well, it's been 10 years now...

Kristie · 02-03-2007, 02:58 AM

and i don't feel any different than last year, realistically speaking...not to say i don't feel any different than the first year that i lost my mom, because this year is WAY different than the first year...but, i think i'm doing pretty good considering everything that's been going on....

it's true that over time, you forget certain things that you NEVER actually thought you'd forget...or told yourself you'd never forget....the only *good* thing is that you never forget the person themselves and what they meant to you.

I'm somewhat lucky in that i have old vcr taps of a particular christmas (yes, just one) that i've been able to take from analog to digital just this past week and it's reminded me of my mom (and my dad) and the type of person they were (as we all were back then)... so besides pictures, i have my moms laugh, her movements and smile on video which will always remind me of who she was. I consider myself fortunate.

so even if your special person is gone, it's funny how everyday, you honestly think of them....even if over time, you forget what their voices sound like, what kind of humor they used to have.. how annoying they used to be to you...it brings up memories of things that happened.. yes, it does unfortunately, disapper (even tho nobody really admits it or likes to admit it, it is invariably sad but true).....but the memory of them being there, being who they are esp when you needed them never fades and that's the most important thing to remember even IF you don't have any motion pictures or photos to relate to.

all of the folks that lost their photo albums today in florida will probably feel like they've lost everything and they're right.. they've lost a hell of a lot today even if they didn't lose their lives....but they haven't lost their memories and that's the most important aspect of remembering someone (even if you do forget what their voice sounds like).

My suggestion today, since we have the techology, is to get a camcorder and record those special moments for such a time that you can show your children what they used to be like... or so that you can show yourself what a dork you used to be (yes, i found some of my old tapes this weekend too haha) or so you can remember those people as they were before they passed on to what we hope is a better life. I remember my mom everyday, i never forget who she is or was.. but i did lose her voice and yea, sometimes that's kinda painful cuz you never think that you could forget someone's voice or words or memorable times.. but it does happen which is why we have camcorders today. I'm pretty grateful that i have the one vcr tape of one particular christmas in the 80's that i can draw on...

as it is, i have a life to live and she has always wanted me to continue doing that.. that much i know! so, do me a favor and hug your loved ones today, in memory of my mom who passed away 10 years ago... cuz i kinda wish i could call her out to this world and give her a hug.

sorry bout the book!

roz · 02-03-2007, 08:49 AM

I used to take the family photos for granted until I had them all copied for each of my siblings after my mom died. My sister-in-law cried. She said she never had any family photos. Everything they had was lost in WWII and most of her family perished in concentration camps. The few remaining members came to NY. Whatever family photos they had, her brother kept. When he divorced, his ex-wife destroyed them.

So, you're right. Treasure what you have and give a special someone a hug.

DREAMJ · 02-04-2007, 08:19 AM

You reminded me that family is so important. Sometimes someone will say a phrase that my mom says and I instantly think of her. I am so grateful that through the years we have grown closer. DF and I only have our moms and they are going to walk with each of us at the wedding. We are also doing a family circle instead of a bridal party,because we realized that all our family is special. You made my day.

Bigsweetie · 02-04-2007, 03:07 PM

That was very touching Kristie. I didn't know that your mom had passed away... i'm so sorry!

I have been putting some pictures into an online account. It's totally private, can store as many as you want, is free, and will be there forever (unless something wierd happens to the internet). That way, if I ever lose the physical pictures, I can always go online and download them again (along with videos). We're also going to burn them to a CD and keep it in my safety deposit box.

I will definitely hug someone special today! Thanks for the reminder, we all need that now and then.

flygirl813126 · 02-05-2007, 10:55 AM

What site do you use for your pictures?

Bigsweetie · 02-05-2007, 12:04 PM

There's tons of them out there... Winkflash and Snapfish let you organize your pictures into folders for better organization.

www.winkflash.com

www.snapfish.com

www.photobucket.com (photobucket will give you http:// addresses, HTML tags, and image codes for your photos so you an upload them here and to other messageboards, forums, whatever!)

