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okdk7 · 04-18-2008, 08:19 AM

I thought we had made it through the hardest part of having children, our youngest was about to start kindergarden and we were beginning to reconnect.

It started with a phone call from crew sked looking for my husband. I was under the impression that he was on a three day trip... they checked and double checked. He wasnt.

My mind kicked into high gear. Where in the hell is he?

He came home and for days I wonderered. It occured to me that he may have flown somewhere. His non rev pass word was changed.
I thought of a way to get it ... and poof. Several trips to the carribean when he told me he was working.

Cell phone calls in the garage, nursed that little phone. But wait , his phone is on the table... Yes a second phone.

Then we were finally out to dinner alone for the first time in years.
A text message, a chuckle and then he wouldnt show it to me.

Ripped cell phone in half, through it out the door.

Started checking financials... tens of thousands unaccounted for.

Hired PI , heard conversation with a female... Heard her name.
Had a second PI in the Carribean pull her records... got everything.

All along, denial, I am imagining things. I am neurotic.

Lies Lies Lies and oh, did I say lies....

After 9 months of information collecting i confronted him with her name. Poof, now he wants to leave, begins collecting belongings...
I stopped him and said ok, now we talk. He would have nothing to do with it. I tried to jump in car and lock it... a struggle ensues...
not pretty.

Anyway he moved out that night , I have been through the shock, pain/anger vascillations. I am in Therapy and on Anti depressants.

He asked that I not file for divorce. He is getting help for gambling and a regular therapist.

He has been out of the house for going on a year.

Last week he didnt call for a couple of days. Got a DWI.

Anyone been through any of this ?

This is sureal.

I am numb.

He is getting help, but i dont know it there is anything left of the man I fell in love with 21 years ago.

Thanks for listening

OKDK

04-18-2008, 08:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
okdk7 New Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: nyny Posts: 3 Recipes: Thanks: 3 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Unfortunalty, I was right... I thought we had made it through the hardest part of having children, our youngest was about to start kindergarden and we were beginning to reconnect. It started with a phone call from crew sked looking for my husband. I was under the impression that he was on a three day trip... they checked and double checked. He wasnt. My mind kicked into high gear. Where in the hell is he? He came home and for days I wonderered. It occured to me that he may have flown somewhere. His non rev pass word was changed. I thought of a way to get it ... and poof. Several trips to the carribean when he told me he was working. Cell phone calls in the garage, nursed that little phone. But wait , his phone is on the table... Yes a second phone. Then we were finally out to dinner alone for the first time in years. A text message, a chuckle and then he wouldnt show it to me. Ripped cell phone in half, through it out the door. Started checking financials... tens of thousands unaccounted for. Hired PI , heard conversation with a female... Heard her name. Had a second PI in the Carribean pull her records... got everything. All along, denial, I am imagining things. I am neurotic. Lies Lies Lies and oh, did I say lies.... After 9 months of information collecting i confronted him with her name. Poof, now he wants to leave, begins collecting belongings... I stopped him and said ok, now we talk. He would have nothing to do with it. I tried to jump in car and lock it... a struggle ensues... not pretty. Anyway he moved out that night , I have been through the shock, pain/anger vascillations. I am in Therapy and on Anti depressants. He asked that I not file for divorce. He is getting help for gambling and a regular therapist. He has been out of the house for going on a year. Last week he didnt call for a couple of days. Got a DWI. Anyone been through any of this ? This is sureal. I am numb. He is getting help, but i dont know it there is anything left of the man I fell in love with 21 years ago. Thanks for listening OKDK Last edited by okdk7; 04-18-2008 at 08:40 AM.