and ya know what?! he's completely right!
I wanted to talk budget and start thinking of ways to start trimming and/or watching our budget more closely "just in case"... and when we were talking about it, I told him that I completely support the union and the pilots and if they need me to walk next to them, I will.. I'll do whatever it takes.. but for the time being, i wanted to be "realistic" just in case and plan for the future.. and he said "will you just stop and NUT UP? your not helping by being "realistic"!"
my hubby's dictionary version of "NUT UP" means literally "get some fraking balls"...ie: sticking to your guns, staying strong, fighting the mean ol nasty fight and not giving up - not even for a second...
according to him, by me being "realistic" and trying to keep things kosher, planning for the future and doing the whole "just in case" thing, adjusting our budget should we need to etc, i'm not *one* with the pilots & union... i'm assuming (by planning ahead) that we're going to lose and the company is going to win and that, according to DH, doesn't help them win their fight.. they need everyone on their sides...mentally...
the company plays us in ways that scares the crap out of us, esp us wives and wives with children and if we let them succeed then we begin to "accept the inevitable" which hasn't yet become inevitable KWIM?!
so the last thing a pilot NEEDS to hear from his wife is "well, i'm just being REALISTIC" or "we have 7 kids to feed, we need to plan *JUST IN CASE*" because, they begin to lose all hope because WE don't believe THEY can succeed...
So, he's completely right.. I need to NUT UP, we women need to NUT UP and BELIEVE that they can do this, that they can beat the big bad corporation...
i'm not going to plan on a single thing except keeping things AS THEY ARE and i'm gonna stop being so dang realistic and just NUT UP! grow some balls and support our pilots 150%..
It's not about taking 19% and bad work rules.. it's about not EVEN taking 2% and bad work rules... we need to win this thing and if there's anything the pilots need on their side are their wives!!
whose with me here? whose going to help our husbands fight? if there's anything they need, it's us calling and/or emailing the reps if our husbands don't - making sure the reps understand that WE, as providers, are NOT happy and we expect them to work their magic, use the dues *our families* pay and win this war... if we can win this then we will make a difference for every single pilot fighting to have a decent job, decent wage, decent work rules and above all - go back to enjoying their jobs!
I'm determined... i never thought that talking about "being realistic" or planning for "just in case"'s would be harmful to our pilots perspective, to their mental stability... but man, i saw the light this weekend when hubby came out and whipped my mental ass and helped me see the psychological terror the company's using and just how effective it really is! I have to
to their skill in psychology and at the same time say "FU, i'm gonna do what it takes to keep my husband happy" because there's nothing that comes between ME and HIM.
Enuff said!
now whose with me? are you prepared to call your rep and tell them or reiterate what hubby is/needs to say?? I suggest us wives get into the mix here.. make our voices known.. there's no powerful voice than a ROAR from the wives in the family!
**I figured i'd post this in general topics instead of in the Delta Pilot Wife section, since it really relates to all the pilot wives and not just Delta's, now that we're in BK.