Check out mine! It's where I store all of the signatures that I make!
http://s8.photobucket.com/albums/a18/Bigsweetie/

02-03-2007, 02:58 AM	#1 (permalink)
Kristie Admin/Owner Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 6,648 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 17 Times in 17 Posts	well, it's been 10 years now... and i don't feel any different than last year, realistically speaking...not to say i don't feel any different than the first year that i lost my mom, because this year is WAY different than the first year...but, i think i'm doing pretty good considering everything that's been going on.... it's true that over time, you forget certain things that you NEVER actually thought you'd forget...or told yourself you'd never forget....the only good thing is that you never forget the person themselves and what they meant to you. I'm somewhat lucky in that i have old vcr taps of a particular christmas (yes, just one) that i've been able to take from analog to digital just this past week and it's reminded me of my mom (and my dad) and the type of person they were (as we all were back then)... so besides pictures, i have my moms laugh, her movements and smile on video which will always remind me of who she was. I consider myself fortunate. so even if your special person is gone, it's funny how everyday, you honestly think of them....even if over time, you forget what their voices sound like, what kind of humor they used to have.. how annoying they used to be to you...it brings up memories of things that happened.. yes, it does unfortunately, disapper (even tho nobody really admits it or likes to admit it, it is invariably sad but true).....but the memory of them being there, being who they are esp when you needed them never fades and that's the most important thing to remember even IF you don't have any motion pictures or photos to relate to. all of the folks that lost their photo albums today in florida will probably feel like they've lost everything and they're right.. they've lost a hell of a lot today even if they didn't lose their lives....but they haven't lost their memories and that's the most important aspect of remembering someone (even if you do forget what their voice sounds like). My suggestion today, since we have the techology, is to get a camcorder and record those special moments for such a time that you can show your children what they used to be like... or so that you can show yourself what a dork you used to be (yes, i found some of my old tapes this weekend too haha) or so you can remember those people as they were before they passed on to what we hope is a better life. I remember my mom everyday, i never forget who she is or was.. but i did lose her voice and yea, sometimes that's kinda painful cuz you never think that you could forget someone's voice or words or memorable times.. but it does happen which is why we have camcorders today. I'm pretty grateful that i have the one vcr tape of one particular christmas in the 80's that i can draw on... as it is, i have a life to live and she has always wanted me to continue doing that.. that much i know! so, do me a favor and hug your loved ones today, in memory of my mom who passed away 10 years ago... cuz i kinda wish i could call her out to this world and give her a hug. sorry bout the book! __________________ www.jetcareers.com

02-03-2007, 08:49 AM	#2 (permalink)
roz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Philly Posts: 2,267 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: well, it's been 10 years now... I used to take the family photos for granted until I had them all copied for each of my siblings after my mom died. My sister-in-law cried. She said she never had any family photos. Everything they had was lost in WWII and most of her family perished in concentration camps. The few remaining members came to NY. Whatever family photos they had, her brother kept. When he divorced, his ex-wife destroyed them. So, you're right. Treasure what you have and give a special someone a hug.

02-04-2007, 08:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
DREAMJ Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: winter park florida Posts: 22 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: well, it's been 10 years now... You reminded me that family is so important. Sometimes someone will say a phrase that my mom says and I instantly think of her. I am so grateful that through the years we have grown closer. DF and I only have our moms and they are going to walk with each of us at the wedding. We are also doing a family circle instead of a bridal party,because we realized that all our family is special. You made my day.

02-04-2007, 03:07 PM	#4 (permalink)
Bigsweetie Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Clinton Township, Michigan Posts: 1,565 Recipes: Thanks: 8 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: well, it's been 10 years now... That was very touching Kristie. I didn't know that your mom had passed away... i'm so sorry! I have been putting some pictures into an online account. It's totally private, can store as many as you want, is free, and will be there forever (unless something wierd happens to the internet). That way, if I ever lose the physical pictures, I can always go online and download them again (along with videos). We're also going to burn them to a CD and keep it in my safety deposit box. I will definitely hug someone special today! Thanks for the reminder, we all need that now and then.

02-05-2007, 10:55 AM	#5 (permalink)
flygirl813126 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Northwest Suburbs, IL Posts: 780 Recipes: Thanks: 1 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: well, it's been 10 years now... What site do you use for your pictures?

02-05-2007, 12:04 PM	#6 (permalink)
Bigsweetie Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Clinton Township, Michigan Posts: 1,565 Recipes: Thanks: 8 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: well, it's been 10 years now... There's tons of them out there... Winkflash and Snapfish let you organize your pictures into folders for better organization. www.winkflash.com www.snapfish.com www.photobucket.com (photobucket will give you http:// addresses, HTML tags, and image codes for your photos so you an upload them here and to other messageboards, forums, whatever!) Check out mine! It's where I store all of the signatures that I make! http://s8.photobucket.com/albums/a18/Bigsweetie/

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