[Tonya]

I don't know what your financial situation is but I do know that if you have a financial plan that plans for the worst case scenario then it is much easier to "Nut Up". I know that when we were going through the company bankruptcies and the unionization of another company I said to my DH many times " No matter what happens I am there for you. Do what you have to."

However no matter how much you say it and try to mean it there are always those moments that you are scared and try to hide it from him and those moments he is scared and tries to hide it from you. There are also those moments when you want to blame each other. With these types of situations if pilots had money they could make marriage counslors rich. They do make divorce lawyers rich.(I could not even imagine those same situations with children.)

How can he stick to his guns with the company if he knows that his family can be affected if he makes the wrong decision. With a plan in place he can let his company know that yes he wants his job however he doesn't need it so badly that they can walk all over him and expect him to just take it.

Being realistic doesn't mean that you expect him to lose. Being realistic means that no matter what comes you are ready to tough it out with him and stand by him no matter what and are making the changes so that you can outlast the company if needed.

The first time we went through the BK we were lucky enough to be able to sell some of DH's extra toys to get us through. The second time I had been laid off from my company for two months and we had to refinance our mortgage in order to get us through. Now we have managed to sock away enough that if anything should happen we will be okay... (at this rate we may never be able to retire but we will be okay)

Just my two cents worth.