I brought it up was because I'm already not really wanting to live here. I mean, it's close to my family and all, but NOT my favorite city! I'm also young and new in my career and the options or endless, so I thought I'd try something drastically new anyways. If I can't really see him more often living in his domicile, then why bother? I'll just pick someplace neat. I'd like to live in more of a major hub than San Antonio though. From what I understand, most flights to here have layovers in Dallas, etc. I'd like for him to have a direct flight. But I'm not really sure of what the major places are yet!

Living in Northern VA near Dulles Airport is a pretty nice area to live in. I grew up in that area about 10 min. from the airport. Its not too far from DC (about 30ish min depending on traffic) and Baltimore and Annapolis are about an hour to an hour and a half away (both are awesome cities). DH and I now live in Colorado...we love it here, but from time to time I miss VA.

My DH currently commutes to Chicago. We are not huge fans on the whole commute thing. DH is a big family man and wants to be home with me and the kids as much as possible. He hates commuting (and the 4 day trips), but its only temporary....he is waiting to get based back in Denver. I don't know what we will do when he moves on to a different airline in a few years. I would hate to move b/c we love it here, but we hate the commute even more. I guess we will cross that bridge when we get there.

03-25-2007, 07:53 PM	#1 (permalink)
laralen02 Jetgirls Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 489 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Location Question: I've been debating on whether it's best for me to live in Dave's domicile, or live wherever I want and have him commute to me. Currently he's domiciled in DC, and I'm in San Antonio. It's quite a distance. Today I mentioned to him that when my 2 year contract with this hospital is done, I might move to whatever city he flies out of. He said that this might not be a good idea, because his domicile might change pretty often, then I'd be stuck in a city I might not like. As a nurse I have alot of freedom though, and I can move almost as easilly as him. Since both of us are new in our careers, I don't think we quite understand things sometimes. Can some experienced someone give me some advice on where is best to live to see him most often? Thanks, Lara

03-25-2007, 08:13 PM	#2 (permalink)
Bigsweetie Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Clinton Township, Michigan Posts: 1,506 Recipes: Thanks: 8 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Re: Location Question: Hi there! How often is he in his base? If he's on reserve and you have the means to move (it costs quite a bit of money to move and get settled), it might be worth it. But remember that most apt. complexes have 1yr. leases min. so even though you may have the means to move, it may cost you quite a bit to get out of your lease early. Also, would it be detrimental to your career overall to go from job to job with no longevity? I'm not real familiar with the ins and outs of the medical field so I'm just giving you something to think about. I'm not trying to deter you from moving, not at all! If you have lots of money to pay moving costs every few months (potentially) and don't mind looking for new jobs frequently it might not be a bad idea. If he's only home a couple of days/week i'd say hold out on moving. When DH and I were dating we were long distance for almost two years (now by long distance I mean across the same state- so not real far, but too far to see each other everyday). When I got layed off from my job I moved to the other side of the state to be near him, thinking we'd get to see each other a ton. Well, as it happened I didn't get to see him nearly as much as I thought I would and it was a really tough time in our relationship. I really questioned whether or not I should've moved at all. Of course, it all worked out in the end and now we're married with a daughter! LOL! Clear as mud? Sorry I wasn't much help.

03-25-2007, 09:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
laralen02 Jetgirls Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 489 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: Location Question: Well, the cool thing about being a nurse is that there is NO LIMIT to the options I have. For instance: I can be a travel nurse. I sign on with an agency, pick a city I want to work in, and then I browse the listings of that city for something that appeals to me. I then let the agency know which jobs I like, and they arrange interviews. After the interviews, I decide how long I want to work at the hospital. The usual contract is 8-13 weeks, but I could stay a year even sometimes. The agency then pays for ALL my moving expenses and ALL my living expenses. The apts they put you in are VERY nice too! I've seen some of my travel nurse friend's places here in San Antonio, and they're fully furnished and way nicer than mine. And the pay as a travel nurse is more than the permanent nurses in that hospital make! You also get the full benefits of the hospital, as well as a bonus sometimes. In some cases, if you really like the place you traveled to, you can even apply for a more permanent job at that hospital. Nursing isn't like being a pilot at all...no real senority issues most times. Quite often the more you switch jobs, the more money you make through sign-on bonuses, etc. Right now I'm in my first nursing job ever, and due to the bonus I got, I'm still stuck here for a little more than a year. So this post was a bit premature, I'll admit. I have no idea how often he's in his base, though. He's still in IOE until the end of this week, then he goes to his domicile at Dulles. I'm just thinking ahead as to how I can spend as much time as possible with him.

