STDs

Anonymous · 11-26-2008, 05:34 AM

If you wanted your boyfriend or husband to be checked for STDs (and he agreed to do so), would you send him to your OB/GYN, your doctor, his doctor or an independent doctor/specialist?

SeatClutcher · 11-26-2008, 06:16 AM

You've already asked him to get tested, and he agreed - why do you have to "send" him anywhere? I'd leave it up to him. He can figure out where to get tested - he's a big guy, now.

(But if it were me, and I were getting tested for an STD, I would go to my doctor if I had one so s/he could tell me where to go to get bloodwork/testing done.)

skibum515 · 11-26-2008, 07:48 AM

as far as I know, he can go to any doc because it's basically a blood draw for guys! Planned Parenthood does STD testing for pretty cheap if you want to keep it off of your insurance records

HeffsRah · 11-26-2008, 08:40 AM

I would prob go to my regular family doc and have them do the initial (whatever it is they would do) and then they could refer you to the right place

Just out of curiousity...if your SO is getting tested, shouldn't you be getting tested too?

Anonymous · 11-26-2008, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by skibum515

as far as I know, he can go to any doc because it's basically a blood draw for guys! Planned Parenthood does STD testing for pretty cheap if you want to keep it off of your insurance records

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Originally Posted by HeffsRah

Just out of curiousity...if your SO is getting tested, shouldn't you be getting tested too?

it's just a blood draw? for all STD testing?

No, i don't feel the need to get tested if he gets tested. someone outside of our relationship told me he was sleeping with her. Not that i believe her over him but if he gets tested, it's confirmation for me that there's no carrier between us in regards to any STD, or so i think, and i can put my fears to rest whether or not something occurred.

does that seem reasonable or should i get tested as well for safety sake? i KNOW i haven't been sleeping around.

spotty4 · 11-26-2008, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Anonymous

does that seem reasonable or should i get tested as well for safety sake? i KNOW i haven't been sleeping around.

Its all logical but not foolproof. If he's a carrier and you've had sex w/ him since he strayed you have been potentially exposed.

Sorry for your circumstance!

But good for you for being proactive. Man, if it were me, the STD he'd have is Shown The Door!

SeatClutcher · 11-26-2008, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by spotty4

IMan, if it were me, the STD he'd have is Shown The Door!

Nice

Kristie · 11-26-2008, 05:14 PM

man...if that were me...if it's a boyfriend, yea, totally show him the door ASAP. Even the possible implication would be enough, esp coming from another woman whether friend or foe.

But if it were a husband.... i dunno, i would think unless i had some sort of proof, i'd have to talk it out with him, get a feeling if he's telling the truth or being shifty eyed or what not...but i'm not sure that i'd take some unknown woman's accusation as truth.

Although, i too would probably still advise a check...it sure can't hurt, i suppose and peace of mind might be a good thing until things get cleared up.

my question is what did he say when you proposed the test? did he want you to get it done too?? did he say anything about "well, if you trust me...." type crap?

UKcats06 · 11-26-2008, 05:40 PM

There are STDs he can give you but not have himself (chlamydia i think, and hpv I know) so you should get tested, too!

HeffsRah · 11-26-2008, 05:42 PM

Did you confront him saying..."so and so said you slept with so and so...will you get tested to prove that you didn't?" or was it a sneaky way of finding out, like you just said "will you get tested?" out of the blue. sorry, I might be having a dumb moment, but I'm kinda confused.

I also would get tested myself if it were me just because I'm the kind of person who thinks about things like that and wants the answer immediately no matter what it is. So, like Kristie said, for peace of mind, might be a good idea. How would you know that he really went? He could just tell you that he went and that the test was negative...are you going to ask for proof? If I was that curiuos about my SO sleeping with someone else, I'd go to all lengths to find out if it was true. Maybe it would make you feel better to find out whether or not you have one as well.

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SeatClutcher Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Manchester, CT Posts: 939 Recipes: Thanks: 0 Thanked 9 Times in 9 Posts	Re: STDs You've already asked him to get tested, and he agreed - why do you have to "send" him anywhere? I'd leave it up to him. He can figure out where to get tested - he's a big guy, now. (But if it were me, and I were getting tested for an STD, I would go to my doctor if I had one so s/he could tell me where to go to get bloodwork/testing done.) __________________ Blog: Jet Careers song "Freedom of choice isn't the same thing as being pro-choice." - said by a voter at the RNC

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skibum515 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Park City Posts: 1,279 Recipes: Thanks: 2 Thanked 10 Times in 10 Posts	Re: STDs as far as I know, he can go to any doc because it's basically a blood draw for guys! Planned Parenthood does STD testing for pretty cheap if you want to keep it off of your insurance records __________________

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HeffsRah Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Philly, PA Posts: 468 Recipes: Thanks: 31 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: STDs I would prob go to my regular family doc and have them do the initial (whatever it is they would do) and then they could refer you to the right place Just out of curiousity...if your SO is getting tested, shouldn't you be getting tested too? __________________ Sarah & Jeffrey (F.O. for PDT in MDT)

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Kristie Admin/Owner Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Scottsdale, Arizona Posts: 6,727 Recipes: Thanks: 7 Thanked 18 Times in 18 Posts	Re: STDs man...if that were me...if it's a boyfriend, yea, totally show him the door ASAP. Even the possible implication would be enough, esp coming from another woman whether friend or foe. But if it were a husband.... i dunno, i would think unless i had some sort of proof, i'd have to talk it out with him, get a feeling if he's telling the truth or being shifty eyed or what not...but i'm not sure that i'd take some unknown woman's accusation as truth. Although, i too would probably still advise a check...it sure can't hurt, i suppose and peace of mind might be a good thing until things get cleared up. my question is what did he say when you proposed the test? did he want you to get it done too?? did he say anything about "well, if you trust me...." type crap? __________________ www.jetcareers.com

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UKcats06 Jetgirls Ol' School Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Erlanger, KY Posts: 697 Recipes: Thanks: 2 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts	Re: STDs There are STDs he can give you but not have himself (chlamydia i think, and hpv I know) so you should get tested, too! __________________ Emily

11-26-2008, 05:42 PM	#10 (permalink)
HeffsRah Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Philly, PA Posts: 468 Recipes: Thanks: 31 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: STDs Did you confront him saying..."so and so said you slept with so and so...will you get tested to prove that you didn't?" or was it a sneaky way of finding out, like you just said "will you get tested?" out of the blue. sorry, I might be having a dumb moment, but I'm kinda confused. I also would get tested myself if it were me just because I'm the kind of person who thinks about things like that and wants the answer immediately no matter what it is. So, like Kristie said, for peace of mind, might be a good idea. How would you know that he really went? He could just tell you that he went and that the test was negative...are you going to ask for proof? If I was that curiuos about my SO sleeping with someone else, I'd go to all lengths to find out if it was true. Maybe it would make you feel better to find out whether or not you have one as well. __________________ Sarah & Jeffrey (F.O. for PDT in MDT)

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