[TheWife]

You're married, IMO you don't have "HIS" money and "HER" money, it's "BOTH of yours". How would he feel if the role was reversed? I think the two of you should sit down and make a monthly budget, and think of the long term goals you have like buying a house or saving for retirement, and short term goals like a vacation next year. In your budget, be sure to include a misc. amount for things that don't come up monthly, but are still expenses (like car registration, Dr. co-pay, holiday money, etc.) After your budget is done, look at what you have left over monthly from all your income sources. Now agree on an amount to set aside monthly for your short term goals, long term goals, an emergency fund, and an agreed on discretionary spending fund for each of you. If there is nothing left after your monthly budget for those things, then IMO your dh shouldn't be spending any money on anything until you are able to put your budget and savings needs first. In our family we both agree on what's spent out of our money, or it doesn't get spent until we can come to an agreement. (Which is RARE.)