Fake Friends

Hokuspocus · 07-19-2008, 02:15 PM

I'm just trying to decide what to do. Dh's friend invited us to a party tonight with other "horse people." Dh's friend knows I like horses and I don't know many people out here so dh thought this would be a good idea. Come to find out dhs friend was over here a couple days ago and said that the person thats having the party is excited I'm coming and excited because we are building an indoor riding arena. Since we live on an airpark it is basically a big hanger with a dirt floor since we don't have a plane and we do have horses we thought this would be a good compromise, if we sell the house and someone wants to all they have to do is put a bigger door on it to make it work for a plane. But anyway I don't really want to go now knowing that she wants to come over and use it. 1) its not even built yet, were having a ton of issues getting the permits and its taking longer than we thought. 2)If she comes over falls off and breaks something we don't have insurance for that?! Not to mention I haven't even met her!!!!! So I'm thinking of just calling and saying I'm sick so I don't have to go? Anyone else have an idea??

Thanks!!

Brenda · 07-19-2008, 02:29 PM

Well, just because you are going over to her place doesn't necessarily mean that you two will hit it off, you know?
So, go, have a good time and maybe while you guys are talking you can explain all this to her.??

Good luck!

Amanda · 07-19-2008, 02:53 PM

I think you might be thinking too much about this instead of going and seeing how it turns out! Even if you hit it off and become friends, what's holding you back from telling her that it's not ready/unavailable? You don't have to let her use it, you know!

Mistress Trista · 07-19-2008, 03:02 PM

Could it be she just wants to ask you about it because she wants to build one maybe? It's a thought...

jr_lenz · 07-19-2008, 03:20 PM

you never know, you may hit it off, and it turns into a great friendship. I say go and have an open mind.

SeatClutcher · 07-19-2008, 04:31 PM

Maybe she's excited that someone likes horses as much as she does. If she wants to see where it's being built, why not show her, tell her it won't be done for a while, and leave it at that? It could be she just thinks it's cool.

(Unless you're just not interested in meeting her, period - in which case, there's no reason to go.)

stellaandcorasmommy · 07-20-2008, 01:15 AM

ooo...the indoor riding ring dilemma???

seriously...as horse people without one...aren't we always looking to meet someone that has one??

i wouldn't let that stop me from going. who knows...(like other's said)...you may or may not even hit it off...that will secure your answer. let her know your concerns if you do decide to share your wealth...um...i mean, riding arena. she should be more than willing to sign something that does not hold you responsible. (she would be riding her own horses, right?)

good luck...keep us (or maybe just me)...up to date on your riding ring!

ccbegay · 07-20-2008, 09:43 AM

I would go just for kicks, you never know...

Hokuspocus · 07-20-2008, 10:21 AM

We did go and the lady as soon as we walked up with dh's friend said "Oh your his friend from edgewood thats putting in the indoor." So she immediately got written off in my book, but there were some other people there who were nice. There was a couple of guys from santa fe that had lived (oringinally)in Maine and had moved here from san fran. They were super nice and fairly entertaining, we swapped crazy mother in law stories. So all in all not too bad!!

07-19-2008, 02:15 PM	#1 (permalink)
Hokuspocus Jetgirls Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: ABQ Posts: 368 Recipes: Thanks: 2 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Fake Friends I'm just trying to decide what to do. Dh's friend invited us to a party tonight with other "horse people." Dh's friend knows I like horses and I don't know many people out here so dh thought this would be a good idea. Come to find out dhs friend was over here a couple days ago and said that the person thats having the party is excited I'm coming and excited because we are building an indoor riding arena. Since we live on an airpark it is basically a big hanger with a dirt floor since we don't have a plane and we do have horses we thought this would be a good compromise, if we sell the house and someone wants to all they have to do is put a bigger door on it to make it work for a plane. But anyway I don't really want to go now knowing that she wants to come over and use it. 1) its not even built yet, were having a ton of issues getting the permits and its taking longer than we thought. 2)If she comes over falls off and breaks something we don't have insurance for that?! Not to mention I haven't even met her!!!!! So I'm thinking of just calling and saying I'm sick so I don't have to go? Anyone else have an idea?? Thanks!! __________________ http://spyviewacres.blogspot.com/ Just because your paranoid doesn't mean they won't pull you off the plane!

