Training- HATE it already!!

AndTA · 03-08-2008, 10:33 PM

All right, so my df left on Tuesday for training...we expect he will be gone for 6-8 weeks and already I feel miserable. I miss him and I am bored and it feels like he has been gone forever. We have been away from each other at the most for 2 weeks, and while that was difficult, this seems much harder, probably because I know he won't be back any time soon.

I really did not think that I would feel this crummy so soon and hope that it gets easier but don't think it will. I just am lonely and miss talking to him and being next to him, and I know my daughter does too. She keeps asking when he will be home and although I have tried to explain to her and show her how long it will be she does not get it (she is only three). I am trying to keep myself busy but honestly can't think of a hell of a lot to do....I mean, I have some good friends/family to hang out with but it just is not the same.

I hate this, I want this weekend to be over and next weekend and the next because then it will be closer to him coming home. It seems pretty bad that I am wishing my days to go faster just so they can be over and I can be closer to my df coming home, and the reality of it is that even once he is done with training, he will be gone so much more than what we have been used to. (He was on reserve before, based in our town and hardly ever getting called to fly- hopefully that changes with the new job, so he can get the hours). Ugh- just needed to vent. Feeling very lonely and down right now. Thanks for listening...

Mrs.Alchemist · 03-09-2008, 03:48 AM

Yeah... My Hubby started last Monday... It sucks... I just try to focus on when I get to see him again, and in the meantime, work as much as possible. I normally have 4 days off in a row, which is an eternity to spend missing him alone, so I switched my schedule around with another girl at work to work more days in a row when he's gone... and have more off when I go see him. Plus, all of my family and friends are in Racine, near you, so... It's just me & my dog... It does suck... but I'm excited for him...

What can you do...? (Plus, I know that the weather is awful where you are, so that just makes you even more depressed!)

BAC · 03-09-2008, 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by AndTA

All right, so my df left on Tuesday for training...we expect he will be gone for 6-8 weeks and already I feel miserable. I miss him and I am bored and it feels like he has been gone forever.

I know exactly how you feel!!! We've all been there at some point. Training sucks! But it is only temporary. Just curious, where is he in training and is there a possibility you could visit him or he could come home?

You'll get through it, and even after training when he is gone more than he was before you will adjust and develop your routines and settle into a groove easier. Try to deal with the 'after training' thing when it comes. Don't think too much or you will drive yourself crazy!

If you need any ideas, let me know. I had to figure it all out too.

Chi829 · 03-09-2008, 09:25 AM

Been there and It sucks. Honestly it was THE worst part of hubby's career so far. I was so lonely and sad for a while! BUT here's the good thing,,, it will get better. You know what I did? I made a stack of little pieces of paper, in your case I might make them normal 8.5X11 pieces of paper and write on each paper how many days til he comes home. I think I started with 60 days, then 59, then 58 and so on. Each day when you get up, go over and rip one off. I thought it would be neat to let your daughter rip them off so she can kind of visualize when he will be home. It REALLY helped me. I had mine on a sticky note pad stuck to my computer monitor at work and it was great for "looking on the bright side" mentality. Hang in there, at least you have your daughter with you. That must help a little. I had no family and only friends who were still interested in the bar scene cause they were all single. It was awful! Good luck! Call on us and vent ANY time you feel like it. HANG IN THERE!!!

ccbegay · 03-09-2008, 09:48 AM

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Originally Posted by AndTA

All right, so my df left on Tuesday for training...we expect he will be gone for 6-8 weeks and already I feel miserable. I miss him and I am bored and it feels like he has been gone forever. We have been away from each other at the most for 2 weeks, and while that was difficult, this seems much harder, probably because I know he won't be back any time soon.

Hey, my BF left for training on Tuesday too! Where and who is he training with??

But, this is the second time in the past, oh, 6/7 months that he's done training...it really has got to be the worst time...we've tossed up the idea of me going to see him in Indianapolis, so we'll see...really, just look at it one day at a time instead of 6-8 weeks...I liked Jo's idea of the tear away calendar, just one day at a time...Good luck, and yes it seems far away, but luckily it happens only once in a great while!

BAC · 03-09-2008, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by ccbegay

Hey, my BF left for training on Tuesday too! Where and who is he training with??

