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I don't think it's wise to force someone's hand if it's not what he wants.
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I guess that's not what i'm seeing out of the post.. it could certainly be part of the big picture as i see more than one fork in the road of confusion! haha
It seemed to me that he's trying to force settlement without marriage by supporting and trying for a kid for an entire year vs getting married AND getting a dog when she didn't want a dog. to me, it seems like it's two fold problem. she wants the marriage/commitment and she doesn't want him to leave (ie: getting pregnant) at the same time, he wants to stay with her (ie: getting pregnant and settling into "normalcy" by bringing a dog into the mix) without the commitment...that's a hard one to solve..if she really wanted to get married, she shouldn't have given in and settled for getting pg first..bringing a kid into the mix never solves the issue, it just makes it more complex, harder to solve.
I also feel like she's "following" and not "leading", so she'll do what he wants instead of compromising and/or picking the battles that she needs to fight in order to feel like she's a successful part of the relationship. being in a relationship, to me, means that there are two leaders who often have to compromise to get what they want out of the relationship.. not one leader, one follower type deal cuz that's not teamwork IMO.
but that's just my 0.02 and who knows if i even made any sense cuz i read my post and even i got confused.. hahaha
