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Amanda · 05-18-2008, 05:54 PM

I'll chime in and tell you it does get better (and mean it!). Of course "better" is relative to each situation.

Nick was a flight instructor making $15k/yr when I met him in 2002. He would fly at all hours of the day 7 days a week. In 2003 he was hired at a regional, Mesa. They didn't pay him much more and his bases changed a bunch of times. He got crashpads (actually apartments) which cost him more money and we didn't see each other as much as I wanted. For the last year at Mesa he was living in VA (flying out of IAD) and I stayed in PHX. I only saw him a few days a month. In 2007 when he got hired at CAL and he got based in EWR we decided that it was time for me to move back t the East Coast and here I am. I transferred to my company's headquarters and got a promotion, and I am close to old friends and my family. Nick is making more money and his schedules are a lot better. To be honest I'm still not used to seeing him so much!

I want to comment on one thing you mentioned:
"I vacillate between thinking this is going to be ok, and freaking out because the next years of my life are going to be spent alone at home waiting for him to get back."
Be careful about 'losing yourself' and becoming needy. When I met Nick I was an outgoing, independent, free spirited person and there was a point in our relationship that I just lived for him. I stopped enjoying my hobbies, going out with friends, etc. Our relationship went to a 'bad place'. Thankfully I got a grip on things and realized that I can't live just for him and wait for his next visit or phone call. I started to be "me" again and our relationship got back on track.

Sorry this is so long!
Good luck!

05-18-2008, 05:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
Amanda Jetgirls Plus Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: PHL suburbs Posts: 2,154 Recipes: Thanks: 12 Thanked 11 Times in 11 Posts	Re: someone please tell me this gets better I'll chime in and tell you it does get better (and mean it!). Of course "better" is relative to each situation. Nick was a flight instructor making $15k/yr when I met him in 2002. He would fly at all hours of the day 7 days a week. In 2003 he was hired at a regional, Mesa. They didn't pay him much more and his bases changed a bunch of times. He got crashpads (actually apartments) which cost him more money and we didn't see each other as much as I wanted. For the last year at Mesa he was living in VA (flying out of IAD) and I stayed in PHX. I only saw him a few days a month. In 2007 when he got hired at CAL and he got based in EWR we decided that it was time for me to move back t the East Coast and here I am. I transferred to my company's headquarters and got a promotion, and I am close to old friends and my family. Nick is making more money and his schedules are a lot better. To be honest I'm still not used to seeing him so much! I want to comment on one thing you mentioned: "I vacillate between thinking this is going to be ok, and freaking out because the next years of my life are going to be spent alone at home waiting for him to get back." Be careful about 'losing yourself' and becoming needy. When I met Nick I was an outgoing, independent, free spirited person and there was a point in our relationship that I just lived for him. I stopped enjoying my hobbies, going out with friends, etc. Our relationship went to a 'bad place'. Thankfully I got a grip on things and realized that I can't live just for him and wait for his next visit or phone call. I started to be "me" again and our relationship got back on track. Sorry this is so long! Good luck! __________________ Amanda Loving wife of Nick, an Int'l FO for Continental flying the 757/767 based in EWR!