Nervous Breakdown

[the_woman_99]

Okay here I am on the brink of a nervous breakdown...Seriously I am getting close. I just don't know what to do anymore.
So I moved to PA about 4 months ago...it was hard for me to find a job at first but I found one. At first I really liked it and thought that it would open a lot of doors for me. I don't know what I was thinking. I absolutely hate it now. I don't really get along with anyone at work. We have NOTHING in commen. At first my SO thought that I was being a snot in not making friends with just anyone but I asked him why I would want to spend my time away from work with people I can't even stand when at work I am paid to be around them. I am getting over the fact that I don't really have any friends here. It isn't something that I am not already used to. I was picky with my friends when I lived in Utah as well because I want to enjoy my time off with people that I like to be around. Okay anyways I think that I just went off on a little rant there...I now hate my job. I mean really really really hate it. In order to get further with this company I have to stay in my current position for a year before I can move anywhere but here is the catch...where we are living right now there really is nowhere to move up to in a different department or what not. I just don't know what to do. I talked with my SO and he will support me in any decision I make I just don't know what to do. I really really really don't want to go back to work tomorrow. It seriously is so draining and pointless to me. I just find no satisfaction. That is hard for me because I really enjoy working. I am a very hard worker and find satisfaction in the work that I do. That is why I am so drained at the end of the day.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I have started applying for other places to see what happens. I really just hope that something happens soon because I seriously know my breaking point and I am getting there very very fast and that scares me becacuse I have hit rock bottom before and I don't ever want to go back there again.
Life just sucks right now. I am just glad that SO isn't here to see me like this because I hate being around myself right now. I talked with my mom today and she thinks that I should just go in there and quit and not look back and she thinks that I will have no problem finding something but I don't know if I can do that. I still have bills to pay and I can't do that if I don't have a job. I hope that I can find something soon though because I don't know how much longer I can take at this job.
I really just hope that things work out for me here because I love that me and SO are together again and things have been soooooo great since we have been together again. I just really wish that I could figure out this part of my life.
Life is too short to be miserable at a job where you spend 8 hours a day.

Thanks for listening to me vent!!!

[Mrs.Alchemist]

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time... I was having a really hard time at my job, too, when I first got here... and I am stuck alone in a room for 12 hours with only one other person... so, when that person is making your life miserable, they can make it REALLY miserable!!! I had the worst partner, and she did make my life miserable!!! I dreaded coming to work, it was awful! Plus, like you, I am living thousands of miles away from my family and friends, so I really only had (and still have) work to rely on. It can be really hard! I have a new parnter at work now, THANK GOODNESS, but I used to come home from work SO frustrated I almost wanted to tear my hair out! I think back about the misery, and you know who was there for me always...? My Hubby... (We weren't married when I was going through the worst of it) I am sure that your S.O. will understand. I am sure that he loves you and cares about you and wants you to be happy. I was also really at the end of my rope, but I ended up sticking it out (for now at least!).

I guess that I am not really helping you with your problem, but just know that you're not alone. So many of us have had horrible working conditions. And many of us also know what it's like to be away from your support group. Hang in there... be it at this job, or at a new one! I really hope that you find something that you like! No one deserves to go to work and be miserable! The money's not worth it!

[skibum515]

walk in, quit and don't look back.

you can always get a job working at the mall or something like that until you find another career-type of job! The work environment that you're in is seriously destructive to your mental health and relationship (at least it was when I was in that situation - me being miserable drove a big wedge between DF and me)

good luck!

[Comairwife]

Hi hon..
I am so sorry you are having such a miserable time. I don't know if this will help, but, if I was in your shoes, I would quit. I would try to find another job ie mall.. or something of the sort that may hold you over until you find a better career position. Is there another firm in the area that you can maybe work for?

What is it about the people that you don't like? Are they not friendly?

Maybe you can try to find people locally that you might like... maybe on like a women's bulletin board or something... maybe that might help too..

I wish you luck.... if you need to chat pm me

Helen

[BAC]

Danielle, first of all, what is it you hate so much.. is it more than the people? Do you have a hostile work environment? If so, you should contact the HR of your company, and yes you should quit and let them know that is why.

I know all too well what you are going through because I am in a similar situation (except I like what I do and most of the people I work with are really socially stupid or power hungry beeatches). Like you, I am away from my family and friends too. The only thing that makes my work days bearable are the few people who I can tolerate there and the actual work is ok. There have been many many days I have dreaded going into work too. I've been throwing out resumes out all over websites like Monster and Career Builder but not hearing anything back.

