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oppita

Thank you for the email. I actually have read the book you mentioned.

Yes, he did not have guts to tell me earlier or even last time I saw him. I wish he had although I am not sure how I would have reacted face to face. Tears?? Of course, I see more of his weakness.

To his defense, in the past 4 months, I only called him in total of 5 times ever. All other times, he called me every 2-3 days for the 1st 2.5 months, then every 4-6 days 1st 3 weeks after he heard the news of moving, then every 2-3 days in the past 2 weeks. Sometimes he says I will call in two days, it's in 3 days -- I figured it is common. He heard the new job early July. Before news of moving, he asked me out 1x or 2x per week, sometimes just got in from airport and had to leave the following morning. As he said, and I know that he enjoys being with me. It is just not enough, esp. in light of moving.

I asked him early on if he is looking for long term (he said yes, and asked me about it). I told him that I won't sleep with a man unless I know we are serious. He said he is willing to wait. The day I knew the moving news was the only time we were sexually intimate. We slept in same bed several times before that without sex and once when things were almost out of hand, and I said I want to be sure we are serious if we have sex, he said we will wait...

On the other hard, you are not harsh. I should have see this coming when he did not ask me out since moving news, and never asked more deeper questions about my past. ..