But, this is the second time in the past, oh, 6/7 months that he's done training...it really has got to be the worst time...we've tossed up the idea of me going to see him in Indianapolis

Cassie, who is he training with? I'm sorry, I always ask everybody who mentions Indy..

AndTA · 03-09-2008, 01:18 PM

Mine is in Indy too- training for the Chataqua (sp) certificate with Republic. Cassie- I assume yours is too? Sarah, where is your hubby right now and what is he training for?

I love the ripping of the paper idea. I think we will try that. I think he is going to try to come home next weekend so at least we will get to see him then...and I may go down and visit in the upcoming weeks. I just am a little surprised at how "down" I feel. Although, I do know that the weather has something to do with it too! I need some sun and warmer weather too!!!

Thanks ladies for letting me vent!

jr_lenz · 03-09-2008, 01:43 PM

We did alot with T and Lance durining the "time" away periods. he is 7 now, but still has a hard time when Lance leaves on a trip. we did the the paper ring thing, where you make a train of the paper rings and tear them off one day at a time. We had "special" books, that they both had copies off so Lance could read the bed time story and T follow along with. Right now we have a memory jar...a place for T to write down the things he wants to talk about, that way when they are on they phone and the conversation gets slow T can pull out his jar and remember the things he wanted to talk about. The other thing they do is Lance carries R2D2 with him ( starwars is very big in out house) and takes pix of R2d2 working on the plane, at the hotel, ect.. and send them to us on the cell. Trady loves it. We have one at home and he takes pix to send to lance.

When we were a part, during training, and years of our communting relationship, one of my favorite things to do was to go have coffee dates. This was much harder when he was training, but still doable. We would sit down and both have a cup of coffe together and talk. It was fun when we both could go to a coffee shop. but the back patio works to.

Oh one of our favorites when Lance was in Phoenix, is when we had a walk to dad contest. We logged all the miles we walked, ( I used the car to roughly guess the miles) and we made a map and marked how far we walked. In truth we never made it from Boise to Phoenix, but we had a great time getting out and trying. Plus everything you do to keep your mind off the negative and more on doing "something" helps!

ccbegay · 03-09-2008, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by BAC

Cassie, who is he training with? I'm sorry, I always ask everybody who mentions Indy..

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Originally Posted by AndTA

Mine is in Indy too- training for the Chataqua (sp) certificate with Republic. Cassie- I assume yours is too? Sarah, where is your hubby right now and what is he training for?

Well what ya know!...he's up there doing Republic too! Which plane? BF is doing ERJ...

BAC · 03-09-2008, 04:23 PM

It is spelled Chautauqua..

My boyfriend is with Republic Airlines. Republic HOLDINGS has Chautauqua, Shuttle America, and Republic Airlines under it. It's an interesting thing to get a hold of mentally..

03-08-2008, 10:33 PM	#1 (permalink)
AndTA Jetgirls Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Milwaukee, WI Posts: 51 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Training- HATE it already!! All right, so my df left on Tuesday for training...we expect he will be gone for 6-8 weeks and already I feel miserable. I miss him and I am bored and it feels like he has been gone forever. We have been away from each other at the most for 2 weeks, and while that was difficult, this seems much harder, probably because I know he won't be back any time soon. I really did not think that I would feel this crummy so soon and hope that it gets easier but don't think it will. I just am lonely and miss talking to him and being next to him, and I know my daughter does too. She keeps asking when he will be home and although I have tried to explain to her and show her how long it will be she does not get it (she is only three). I am trying to keep myself busy but honestly can't think of a hell of a lot to do....I mean, I have some good friends/family to hang out with but it just is not the same. I hate this, I want this weekend to be over and next weekend and the next because then it will be closer to him coming home. It seems pretty bad that I am wishing my days to go faster just so they can be over and I can be closer to my df coming home, and the reality of it is that even once he is done with training, he will be gone so much more than what we have been used to. (He was on reserve before, based in our town and hardly ever getting called to fly- hopefully that changes with the new job, so he can get the hours). Ugh- just needed to vent. Feeling very lonely and down right now. Thanks for listening... __________________ Andrea

