I don't know if they'll be offering EAP anymore...I wouldn't know how to use it even if we do have it!
doug's been just as unhappy as bill... every time he comes home from a trip he says he wants out.. he'll do anything to get out...but he's agreed that he won't leave until he can at least supplement his income.. but his aviation degree won't help with anything, so if anything.. he'd have to do something flying wise or go back to school...
but he is getting more and more negative, sometimes goes on with the negativity for hours without realizing it.. altho he did come home tonight with a bit of a fight side because he got into it with the SLC LEC lead guy (apparently, he had the guy speechless and the group around him giving him high fives!). but unlike tonight, he's usually so dependent on me pulling him out of his "downer days" that if i'm not prepared, i have a hard time doing it cuz i have to pull myself out of it then too - it's like trying to save 2 people... as it is, i have to pull myself up everyday just to go about my day cuz i deal with depression on a daily basis (after losing my mom and brother - and i don't take drugs for it, i've learned to do it on my own, so some days are especially hard)...but i can totally relate to the halo of gloom..we have it here too esp since we just don't know what to expect...it's just a matter of preparing and trying to figure out what to do without hampering life too much.
sometimes it's just so hard not to say "get over it, i hate my job too but you don't see me getting all depressed" - altho i didn't think i'd be working my entire life except maybe part time(another story.. hahaha)
but anyways, we could go talk to *people* but honestly, i think the only way to get things better is to get some change going on - so we're looking at different avenues of work for him and after that, we'll work on avenues for me because right now, he's a lot more down than i am..I've learned to deal with it, to get myself out of it better than he has...and i can deal with my job - so long as i get a paycheck!
I feel for you guys Amber! got the two little ones to put thru college and it sounds like you've already slimlined your expenses!! I've decided on no children, primarily due to the instability of this industry...i'm already 36, getting too old to keep it off for too much longer...I just don't want to bring a child in here if i can't predict the stability of our incomes and our paychecks...I'm used to doing the things i do, like traveling, having my hair done etc...I know i'm going to have to cut out a lot but i don't think i could ever be like my mom was and give *everything* to my kids (she complained so much about not having any money to even buy herself clothes) and take nothing for myself.. i'm just not like that and probably never will be. so, i give up! we'll keep with the cats and hope to be able to afford a dog someday!
granted, i feel weird talking about affording things cuz i still have a pretty good job with paycheck coming in and altho we're losing money, we're not going to be eating hot dogs and a can of food. but for some reason, i never thought i'd say this, but it still feels the same! right now, if feels like i'm going from the high life to a life of being house poor, coupons and a can of food for dinner.. how weird is that?! I never thought i'd be relating to those families that have had an incredible lifestyle only to have it ripped away!!
if/when you decide you wanna go put your shoe in Gerry's ass, let me know and I'll bring my broomstick!!
