A very good friend of mine told me 4 years ago when DH started flying to think of this in comparison to a pie. She told me to always remember that Bill is only a "piece" of that pie,, he is to never be the "whole" pie. Thats going along with the whole "waiting around for him to come home"statement. I will be totally upfront with you,, when Bill first started flying, I cried eachtime he left and felt like I stopped living my life the whole time he was gone. That lasted a whole year for me almost. Then I realized what in the HE** am I doing? I am my own person with my own interests and hobbies. Things are sooooo much better now,,, even though he is on reserve and gone a lot more than when he wa holding a senior line. I just kind of got used to when he had to be gone. WHen people told me it got better, I didnt beleive it, cause it sucked so bad at the time, how could I possibly get thru the times that he was gone. I didnt eat, I didnt sleep and I spent a lot of time crying. It was awful. But guess what? Here I am now, 4 mnths pregant, three years into our marriage and I am soooo very proud to be married to my pilot. He is the hardest working man (not only at being a pilot) that Ive ever met. He loves his job and I love that he loves his job. Okay, he doesnt always love it,, maybe I should say he loves "flying". THere were times in the past that I wished he would get fired. I hope you hang in here with us cause I am willing to bet anything that in a couple of years, it will be YOU giving someone else this very same advice. You can do it,, we know you can. DOnt loose sight of who "you" are, your boyfriend will admire that especially after he sees those flight attendants that he flies with that arent half as pretty as you are!