07-19-2008, 02:29 PM	#2 (permalink)
Brenda Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: EVV Posts: 1,238 Recipes: Thanks: 11 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	Re: Fake Friends Well, just because you are going over to her place doesn't necessarily mean that you two will hit it off, you know? So, go, have a good time and maybe while you guys are talking you can explain all this to her.?? Good luck! __________________ - Brenda, wife to Eric, Capt for Shuttle America.

07-19-2008, 02:53 PM	#3 (permalink)
Amanda Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PHL suburbs Posts: 2,193 Recipes: Thanks: 12 Thanked 12 Times in 12 Posts	Re: Fake Friends I think you might be thinking too much about this instead of going and seeing how it turns out! Even if you hit it off and become friends, what's holding you back from telling her that it's not ready/unavailable? You don't have to let her use it, you know! __________________ Amanda Loving wife of Nick, an Int'l FO for Continental flying the 757/767 based in EWR! We're expecting baby #1 on May 30, 2009!

07-19-2008, 03:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
Mistress Trista Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Monterey, Tn Posts: 554 Recipes: Thanks: 4 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Re: Fake Friends Could it be she just wants to ask you about it because she wants to build one maybe? It's a thought... __________________ I tried to be good...but I got bored.

07-19-2008, 03:20 PM	#5 (permalink)
jr_lenz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Idaho Posts: 888 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	Re: Fake Friends you never know, you may hit it off, and it turns into a great friendship. I say go and have an open mind. __________________ He wasn't sure he wanted a baby sister, but he loved her the moment he saw her.

07-19-2008, 04:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
SeatClutcher Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Manchester, CT Posts: 939 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: Fake Friends Maybe she's excited that someone likes horses as much as she does. If she wants to see where it's being built, why not show her, tell her it won't be done for a while, and leave it at that? It could be she just thinks it's cool. (Unless you're just not interested in meeting her, period - in which case, there's no reason to go.) __________________ Blog: Jet Careers song "Freedom of choice isn't the same thing as being pro-choice." - said by a voter at the RNC

07-20-2008, 01:15 AM	#7 (permalink)
stellaandcorasmommy Jetgirls Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Minneapolis, MN Posts: 133 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: Fake Friends ooo...the indoor riding ring dilemma??? seriously...as horse people without one...aren't we always looking to meet someone that has one?? i wouldn't let that stop me from going. who knows...(like other's said)...you may or may not even hit it off...that will secure your answer. let her know your concerns if you do decide to share your wealth...um...i mean, riding arena. she should be more than willing to sign something that does not hold you responsible. (she would be riding her own horses, right?) good luck...keep us (or maybe just me)...up to date on your riding ring! __________________ stellaandcorasmommy mommy (and general life) rants and raves... http://coconutbelly.blogspot.com

07-20-2008, 09:43 AM	#8 (permalink)
ccbegay Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Concord, NC Posts: 1,681 Recipes: Thanks: 5 Thanked 8 Times in 8 Posts	Re: Fake Friends I would go just for kicks, you never know... __________________ <-------MERRY CHRISTMAS and HAPPY NEW YEAR... ~Great Love and Great Achievements involves Great Risks~ CASSIE

07-20-2008, 10:21 AM	#9 (permalink)
Hokuspocus Jetgirls Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: ABQ Posts: 368 Recipes: Thanks: 2 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Re: Fake Friends We did go and the lady as soon as we walked up with dh's friend said "Oh your his friend from edgewood thats putting in the indoor." So she immediately got written off in my book, but there were some other people there who were nice. There was a couple of guys from santa fe that had lived (oringinally)in Maine and had moved here from san fran. They were super nice and fairly entertaining, we swapped crazy mother in law stories. So all in all not too bad!! __________________ http://spyviewacres.blogspot.com/ Just because your paranoid doesn't mean they won't pull you off the plane!

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