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Bigsweetie · 09-24-2005, 10:27 AM

I agree with Roz on the kids point. Eric and I have NO money what-so-ever and when I got pregnant (we were trying to) I asked myself if I was being "fair" to my child because I know how uncertain this industry is. Was it fair to the baby, or to us for that matter, to live like pauper's just for my own selfish need for a child?

You know what? My daughter could care less that I get her formula from WIC. She could care less that we are on foodstamps. And she could care less, that I haven't cut (or for that matter brushed LOL) my hair in months!! When I get up in the morning and she looks at me with those big blue eyes and smiles and coos I know that we did the right thing. She's here for a reason, to make our lives brighter even in the darkest of circumstances. And she's not suffering either. She's a happy, healthy, and deeply loved child - that's all she'll EVER need from us.

I grew up EXTREMELY poor. Oftentimes I didn't have anything to eat and we slept in a singlewide mobilehome with no electricity, heat, or running water. But I had a great childhood. My mom and I played together, laughed together, and even cried together. She's my best friend. And I wouldn't trade my life for anything. I grew up poor - so what! It taught me that money/possession do not equal happiness!!

Your decision to have kids or not have kids is your own and i'm not trying to pursuade you in either direction here!! I'm not one of those people that thinks that EVERY couple should have children in order to be happy. That's simply not true. You have to make the decision that is right for your family. But don't let Delta (or aviation for that matter) be the deciding vote!!

Aviation is very volitile and unpredictable - well you know what? So is life!! No one has a guarantee! I'm an interior designer and i've been layed off twice (in a matter of 6months!!). I live in Detroit and if you knew how many people get layed off all the time from the automakers - it's ridiculous! You do the best you can with the situation that you're in.

Make the choice that's right for you and Doug!!

O.K. - off my soapbox

Tanya

09-24-2005, 10:27 AM	#10 (permalink)
Bigsweetie Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: Clinton Township, Michigan Posts: 1,562 Recipes: Thanks: 8 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	Re: falling into an abyss? I agree with Roz on the kids point. Eric and I have NO money what-so-ever and when I got pregnant (we were trying to) I asked myself if I was being "fair" to my child because I know how uncertain this industry is. Was it fair to the baby, or to us for that matter, to live like pauper's just for my own selfish need for a child? You know what? My daughter could care less that I get her formula from WIC. She could care less that we are on foodstamps. And she could care less, that I haven't cut (or for that matter brushed LOL) my hair in months!! When I get up in the morning and she looks at me with those big blue eyes and smiles and coos I know that we did the right thing. She's here for a reason, to make our lives brighter even in the darkest of circumstances. And she's not suffering either. She's a happy, healthy, and deeply loved child - that's all she'll EVER need from us. I grew up EXTREMELY poor. Oftentimes I didn't have anything to eat and we slept in a singlewide mobilehome with no electricity, heat, or running water. But I had a great childhood. My mom and I played together, laughed together, and even cried together. She's my best friend. And I wouldn't trade my life for anything. I grew up poor - so what! It taught me that money/possession do not equal happiness!! Your decision to have kids or not have kids is your own and i'm not trying to pursuade you in either direction here!! I'm not one of those people that thinks that EVERY couple should have children in order to be happy. That's simply not true. You have to make the decision that is right for your family. But don't let Delta (or aviation for that matter) be the deciding vote!! Aviation is very volitile and unpredictable - well you know what? So is life!! No one has a guarantee! I'm an interior designer and i've been layed off twice (in a matter of 6months!!). I live in Detroit and if you knew how many people get layed off all the time from the automakers - it's ridiculous! You do the best you can with the situation that you're in. Make the choice that's right for you and Doug!! O.K. - off my soapbox Tanya