I feel like I'm getting robbed

[Eastbayk]

Originally Posted by Kristie

What's the chance your job can become flexible if it's not?

see if you can't find some flexibility and talk to your people...if anything, they don't want to lose good people just like you don't want to lose touch with your family.

I did ask for and receive some accomdation for family things already- I changed from 9-5 to 8:30-4:30. For me though, I have to balance working an extended day with how much time our son is in daycare and how late they are open. It would be nice to have one day a week off, but if it means having my son in school and day care 10 1/2 hours a day, I'd have to think long and hard about it. Right now I don't think the trade off is worth the extra day off. But I am a huge proponet of family friendly workplaces- it's what I did my grad studies in.

BAC- I agree it is nice to have a job to go to and take your mind off the fact that he just left. I just wrote a blog about that this weekend. When he left on sunday and we had the whole day at home, it felt a lot more like "him leaving us" as opposed to when we leave for work/school on weekdays before he leaves.

[GreenMtnGirl]

Yeah, my boyfriend finally made it here for almost a week; the first 4 days I worked/had classes + night classes. I felt so bad leaving him behind because he hadn't seen me for so long....and I hated to sit for hours in a classroom knowing he was hanging out with nothing to do, only a few minutes away. Sigh.

We found time, though... evening walks after my night classes were fun. I took solace in just knowing he was so close and taking time to savor the time we could spend together.
Sure makes me appreciate time + life + those little moments + each other...I feel lucky to have that appreciation, even if it stems from not seeing him enough!

[spotty4]

Thanks girls! Glad to know this is a common feeling.

My job is quite flexible ... though, not to be taken advantage of, either. I work a professional white collar desk job w/ flex time. I come in when I want and 8 hours later, leave. This is all w/n reason, of course (have to make meetings, appts, etc ...). Most days I do 8-4, but some days are 7-3 and some days are 9-5. On occasion I work a 4 day week to have a long weekend. The flex is g-r-e-a-t, I just don't like to leverage it too much. Perhaps when kids are around I'll request some more permanent adjustments.

Work is a great distraction while my honey is away -- it somehow makes the time go by faster. But while he's home, I wish I could ditch work altogether!!