[Imachickadee75]

I would strongly suggest NOT moving to his base the first few years. He is going to have to go where they send him at first and often its not where you want to wind up. My DH was originally based in Palm Springs, CA and we live in OK. We spent almost a year with him commuting the day before and day after his four day trips because the commute was so long. But with a house we own, me in my Masters, the low cost of living in OK, and my support network, there was absolutely no reason to move to PSP since we had no intention of staying there. We did have to invest in a crash pad but for us it was the only way.

As a wife, I have to say, you need to be where you have support and comfort especially the first few years. Its rough at first having them gone and even minor household crisises seem to seem that much worse. Then layer on your responsibilities to your parents, and the stress that will bring. Geez, I see no reason for you to move to his base. True, you might not see much of each other that first year, and crash pads can be an additional financial burden, but its really important that you take the best care of you as possible.

Just my two cents...

Jackie