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I have been with my husband for 9 years and I remember him going to take his first demo flight when he was 17. I have been with him through all of this from the very beginning- starting at a young age- and we have had those same fights. He was hired by expressjet based in Houston and obviously spent his training time there. He came home every weekend, though. He sat reserve there as well. He didn't need to live there during reserve. He would look at flights in open time and call a day or two before his reserve date and pick up the flights. I think he had to stay in a hotel in Houston on our dime a total of 2 times. The point is, there are ways to make it work. We live in SF and are moving back down to southern california to be near family. It was fun living up here when I had him to share in the fun, but now I need to be near people I love. He understands that. He loves SF but agrees that moving close to family will be better for me. Especially when we have kids.

Commuting can be tiring and sometimes stressful on the pilot. Many of the pilots do it, though. It is worth it and works out just fine. My husband has never once had to call in a missed trip because of commuting and has always worked out just fine. Aside from the occasional crankiness, it is fine. Good luck. My advice is not to stress too much. I used to stress and we would get in terrible fights over this stuff and it all worked out just fine in the end. Good luck. It will all work out.