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GreenMtnGirl · 08-15-2007, 10:24 PM

Hey everyone! I've been lurking around here for a while at the suggestion of my loving boyfriend, a regular over on JC. And now, considering the few tears I've shed over the past week, is perhaps a good time to take advantage of the wealth of knowledge and support I've witnessed here!

My bf was hired by Mesaba Airlines this summer--his first choice for a number of reasons, including ease of flying to see me and eventually commuting from the 2 cities where I'll be in the next few years to finish up my education. We're both 22, we've been together for two+ years, plan to get married, and we spent a lot of time together as friends during the 6 months before. (We held off "dating" for a while because...he was my fourth and last flight instructor!!!) I have my PPL and wholly support his love of flying and his career choice because I understand how flying can get in your veins and there's no turning back!
But he's been in MN for FO training since June 30 and I haven't been able to fly out there, and probably won't be able to for at least another 3 weeks and I MISS HIM! I'm looking at spending the next year in ME while he's based in Detroit, and am fully prepared to figure out the long-distance thing...but there have been a few teary days and I'm sure they are only the first of many.

I know that we will have to spend a LOT of time apart for the duration of his career and have a pretty good sense of what's required of me--a lot of patience and confidence in myself and our relationship. (His dad is a pilot--and still married! So lots of good counsel there.) I'm in nursing school on the cheap with plans for chiropractic or N.P. and LOVE what I do; we think our plans will jive really nicely in the next few years. In the meantime... I know that it will NOT be easy, especially since this is only week three!

I know a lot of you have gone through this before and might have some friendly advice or suggestions on how to stay connected and keep things fun in the coming months. We'll be able to see each other about twice a month, but def not more. :...( It's bearable now, but I guess I should prepare myself for what lies ahead. I'm trying not to worry about drifting apart, or one of us changing a lot, or losing that connection, or not being able to support his needs because they're not being communicated well via phone and email (and vice versa)...but...well, trying is the operative word there.

Anyways...I've written plenty. Hope to spend more time here and get to know you girls! Thanks for any advice...

08-15-2007, 10:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
GreenMtnGirl Jetgirls Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Portland, ME Posts: 62 Recipes: Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Any advice from you long-distance relationship gurus? Hey everyone! I've been lurking around here for a while at the suggestion of my loving boyfriend, a regular over on JC. And now, considering the few tears I've shed over the past week, is perhaps a good time to take advantage of the wealth of knowledge and support I've witnessed here! My bf was hired by Mesaba Airlines this summer--his first choice for a number of reasons, including ease of flying to see me and eventually commuting from the 2 cities where I'll be in the next few years to finish up my education. We're both 22, we've been together for two+ years, plan to get married, and we spent a lot of time together as friends during the 6 months before. (We held off "dating" for a while because...he was my fourth and last flight instructor!!!) I have my PPL and wholly support his love of flying and his career choice because I understand how flying can get in your veins and there's no turning back! But he's been in MN for FO training since June 30 and I haven't been able to fly out there, and probably won't be able to for at least another 3 weeks and I MISS HIM! I'm looking at spending the next year in ME while he's based in Detroit, and am fully prepared to figure out the long-distance thing...but there have been a few teary days and I'm sure they are only the first of many. I know that we will have to spend a LOT of time apart for the duration of his career and have a pretty good sense of what's required of me--a lot of patience and confidence in myself and our relationship. (His dad is a pilot--and still married! So lots of good counsel there.) I'm in nursing school on the cheap with plans for chiropractic or N.P. and LOVE what I do; we think our plans will jive really nicely in the next few years. In the meantime... I know that it will NOT be easy, especially since this is only week three! I know a lot of you have gone through this before and might have some friendly advice or suggestions on how to stay connected and keep things fun in the coming months. We'll be able to see each other about twice a month, but def not more. :...( It's bearable now, but I guess I should prepare myself for what lies ahead. I'm trying not to worry about drifting apart, or one of us changing a lot, or losing that connection, or not being able to support his needs because they're not being communicated well via phone and email (and vice versa)...but...well, trying is the operative word there. Anyways...I've written plenty. Hope to spend more time here and get to know you girls! Thanks for any advice...