03-25-2007, 09:28 PM	#4 (permalink)
Chi829 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Panama City, FL Posts: 1,267 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Re: Location Question: You will find that a lot of us gals share the same opinion on this. I personally would NEVER move to DH's base. Its too risky. The good thing about their job is,, as long as there is an airport near, they can get to work! Why not live where 'you' want to live? He can always come to you. We had the option to move to ATL where DH is based and I just didnt want to do that. I would much rather just stay here in Florida where all my family and friends are. This ofcourse is just how I see things. And you will find that whats good for the goose isn't always good for the gander. __________________ Jo Happily Mrs. Adams www.joandbillsblog.blogspot.com

03-25-2007, 10:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
Bigsweetie Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Clinton Township, Michigan Posts: 1,506 Recipes: Thanks: 8 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Re: Location Question: WOW!! That's quite a gig! Sounds like nursing is a good profession to get into! I'm sure you'll make the best decision for you in the end.

03-26-2007, 08:03 AM	#6 (permalink)
Amanda Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PHL suburbs Posts: 2,086 Recipes: Thanks: 12 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: Location Question: I've been w/ my boyfriend since Oct 2002 and just recently moved closer to his base. The only reason is b/c he will most likely be in EWR for a while and both of our families are in area. My job also transferred me to the HQ which is in the area. Before this it didn't make sense for me to follow him. We did the long distance thing for a long time (most recently it was IAD to PHX). Your job will make it easier for you to follow him to his base but if it was like Nick's previous airline, bases changed (and closed) constantly. Amanda Amanda

03-26-2007, 11:57 AM	#7 (permalink)
Kimberly Jetgirls Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Garland (Dallas Area) TX Posts: 282 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: Location Question: I am a physical therapist, and my job situation is the same. You can be a traveling therapist (as described above) and it is very easy for me to get a job anywhere. But DH and I also chose to live where we want to live which allows me to work where I want to work (as bases and airline situations are so fluid and constantly changing). I also would let him come to you. Does he get flight bennies that you could use? __________________

03-26-2007, 12:30 PM	#8 (permalink)
Kristie Admin/Owner Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 6,576 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 15 Times in 15 Posts	Re: Location Question: I've always heard the phrase "never chase metal" meaning don't chase the company, aircraft type or base because anything aircraft or base related can change in a split second. At one time, I thought i'd move closer to dh (at the time, bf), leave my stable job and all but decided not too simply because i had a stable job that paid the bills. Now, we truly believe in "live where you want to live" because as long as he's close to an major airport, he can get to his job...commuting isn't all that much fun but living in an area you really don't want to be in and/or having the possibility of not being able to find a decent job outweigh everything. I've met other traveling nurses before and they do make a ton of scratch...it's also a good stable way of working (nursing is a HOT job right now) and seeing the nation so if you can do that, hell, go for it...but put your roots down in a location you'd rather be than flipflopping around following "his" dream. follow "your" dream and you'll be a happy camper. __________________ www.jetcareers.com

03-26-2007, 08:20 PM	#9 (permalink)
laralen02 Jetgirls Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 489 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: Location Question: Good! I'm glad there seems to be a common consensus on this. The only reason I brought it up was because I'm already not really wanting to live here. I mean, it's close to my family and all, but NOT my favorite city! I'm also young and new in my career and the options or endless, so I thought I'd try something drastically new anyways. If I can't really see him more often living in his domicile, then why bother? I'll just pick someplace neat. I'd like to live in more of a major hub than San Antonio though. From what I understand, most flights to here have layovers in Dallas, etc. I'd like for him to have a direct flight. But I'm not really sure of what the major places are yet!

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