[Bigsweetie]

My advice is to stay in FL if that is where you want to be. You're not married to each other and turning your life upside down and moving all over the place w/o a serious committment isn't wise, IMO. Other's may disagree, but I refused to move until I had been proposed to and we were planning our wedding.

As for the whole commuting thing... that's up to him. If he doesn't want to commute, he shouldn't (although it's never been a big deal for my DH). But he shouldn't expect you to drop everything and follow his dream either... you're not his wife.

If you two ever do get married, you'll need your own life, friends, career, etc. and it sounds like you're getting those things together in FL. He'll have travel benefits to come see you, but you may or may not have travel benefits to go see him.

When my DH and I were dating we had a similar issue. He wanted to take a job wherever he could cause he was just starting out. I didn't understand why he couldn't find a job near me. Now I know that those early years are tough, but i'm glad I didn't pick up and move around to be with him. It made our relationship stronger and it got me used to not seeing him all the time. And it was nice when he made the effort to see me (and vice versa).

Does your BF NEVER want to commute? Or just not now! That might be a good discussion to have, actually. If he never wants to commute, you might want to take a harder look at this relationship. If you're o.k. with possibly moving every year or couple of years, or putting your children through moves frequently, then o.k. If not, you might want to have a discussion.