I feel like I'm getting robbed

[spotty4]

My honey is back from training and its been awesome to have him home. But amid the satisfaction of having him back, I feel empty and robbed. I work full time during the week. I head into work every day to leave him behind at home. Here he is, finally home, and I can't spend time w/ him b/c I have to go to work.

Who else deals w/ this set up? Will it always feel this way? I sometimes feel like the SAHMs have it good -- when their honey is home, everyone is home, working together for the good of the family/household. I'm sure its not all rainbows and butterflies, though.

I just wish I could see more of him while he IS home.

[Eastbayk]

I struggle with the same thing. The worst is when he has days off during the week and I have to work. For the month of August, I pretty much saw DH tuesdays after work and that was it. It will get better though. With seniority comes better days off, even the reserve lines get better with seniority. This month DH had every weekend off.

If you have a job that is flexible with time, that might help to alleivate some of it, can you work a saturday in exchange for a wednesday off? I can't, so I just suck it up and deal with it. I envy those who don't work specifically because they can enjoy the time when DH is home no matter what day of the week it is.

K

[flyershoe]

Know how ya feel... fortunately next month my honey is off on weekends. In addition to working full time, I'm in class two nights a week, am taking an online class and have homework to do. It's certainly frustrating! I don't know about you guys, but when I get home from work (on the days that I don't have class) I'm tired and don't feel like doing much. It's hard not to get bummed about it!

[Chi829]

Oh YES! I am very familiar with this,, as his seniority goes up,, he can bid for weekends off,,, but at first (and hopefully only a short time) this is what you can expect,,, so sorry,, but hang in there,, it'll get better!

[Bigsweetie]

As a SAHM, I give the ladies here who work outside the home alot of credit. I can only imagine how hard it must be to have the guys home and have to say goodbye in the morning and go off to work. I give you alot of kudos for that.

[Kristie]

What's the chance your job can become flexible if it's not? that's what i did after years of frustration. I just finally talked to the boss, told her what was happening and she offered to let me work M-TH and be able to change my schedule around when i needed it.

Now, with this new job, it was one of the main items before signing on the dotted line. They know what hubby does for a living and they understand that at times, i might need to rearrange my schedule to accomodate but so far, the whole M-TH (4-10hr days) has worked really (!) well for me/us.

see if you can't find some flexibility and talk to your people...if anything, they don't want to lose good people just like you don't want to lose touch with your family.

[BAC]

On the other side of the coin..... it sure is nice to have a job to go to while he is away.. (since I don't have children and all.. that would be a job in itself too...)

[ccbegay]

My bf is in training right now and has been able to come home every weekend, unfortunatly I too work 8-5 on the weekends, and by the time i'm done working and make it home, I really spend about 6 hrs with him, even less, going to school full time leaves me drained and i usually fall alseep well before 9! It is really tough, hang in there...it will get better!

[Bigsweetie]

Originally Posted by Kristie

What's the chance your job can become flexible if it's not? that's what i did after years of frustration. I just finally talked to the boss, told her what was happening and she offered to let me work M-TH and be able to change my schedule around when i needed it.

Now, with this new job, it was one of the main items before signing on the dotted line. They know what hubby does for a living and they understand that at times, i might need to rearrange my schedule to accomodate but so far, the whole M-TH (4-10hr days) has worked really (!) well for me/us.

see if you can't find some flexibility and talk to your people...if anything, they don't want to lose good people just like you don't want to lose touch with your family.

I agree! I soooo wish more companies were family friendly. When I was working as a designer (before Eric and I married) they told me in the interview that, although two of the other designers who were moms worked at home, that if I had kids, they wouldn't be doing that with me. They said they weren't allowing that sort of flexibility anymore. I shouldn't have taken the job, but DH and I weren't even married yet, so kids weren't it the picture right away.

I wish there was some way that the government could give some sort of credit to companies who were family friendly (and not just to families with children). I think it'd be a much better working environment for everyone.

[jr_lenz]

I know you believe what I am saying, and I thought I never would say it...but after having the house to myself for the majority of 4 years, I was so ready for his trip this week. I am so tired and when he is home I want to stay up and visit with him and have mommy and daddy time...but when it is just me and DS I can be in bed at 9:30! who hoo...see what being pg does to you. Of course he tells me to go to bed when he is home, but I can't sleep knowing he is out on the couch, so I go out there and end up falling alseep on his lap!