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Roxswood · 03-11-2008, 01:07 PM

Thanks everyone, its just such a change for us I think and its scaring me. We've moved around a lot even before this but have always been such a huge part of each others lives, I've never really had chance to build up a support network anywhere, my friends are scattered around the country if not the world these days and we won't end up living close to any of them when we move.

I've always been able to rely on DH, knowing that I could call him at work at any time and he would be home within an hour or two if there was a problem, our family has always come way before our jobs or careers and I've always known the places he works and at least met the people he works with, and when I was working he knew the people I worked with too.

We've always been everything to one another, not really had outside friendships that we've relied upon for anything and have lived a long way from our families (not that our families are much use anyway).
At the moment things are still so up in the air, I'm due to have a baby in 3 weeks and I still don't know where he'll be based by the time I go into labour, it could be an hours drive away which would be wonderful but he's just been told that is looking less likely all of a sudden so I'm panicking about him not making it back in time for the birth and I really don't know how I can do it without him there. My dd was a fantastic home birth, with no pain relief and I know that so much of that was down to him being there, I felt safe and he was the only person I wanted to talk to me or touch me when I was in labour. I'm petrified of having to do it without him and not having him around to support our 3 year old too. He will be able to get some time off we believe (unpaid) once the baby is here, or he could choose to schedule time off and hope the baby turns up at the right time but we don't want to risk wasting the time off before the baby is here.

My daughter was an intensely needy baby and I didn't get any time off from parenting and without help if he's not around then I'll be on my own with two of them and then when he is around I won't want to go out and do things seperately because I'll want to be with him.

I'm so sorry for rambling so long.

03-11-2008, 01:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
Roxswood Jetgirls Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: English girl in France Posts: 171 Recipes: Thanks: 4 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Re: Convince me I can do this? Thanks everyone, its just such a change for us I think and its scaring me. We've moved around a lot even before this but have always been such a huge part of each others lives, I've never really had chance to build up a support network anywhere, my friends are scattered around the country if not the world these days and we won't end up living close to any of them when we move. I've always been able to rely on DH, knowing that I could call him at work at any time and he would be home within an hour or two if there was a problem, our family has always come way before our jobs or careers and I've always known the places he works and at least met the people he works with, and when I was working he knew the people I worked with too. We've always been everything to one another, not really had outside friendships that we've relied upon for anything and have lived a long way from our families (not that our families are much use anyway). At the moment things are still so up in the air, I'm due to have a baby in 3 weeks and I still don't know where he'll be based by the time I go into labour, it could be an hours drive away which would be wonderful but he's just been told that is looking less likely all of a sudden so I'm panicking about him not making it back in time for the birth and I really don't know how I can do it without him there. My dd was a fantastic home birth, with no pain relief and I know that so much of that was down to him being there, I felt safe and he was the only person I wanted to talk to me or touch me when I was in labour. I'm petrified of having to do it without him and not having him around to support our 3 year old too. He will be able to get some time off we believe (unpaid) once the baby is here, or he could choose to schedule time off and hope the baby turns up at the right time but we don't want to risk wasting the time off before the baby is here. My daughter was an intensely needy baby and I didn't get any time off from parenting and without help if he's not around then I'll be on my own with two of them and then when he is around I won't want to go out and do things seperately because I'll want to be with him. I'm so sorry for rambling so long.