ok, so my MIL (mother in law) is coming into town this weekend for a family reunion on her side. apparently, her cousin is holding the family reunion and we're all invited. so all of these relatives are like 2nd/3rd cousins to doug, not necessarily immediate or close family, as he's never even met any of them, they just live in the same city we do.
since doug's going to be out of town, it's going to be just me and her..i've been invited to the family reunion, but again, i dont' know a soul except for doug's mom that's going to be there.. and again, doug is black, his mom is southern black and my fear is that i'm going to be the only white chick there.. that i'll have absolutely nothing in common to talk about and i'll be like a complete outsider.:hair_rais
I get along great with his family and do notice that there are quite a few non-commonalities, like asking Daizah (doug's niece) how she gets her hair done and trying to understand how things are different between them and "me".
So the question is, do I go to this reunion with his mom? I'm ready to tell her that if she wants me to go, i'll go.. but otherwise, i'm actually quite scared that i'll be the only white m&m in the brown mix of m&m's KWIM?!
I'm thinking this could be a breakthru for me in getting to meet a large group of people that probably/possibly live a lot different than I do...people i really don't have that much in common with (thinking/getting outside the box)...but then, i'm also kindof afraid they'll scorn me for even being there, as in, i don't belong even though i'm married in...today's day and age is a lot different and technically, i don't feel as though i should feel that way.. but in another sense.. i do...
maybe it's because one of my mom's cousin's was ousted/disowned years ago about by marrying a black guy and when they came to the family reunion put on by my great grandmother, they were both "scorned" in public...that memory always comes back to haunt sometimes.
am i being too close-minded? does this even make any sense to anyone else out there? any advice? :speechles