I suggest you: #1, take a BIG DEEP BREATH and think to yourself that a terrible job is by no means a permanent condition, and you have every right to dislocate yourself from it. #2, Get a kick ass resume together and start applying and if you are that miserable, don't be too proud to apply to jobs that you would take a pay cut. #3, Be the bigger person with the nasty people you work with, grin and bear it and every time you get angry just think of how great the day will be when you give your two weeks and get the hell out.

You are right, life is too short and don't let that job and those people get the better of you.

[Imachickadee75]

Only you know whether or not an easy to get but lower paying job interm job is at all feasible but I think if I were in your shoes I'd consider it. I'd also make sure that I had ALOT to look forward to in my time off. I've said it here before. Not everybody (like our pilots) get to make a career out of our passions. Instead our careers have to provide enough financially and intellectually to allow us to pursue our passions outside of work. What I'm saying is that if you can't leave your job right now, tightly schedule your off time with pleasant, fulfilling activities. Hopefully you'll meet some likeminded people in the process too. I'm so sorry to hear you're going thru this. It is so exhausting, disheartening and even scary. It also sounds like you need a little vacation back home to recharge. Is that possible at all?

Jackie

[scissorhands]

Hello, Im sorry it's not going so well for you. If it is any help and you want to get out for dinner ,I am in Allentown the 4th Tuesday of every month. You are welcome to come along for our monthly business meeting. It is casual order from the menu. I can give you more details if you are interested, maybe you can network and meet some new people in that area. Be in touch if you want, Joy

[ccbegay]

I hope things will get better for you...I moved from NM to NC, with a company I wasn't going to stay forever with (it was retail, associate manager) but I absolutely could not stand it...they worked with me really good at first, excuses were made saying they couldn't accomadate just me (it was a long story), but really, they didn't care for quality of life and to me that was important, gave them my notice and quit! Never looked back, and just went forward...like many have said, it's too short to be stuck in a job that mentally/physically/emotionaly stresses you out, not worth it IMO...

[katbuad]

Isn't it freakin' amazing how a horrible job can make your ever waking moment miserable? I don't know how that works but it does. You spend 8 hrs out of 24 at work, but you can't sleep worrying about it, so there goes 8 more. You spend the hour before and the hour after dreading going and coming. Throw in a couple more talking about it and worring about it. And, poof, there goes the entire day over a STUPID job.

Much symphathies to you (been there, done that). But, IMO, another great mystery of the universe is that it is easier to find a job when you have a job, rather than quit a job and hope for the best. I don't know why it works that way but it does.

Set a "deadline" two or three months in the future and make that QUIT DAY. During the two or three months bust your butt finding another job. But everyday you get to come in and mark one more day off the calender. Spend some of the time looking at your finances figuring out how long you can afford to be without work, how much money you need on your next job, ect. Make a list with all the things wrong with your current job and all the things you want to make sure your next job has, which will help focus your efforts of finding a truely better job. Do one thing (search the internet, read the want ads, brush up the resume, send out a resume, go on an interview) everyday that is going to take you to the next job. Everytime someone is mean to you, think of the calender with all the x's leading up to QUIT DAY and just smile, knowing you will soon be leaving and they will continue their miserable existance at the miserable job without you. Daydream for a few mins everyday about exactly how you are going to quit, ie walk out, just don't show up, a blaze of glory. Just knowing you are doing something that is going to get you out of there makes the day easier. Just knowing that Quit Day is in your future will make the day easier. And the two or three months will give you time to plan and find a more perfect job.

Best of luck to you!

[Kristie]

Originally Posted by skibum515

walk in, quit and don't look back.

you can always get a job working at the mall or something like that until you find another career-type of job! The work environment that you're in is seriously destructive to your mental health and relationship (at least it was when I was in that situation - me being miserable drove a big wedge between DF and me)

good luck!

honestly, you can't just do that...you'll drive yourself crazy with worry about finances and making ends meet. it takes at least 2-4 weeks to get ramped up and receiving a paycheck again when you start a new job. that can be even more harrowing to deal with than just working thru the difficulty IMO. really, you should have another job before you quit.

but the big question i have is *why* don't you like this job? just cuz you're not making any friends yet? it takes times to make friends, even at my job which i've only been here for like maybe 8 months... i still don't know everyone all that well, they still don't know me all that well and i would honestly not call any of them friends, more or less, acquaintances. if it's because you're not making any friends, then forgetaboutit and just concentrate on work... good quality work!! open your eyes and see the big 360 picture. you picked that place for some reason, what was it?