03-09-2008, 03:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
Mrs.Alchemist Jetgirls Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Anaheim Posts: 451 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 4 Posts	Re: Training- HATE it already!! Yeah... My Hubby started last Monday... It sucks... I just try to focus on when I get to see him again, and in the meantime, work as much as possible. I normally have 4 days off in a row, which is an eternity to spend missing him alone, so I switched my schedule around with another girl at work to work more days in a row when he's gone... and have more off when I go see him. Plus, all of my family and friends are in Racine, near you, so... It's just me & my dog... It does suck... but I'm excited for him... What can you do...? (Plus, I know that the weather is awful where you are, so that just makes you even more depressed!) __________________ Mrs. Alchemist AKA Sarah http://www.myspace.com/sarah_and_lola

03-09-2008, 09:25 AM	#4 (permalink)
Chi829 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Panama City, FL Posts: 1,402 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 7 Times in 7 Posts	Re: Training- HATE it already!! Been there and It sucks. Honestly it was THE worst part of hubby's career so far. I was so lonely and sad for a while! BUT here's the good thing,,, it will get better. You know what I did? I made a stack of little pieces of paper, in your case I might make them normal 8.5X11 pieces of paper and write on each paper how many days til he comes home. I think I started with 60 days, then 59, then 58 and so on. Each day when you get up, go over and rip one off. I thought it would be neat to let your daughter rip them off so she can kind of visualize when he will be home. It REALLY helped me. I had mine on a sticky note pad stuck to my computer monitor at work and it was great for "looking on the bright side" mentality. Hang in there, at least you have your daughter with you. That must help a little. I had no family and only friends who were still interested in the bar scene cause they were all single. It was awful! Good luck! Call on us and vent ANY time you feel like it. HANG IN THERE!!! __________________ Jo Happily Mrs. Adams and Mommy to Liam www.joandbillsblog.blogspot.com

03-09-2008, 01:18 PM	#7 (permalink)
AndTA Jetgirls Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Milwaukee, WI Posts: 51 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Re: Training- HATE it already!! Mine is in Indy too- training for the Chataqua (sp) certificate with Republic. Cassie- I assume yours is too? Sarah, where is your hubby right now and what is he training for? I love the ripping of the paper idea. I think we will try that. I think he is going to try to come home next weekend so at least we will get to see him then...and I may go down and visit in the upcoming weeks. I just am a little surprised at how "down" I feel. Although, I do know that the weather has something to do with it too! I need some sun and warmer weather too!!! Thanks ladies for letting me vent! __________________ Andrea

03-09-2008, 01:43 PM	#8 (permalink)
jr_lenz Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Idaho Posts: 868 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: Training- HATE it already!! We did alot with T and Lance durining the "time" away periods. he is 7 now, but still has a hard time when Lance leaves on a trip. we did the the paper ring thing, where you make a train of the paper rings and tear them off one day at a time. We had "special" books, that they both had copies off so Lance could read the bed time story and T follow along with. Right now we have a memory jar...a place for T to write down the things he wants to talk about, that way when they are on they phone and the conversation gets slow T can pull out his jar and remember the things he wanted to talk about. The other thing they do is Lance carries R2D2 with him ( starwars is very big in out house) and takes pix of R2d2 working on the plane, at the hotel, ect.. and send them to us on the cell. Trady loves it. We have one at home and he takes pix to send to lance. When we were a part, during training, and years of our communting relationship, one of my favorite things to do was to go have coffee dates. This was much harder when he was training, but still doable. We would sit down and both have a cup of coffe together and talk. It was fun when we both could go to a coffee shop. but the back patio works to. Oh one of our favorites when Lance was in Phoenix, is when we had a walk to dad contest. We logged all the miles we walked, ( I used the car to roughly guess the miles) and we made a map and marked how far we walked. In truth we never made it from Boise to Phoenix, but we had a great time getting out and trying. Plus everything you do to keep your mind off the negative and more on doing "something" helps! __________________ He wasn't sure he wanted a baby sister, but he loved her the moment he saw her.

03-09-2008, 04:23 PM	#10 (permalink)
BAC Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Indianapolis, IN Posts: 926 Recipes: Thanks: 12 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	Re: Training- HATE it already!! It is spelled Chautauqua.. My boyfriend is with Republic Airlines. Republic HOLDINGS has Chautauqua, Shuttle America, and Republic Airlines under it. It's an interesting thing to get a hold of mentally.. __________________ Becky Check out my current and past books @

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